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Austerlust
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29 Mar 2011, 10:00 am

MXH wrote:
I know, but as infatuation states it is love without a reason that is likely not to work. I think it is best to not say it at all. Atleast this way Ill have a reason to sit on the couch crying besides routine.


Well you do as you wish, but my point not so much as to whether it is likely to work out between you or not it is as I said that you know that she knows how you feel for her.

You say it has lasted for about 3 months, you do not know yet how it will be like in the future, though here I have and another poster as well told of someone who has stayed with us in our thoughts for 9 and 7 years respectively, trust me it aint nice. If I would have told her maybe it would not have worked out at all but at least I would have known that as well in addition and I am sure that in my case it would have been easier to move on. My situation has honestly filled me with a question mark that is so big that I very much doubt it would go away even if I would get involved with someone else.

At least on my part if I met someone that comes close to her in relation to the feelings that I have then I have learnt my lesson and I will tell her somehow.



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29 Mar 2011, 2:38 pm

Austerlust wrote:
albertwesker wrote:
i've been overly infatuated by a girl that i haven't seen for 7 years, i dream about her often and think about her multiple times a day, she was the most attractive girl i ever saw in my life

she gave me every non verbal sign in the book, but i was too insecure and inexperienced to do anything about it, i can't seem to move on from not doing anyting, i also constantly wonder "why did she do this", "why did she do that", 'what was she thinking"

i sent her a message on myspace 3 years after i last saw her, she moved out of state but i was hoping to talk to each other and get some closure, she just ignored me which crushed me even more

it also gave me major paranoid thoughts, thinking that maybe she was just trying to humiliate me or use me for to stroke her ego

as flattering as her seemingly showing interest in me was, i wish it never happened because i can't stop thinking about it, and to make matters worse no girl has shown anywhere near as much interest as she showed


Sounds alot like my situation as I posted above. Good that you contacted her though, but sad that she did not reply.


yes it is an extremely sh***y feeling, and i am so embarrassed to still be so infatuated by a girl i haven't seen for so long, espcially with her silence basically saying she doesn't care if i fall off the face of the earth

i feel i haven't moved on from her because i haven't had a girl since then and no girl was as aggressive with me as she was, but still i wonder if i do get a girl, will i finally get her her out of my mind?

those incidents from 7 years ago are so fresh in my mind because i'm constantly replaying them day and night, i wish i could get a lobotomy or something to erase her from my memory, the most flattering moments of my life have turned out to be the worst thing to ever happen to me because it owns my mind every day

i'm constantly wondering why she didn't reply especially when it appeared she had 100's of myspace friends that she probably never met in her lifem how do you go from seemingly trying to hook up with somebody to not even wanting them as an e-friend?