I HATE MY LIFE!! !!

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I don't really want to be off topic, but anyone who witnesses child abuse should report it immediately to authorities. I think foster care is better than being beaten, sexual molested, or killed by one's parents regardless of the financial benefits a parent provides. And the only jobs undergraduate psychology students are qualified to do upon graduation are become management consultants at Goldman Sachs or go on to study to become real licensed psychologists.

I left an abusive home at 18. I left for college and knew absolutely nothing about the world. My "mother" barely spoke to me let alone spent anytime trying to pass on what little knowledge she had. I had not a dime to pay tuition or buy food. That's what financial aid is for and it allows you to pay bills while attending school. In addition to financial aid I always had at least one job, two most times and my last year I had three jobs all while going to school full-time. I am not a genius or super human I just knew that my life would be better and that I deserved better. I made major and minor mistakes. I have embarrassed the hell out of myself on many occasions. I have struggled. That's life. My step-brother on the other hand stayed in the comfort and financial security of my parents' house well until his early twenties. He is not doing well at all and has not really ever been financially or emotionally independent.

Zelda, you are an adult. Scary as it may be to have to move out on one's own, I think the only thing that can come out of 3 or more full grown adults (sometimes 2 or more) living together is a murder charge. It may be time to man or woman up, whatever your gender is. If your life is not in imminent danger you have time to make a plan. Make one and move on with your life.

WOW! Very well said!! ! I'm not sure what my plan is exactly we'll see how things develop if I had MY WAY AKA Perfect WORLD what I WANT I'd move in with a friend/boyfriend I meet in College. I am looking towards that outlet I do plan to do dorm life in close to 2 years perhaps get a job around then we'll see what happens. but getting out NOW would be great! LOL! Sadly my SSI money is through my mom and she gives me part of it (the rest goes to rent etc.) out of it I get $322 a month (I'm getting Aid money around beginning Oct. so I'll be set for Christmas gifts,some video games some stuff for ME for a change LOL!)so even if I lived with someone and moved out we'd have to probably jump through hoops and s**t to get it under MY name. I'm not sure how that works out.

Yes, if you WITNESS child abuse. But when you report child abuse, especially to DHS hotlines, they don't take into account the exact nature of what one witnesses as "abuse." For example, I do not have a problem with spanking my children. We've been consistent enough in our discipline we RARELY even have to go there anymore.

But someone else looking from the other side might simply report that they saw me "strike" my child without taking into account that my child knew there were consequences for bad behavior. Some of the subtle non-verbal cues that my son has picked up on from me strikes instant terror into him because he knows those cues mean he's out of order and needs to change his behavior. Someone else might see those little, quick "looks" and misinterpret it as something terribly inappropriate. My kids are healthy, happy, and MOSTLY well-behaved other than my son being a little over-dramatic and prone to tantrums. So just because someone disagrees with our discipline methods, CPS could take them away and put them in a situation in which they would NOT be healthy, happy, and provided for. In fact, when someone DID call CPS on us, they accused us of watering down formula and refusing medical treatment, all of which we could PROVE to be false beyond any doubt. I've never struck my children in anger, and never left a mark on them in discipline. Our boy is VERY active and has all the typical bumps and bruises of an active, happy child. There are some people out there whose minds are just twisted enough to make an abuse case out of that, and thankfully most people who know us and our children understand that our children are perfectly safe and even better behaved than most! People that feel the need to "intervene," usually people who don't have the best interests of the parents and children at heart, don't really understand the system. It only works if the parents are completely incapable of caring for children--drug addicts, prone to rage, radically risky behavior--and if foster homes are equipped to handle children who are disturbed, learning-disabled, and otherwise "damaged." Regardless of your opinion of one or two parents, you do NOT remove them from a home in which they are cared for, provided for, fed, clothed, sheltered, happy, and well-adjusted and subject them to the sludge of society.

I mean no offense, but you really need to educate yourself on the state of foster care. Getting beaten, sexually molested, or killed by one's parents is a horrifying possibility. But at least with your own parents there are options. Personally, I'd rather take my chances with my own parents. The alternative is getting beaten, sexually molested, or killed in the system, from which there is no escape. With parents, you at least have the chance to get an education. In foster care, the realities of "the system" are that the foster home is unable to provide a stable situation that will allow you to study and prepare for college, the "real" ticket out. So once you "age out" of foster care, assuming you make it without getting pregnant or killed, there is no support. You can't go to college without an education, and you can't get an education once you "age out." All you really have left is drug dealing, prostitution, or panhandling.

What's so funny about all this is that I used to hear stuff about this when I'd threaten to call the cops on my parents. I never did, obviously, but I always thought they were lying. So imagine my shock when someone carried out a grudge on my own family and I found out just how true those stories are.

My apologies for going off-topic.