Will people committing suicide talk to others about it?

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"I did attempt suicide when I was 15 and I did not say anything to anyone about it, I even acted like everything was going well."
"I did. He laughed and offered to get me a rope.
"I never talk about mine, I will just look like an attention seeker and a manipulator."
- People who are thinking of suicide never talk about it to anyone because they know the reaction is that the people just won't believe or just don't care. I have thought about it many times in my life but never tell anyone. Who would care, who would bother? So what can talking to anyone be of any use? Besides, being of a religion makes it even tougher - "you're not supposed to even think about it!"
I did call up Befrienders (like Samaritans in US), but seemed they only listen to my frustrations, anger, reasons to die, etc, and that's it! They are just listening, but maybe good listeners though.

Not everyone who is contemplating suicide will talk about it without prompting. However, often times, people will say things that give you clues, like:

"I just don't know how much more I can take."
"I feel like I can't/don't want to go on any more."
"I wish I could just go to sleep and never wake up again."
"I wonder what it's like to be dead."

Anything that hints that they have lost hope or that they feel they no longer have the will/strength/ability to cope with the world around them are often hints that someone is contemplating suicide, even if they never say the words, "I want to kill myself."

When I wanted to commit suicide, I did not share my feelings with others. It was not until another friend told me that they did not want to continue with life that I verbalized these feelings, and then it was only to this friend. At the time, I was much too afraid to carry my plans out because I feared I would mess up and end up in more pain that I was already. However, I do believe that if I had not had the opportunity to verbalize what I was feeling (which then led to me getting help for coping with the events that causes me to have this desire), I would have become more hopeless as time went on and eventually made an attempt.

This does not mean, however, that people who talk about it openly do not mean to do it. It simply means that these individuals have not completely lost hope that someone else might be able to intervene in their situation. Whereas those who do not talk about it openly have generally lost all hope that anyone or anything other than death can solve their problems.

Sweetleaf - "I did attempt suicide when I was 15 and I did not say anything to anyone about it, I even acted like everything was going well. Of course when my mom came to the emergeny room her first words where 'I had no idea you felt that bad''
- People are funny because if the person tells them, they usually won't believe, but if the person don't tell and later tried committing suicide but somehow survived, the parents will say "Why didn't you tell us?" Funny or not?

Well, I've always felt that people who broadcast their suicide intentions are secretly engaging in their 'desperate cry for help' trump card.

I despise people like that. To quote John Kramer, aka "Jigsaw" from the Saw movie franchise - "Did you [insert suicide method here] because you REALLY wanted to die? Or was it just some pathetic cry for attention?" Well, f**king-A right in my book!

If you're truly serious about wanting to die, and not want people to interfere, keep it to yourself, and don't broadcast your intentions like a coward.

Usagi1992

A few years ago one of my good friends did. He didn't tell anybody his true feelings, although it was over a girl. To think, one day he could have been married with a wonderful family ..

Every time I hear of suicidal people broadcasting their intent, I think about some kid on the news who decided to park her car on a railroad track, texted everyone on her contact list about how she was about to kill herself, chickened out soon after the train showed up, and lived while many of the passengers on that train died after it crashed into her car.

I think if anyone wants to kill themselves it's their business, but for the love of God think about it thoroughly and do it responsibly. Doing it in a public place is bad enough since it may potentially traumatize innocent passersby, but changing your mind at the last minute while getting all your friends and family panicked AND getting other people killed in the process? Talk about being attention-seeking, selfish, thoughtless, and idiotic.