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29 May 2011, 9:55 am

MollyTroubletail wrote:

This is my personal saying:

"I am smarter yet less effective than anyone else I know."

That is why I have given up trying to succeed at work and gone on disability. At a job I am always a dismal failure no matter how hard I try or what sort of pain I put myself through. I don't want to be a failure. That is not healthy for my heart and mind. Now, I can do what I am best at: academics. I don't need to go to college. I am smart enough that I can get books on any subject and study by myself. I don't need NT's to grade me or judge me. I don't grade and judge THEM. I go for walks in the forest with my dog, and the dog never minds how many times I trip or how clumsy I am or how often I need to stop and rest.

I refuse to judge myself by NT standards or allow them to judge me any longer. I am not one of THEM and shouldn't have to try to be. I have put my foot down and refuse to be one of them, and no one can stop me.

Also, I refuse to judge any of you. If you could come to my house you could do anything you wanted, and no one would say a word. You could hide in my closet and refuse to come out; you could have a huge meltdown; you could flap your arms and crow like a rooster; you could say anything inappropriate and no one would mind. I believe you are all huge successes who are trapped in settings that are not appropriate for your fabulous talents.

i find this inspiring, that you are taking the path that works for you. being on this site has helped me to better understand the circumstances when individuals do not work, or cannot work. i think it is marvellous to never stop learning in one way or another.

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29 May 2011, 10:13 am

wefunction wrote:

It's ironic when people use Abraham Lincoln as an example of success after failure. He won the presidency by giving fake campaign promises. He was anti-slavery. Everyone knew it. But he campaigned on the promise to leave slavery alone in the South. Then, he broke that promise when the South started secession. Abraham Lincoln succeeded after failure by doing exactly what every politician does. So, is that really the lesson? If you want to succeed, just do what everyone else does, no matter how wrong and dishonest it is?

The same can be say of T. E. Lawrence & many others regarding there behaviour as leaders. Then again is this a discussion of the ethics of leadership or the use of failure as success in the realm of change management?

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29 May 2011, 10:19 am

MollyTroubletail wrote:

Fanatics

Have you ever here of of the Fable of the Eagle and the Chicken, as I think you're enjoy that story :wink:

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30 May 2011, 2:22 am

Yeah I just did. I just got out of college knowing that everyone who ever bullied or looked down upon me had probably had five or six girlfriends before I got my first. GOD life sucks.

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30 May 2011, 2:05 pm

If anyone else have blew it?

Yeah! Absolutely!! !

Guess thats why, expierience is defined as the sum of all errors, you'we done in the past!

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30 May 2011, 8:37 pm

I've blown it big time too,
living a mediocre life when I know I could achieve so much more
as I am extremely good at doing many things and
of course fail miserably as the expected AS issues which I would give anything to be able to do like a normal person

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30 May 2011, 10:28 pm

Just because you blew it this time doesn't mean you will next time, there's alway's a tomorrow, there's always a chance to start over.

I know that sounds cheesy and clichéd, but it's true.

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31 May 2011, 5:35 pm

MooCow wrote:

Just because you blew it this time doesn't mean you will next time, there's alway's a tomorrow, there's always a chance to start over.

I know that sounds cheesy and clichéd, but it's true.

To be honest, I don't know a single person who hasn't messed up majorly in some area of life. Unless they-- god forbid, got hit by a car at the age of 5.

Can list major screw ups in each family member, from dead beat dead, to drug addicts. Tho, i'm also of the mind that people can change for the better.

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31 May 2011, 8:51 pm

yeah
but no matter how hard I try I blow it in the social arena

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01 Jun 2011, 4:32 am

Yeah, but some day in the future there will be opportunities that wouldn't have arisen had you not blown it the first time...

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01 Jun 2011, 12:56 pm

I have blown it many many many times.
To beat yourself up over it is a waste of time though, that's what I tell myself.
Fall down seven times, get up eight :wink:

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01 Jun 2011, 3:10 pm

I was just thinking today about the ways I've blown it and how I could've made choices similar to someone I know who started out as young as I did but, due to making the right choices, has had a much more even and less dramatic life. Unfortunately, I didn't meet my husband - who is the right one for me - until I was in my late twenties. If I had made the right choices at a younger age, I would have never met my husband ever because I never would have moved to Florida ever. So to have what I do have, I needed to not go to school to get the career I wanted right after high school, to marry the abusive alcoholic and leave after four years of hell with two kids, end up with a philandering idiot who I had a daughter with and then break up with him just in time to meet my husband... who I should've been with all along but couldn't have done it without all those bad decisions before me.

Not to mention that my husband used to be a hotheaded conservative republican who thought the man ran the home. He had his own bad decisions and hard knocks to go through to be a suitable mate for me! (He's a left-wing liberal registered democrat and we have an equal marriage.)

It's hard to imagine what my life would look like if I had made the right choices from the beginning. They don't seem like the right choices anymore.

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