09 Jul 2011, 2:27 pm
OneStepBeyond wrote:
because you worry you'll leave a small handful of people with a lifelong bad memory
sometimes, that is all that has kept me alive. it is a valuable safeguard that says i am still connected enough to other people that i want to avoid hurting them.
i don't have anything more important to say than what other people shared, but i want to say to you that you have made me smile and laugh many times on here. i find your posts to be interesting and intelligent and funny.
when a person commits suicide, it has an effect on family and friends in a big way. the person who commits suicide isn't just removing themselves from society like taking one rock from a pile. if it were like that, then the connected people (like rocks) would just resettle a little and no real difference would be seen or felt. the community/rockpile would appear largely intact and stable.
but no - suicide is like ripping the branch off of a tree. the tree sometimes survives, but it is fundamentally changed. there is distress and pain throughout the whole organism, and it will not recover easily, if at all. sometimes dysfunction spreads, and other branches die off too.
what i'm saying is that i understand how you don't want to make people feel sad, but i also want you to know that you are really important to people and that you have intrinsic value.
09 Jul 2011, 3:05 pm
09 Jul 2011, 3:15 pm
hyperlexian wrote:
OneStepBeyond wrote:
because you worry you'll leave a small handful of people with a lifelong bad memory
sometimes, that is all that has kept me alive. it is a valuable safeguard that says i am still connected enough to other people that i want to avoid hurting them.
i don't have anything more important to say than what other people shared, but i want to say to you that you have made me smile and laugh many times on here. i find your posts to be interesting and intelligent and funny.
when a person commits suicide, it has an effect on family and friends in a big way. the person who commits suicide isn't just removing themselves from society like taking one rock from a pile. if it were like that, then the connected people (like rocks) would just resettle a little and no real difference would be seen or felt. the community/rockpile would appear largely intact and stable.
but no - suicide is like ripping the branch off of a tree. the tree sometimes survives, but it is fundamentally changed. there is distress and pain throughout the whole organism, and it will not recover easily, if at all. sometimes dysfunction spreads, and other branches die off too.
what i'm saying is that i understand how you don't want to make people feel sad, but i also want you to know that you are really important to people and that you have intrinsic value.
you've always been so nice and made me feel abit better about myself, and are another very wise woman so i value your response also.
i feel a bit lame not having much to discuss on the issue, but i just want people to know that i'm not ignoring what they say
i also want to just make it clear to people that this thread wasnt saying i'm going to commit suicide, incase that gets misunderstood
09 Jul 2011, 3:41 pm
09 Jul 2011, 4:04 pm
09 Jul 2011, 11:48 pm
Sorry for how you feel - hope things start looking up for you. 
