Distressed - someone called me a 'psychopath'

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Thankyou Kotschka, I am trying to rebalance myself by focussing on things I used to do a lot of online.
It is probably he was so cruel because he was angry that I smashed up my living room almost a week ago, in reaction to something seemingly small to him... I had made the error of having alcohol and that seems to affect me badly. The main motivation for his calling me a psychopath, is my tendency to not deal well with criticism and anger, not being able to express the emotions very well verbally. I don't know if it is down to Aspergers, the tendency to react in such a way, by breaking things, maybe I have a comorbid that makes me this way, but I have never ever been called a psychopath by anyone who has known me before and a few people have known me for a decade.

Thankyou for your input guys, I do appreciate it.
I am feeling a bit better now, and shall sleep on it.

It looks like he was just being an ivalidateing butt hole to me.

No, he basically said I am a psychopath, that he doesn't get how people like me are not locked up, and then proceeded to say I was in denial, the same as a criminal denies his crimes. Lol.

Like I said... "butt hole". Unless he was being horribly sarcastic.

Yeah, you should never have a relationship with anyone who can't accept and at least try to understand who you are. I had many abusive relationships before it finally occurred to me that I didn't deserve to be treated that way and there was no reason I should put up with it. I decided I'd never continue any sort of relationship with anyone who treated me that way again, and I've never looked back. I'm much happier now. Leave this idiot behind. He obviously doesn't get you, and trust me, you don't need him.

My ex flatmate was spreading the old psychopath thing around my old work about me. Its not nice when people think of you that way.

Forget him. He's not worth it.

I agree with what others' posted. You need to dump this guy. He's up to no good. If he's treating you this way now, it could only get worse. It sounds to me like he is trying to get the upperhand in your relationship. Even if it never turns physical, it sounds like you could end up being emotionally & verbally abused. Since you've already had abusive relationships in the past, do you really want to get involved in another? I'd give him the boot sooner than later.

I've been abused since I was a kid too I know what it's like to attract abusive relationships. There are good people out there, but until you take care of yourself & get healthy, you will continue to attract bullies.

Be well,


Tomboy

I am not going to read through this thread (mainly because I've been on the drink) but Graelwyn, you are almost certainly not a psychopath. From whatever you've read here you sound like the opposite - a bit cold maybe, but who can blame you given what you've experienced through your life. He is not right; he is wrong. And take that from a fat bastard Lancashireman too.

Thanks guys, thanks Tequila, fat or from lancashire, you always come across as a decent bloke to me
I have concluded I am not a psychopath, I cannot be, as I feel pain if I know I have hurt others and am aware of it.
I can come across as cold, and people say I take everything seriously and don't smile much. His motive for calling me such was that I break things when I am upset, over things that seem trivial to him as 'words dont mean anything'. But they do. They are our main means of communicating how we think and how we feel. And just as they can be used to make people feel better, they can be used to make people feel like crap, and the fault for that generally lays with the person who spoke the words and is unwilling to respect that not everyone has had to deal with that their whole lives, or built up a resistance.