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I think in this case both people were at fault, but it still makes me feel like a loser that someone can't stand living with me.

I don't even want friends anymore, they are too much work.

Im sorry to read this. I dont do too well with flatmates either. My ideal situation is having my own apartment... wont have to talk to flatmates or try not to argue with or offend them. ((((((hugs)))))))) I hope you have got something to eat and drink.

Seriously thinking of jumping off an overpass or something. I don't think I will last another month and a half.

Listen, you're not a loser. Sometimes people just don't get on regardless of neurology. Please don't jump.

Is there a way to move out sooner? It seems to me that if you get away from this housemate you'll probably start feeling better about life.

This housemate probably doesn't even realise that she's hurt you this badly and if she does realise it, she's not worth getting upset over.

I just can't cope with anything right now.
I don't know what to do. I really don't. Thanks for your support you've been really kind, I don't deserve it, I'm firey tempered and a b***h and a loser.

I'm so sorry

I've felt the feelings you're having right now. Life gets better, I know it does. Life is hard sometimes but it's worth staying for. Your negative self talk does not gell with someone who would say thank you.

Please talk to your family about how you're feeling, you seem to be a nice person who is hurting a lot right now please talk to your family. I know my bf helped me see the reason for living again, your family wouldn't want for you to be hurting like this without telling them at least.

I'm starting to push away the people who care about me, it's easier just to pop my clogs, I've been having suicidal thoughts all my life. I just hate everyone in my life right now upsetting me.

Until this year I was much the same. I hope you decide to give life another chance, there are many things that are good that are so hard to see when a person is feeling so bad.

Well, don't kill yourself.
Because when someone finds you, think how bad that'll be for them?
And bad feelings pass.

Can you do something that makes you happy now, to make you think happier things?

I want to say something that'd fix everything, a piece of advice or a suggestion. All I can say is that I hope you get better. I apologize that I didn't speak up earlier, I didn't know what to say.

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(Originally posted by TheWeirdPig here)

I come at this from a different perspective. I ended up moving out of the last two properties that I was the main tennant of because I essentially wanted to throw the other person out but didn't have the heart. All that because I didn't have the balls to be straight with other people when their behaviour p***ed me off and they never took my hints.

Hale Bopp, has this girl been straight with you about what's bothering her? Or has she got a new mate lined up that she wants to move in on the next contract and fancies the change? Somehow I don't think witnessing one meltdown over the course of two years is a sufficient reason to stop living with someone. There's got to be more to it and if there is I doubt it's personal.

Anyway, at least there's six weeks on your side to sort something new out. It's an opportunity for something better methinks

I've know people like that, things get slightly difficult, and they just move on with people. They think the easy solution is to sever contact at the first sign that the relationship might need a little work.

Is there a reason she gets to keep the joint tenancy hale_bopp and not you? Or do you just wanna move on? Man I feel sorry for you I do know how your feeling, its very familiar

No, there isn't. Shes lucky I didn't put up a fight.

As for the previous poster, Its probably more than that. I could go into detail but the meltdown was the main thing. I don't want to live with her, and it bothers me that shes been trash talking me to her parents, acting like im some sort of monster.

I am fiery tempered and can be loud myself. I wonder if it is a New Zealand thing, New Zealand people are not supposed to be expressive, so people who express opinions and are fiery can find themselves feeling a bit different here . I have often wanted to move to somewhere like India, or Italy, where people have passionate, loud arguments all the time.

I'm sorry things are so hard right now Hale_Bopp. If you need someone to talk to I am volunteering.

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