Aspie and not gifted

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I'm not sure if this helps any (and I could be talking nonsense as per usual), but....

I consider myself to be reasonably smart compared to most people I come across.

My "thing" was getting websites to appear high up in the search engines - I got several sites up to positions 1 to 3, and they remained there for many years (I moved onto other things and others took over) - this included search terms that are in the "top 10 most popular search terms" - i.e. top listings for the most popular terms, in a competitive arena. I created the sites from scratch too - hence it's not like a big brand where you would have expected the websites to have appeared high anyway.

The company I worked for grew rapidly, employing several hundred extra employees to handle the business (mainly young females around my age).

I still had no friends and no girlfriends, and struggled with all social things. Being really good at something (that happens to be an "in demand" skill) can help pay the bills making things easier on that front, but for me its not helped any other way. In fact I've probably been too focused on the stuff that I was doing to give other things a go ("tunnel vision" or whatever the term for it is). I found myself in a board room meeting (!) one day and someone mentioned a girl had just gotten pregnant and was getting married. It suddenly hit me that I had a crush on this person, and had absolutely no idea I had had a crush. I was too busy going about in my robotic aspie mode. I took a risk and left, to try to become more self aware or something (I'll let you know when it starts working out!)

My siblings are all NTs and are all very bright - they are really really good at the social thing - and very good at intelligent/logical things too.

My theory is that AS moves whatever resources your brain would normally have had and rebalances it, moving some of the stuff that should go into the social side into the logical side instead - i.e. no real net gain: daft perhaps but that's my theory and I'm sticking to it!

I think the challenge is just getting through to the people who you would normally want to hang around / be with if you hadn't had AS (regardless of IQ stuff) - that's the difficult part regardless! I don't focus on what web applications I can build (except when I'm doing it for fun) - most of my time just now I'm trying to figure out how to get along with certain people in my current work. After a year I've now given up on this last bit (and in the process oddly started speaking to others in work) but I'm meeting up with fellow (assuming I'm a genuine aspie) aspies tommorrow morning for the first ever time. I don't think this type of activity requires high IQ, but rather bravery!!

Well I wouldn't consider smart compared to the general population, let's put it that way.

That is how I have been quoting. The words show up but not the white box.

[I've always felt NTs were cleverer than me]

I know they are. just trying the quote through copy/paste. But how do you live with watching them and other Aspies do things so easily?

Realize AS is expressed differently with each us. Many are not gifted. I, myself, have learning disabilities and AS.

I try to "find" my own strengths and play off them.

The secret of intelligence of the autistic is not like a fast digital computer but rather like an artificial neural network.

Yes, that is how I wanted it to appear. I don't know why I can't get it to show up in the white box.

Now if only I were better at dealing with the frustration that comes with not learning as fast as some.

Uhura, I empathize with you on this .
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