chrissyrun wrote:
Jonsi wrote:
I have news for ya kid. You're dead wrong if you think people won't notice. I'm pretty sure many aspies have gone through the "If I just learn to act like them, I'll be totally seen as normal!" phase and have realized that there's an awful lot more to it than that.
But good luck with life anyway. You seem to think you have it all figured out. At thirteen. I'll try not to burst the bubble of your delusion.
While I disagree that you can't learn social skills.
Never said you couldn't.
aspie56 wrote:
Jonsi wrote:
I have news for ya kid. You're dead wrong if you think people won't notice. I'm pretty sure many aspies have gone through the "If I just learn to act like them, I'll be totally seen as normal!" phase and have realized that there's an awful lot more to it than that.
But good luck with life anyway. You seem to think you have it all figured out. At thirteen. I'll try not to burst the bubble of your delusion.
Dude every aspie is different. Course it willnot be easy, but u just gave up. And I'm not giving up like most aspies here.
I never gave up. I learned all the cues and whatnot. People simply could tell that I was autistic regardless. Here's some advice, don't pretend to be what you're not. You're not NT, so don't act like it. Embrace your autism. Work around the difficulties and hone your skills. People will know you're not the same as everyone else no matter what you do.
I don't expect you to be swayed though, given that you're 13 and likely have the stubbornness that so plagues kids these days. Goodluck though.
I agree. There really isn't anything one can do to totally be seen as NT. We're not. One can learn to fake eye contact, things like that, but life has gotten easier since I stopped trying to present myself as totally NT. I still fake eye contact so as not to squick people too much (it's also become sort of second nature when I'm in a job-like situation) but I try not to worry too much anymore about the differences that I used to worry about. Some might call that giving up but I call it stress reduction.