Worst Humiliation Ever, Life might be ruined?

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Get up there and say "Who's the joke now!" and crowd-surf.

Okay, actually what you should do is ask one of your English teachers to help you write a speech then practice it.

Okay guys I am back from the "presentation" and it went really well.

I started by apologizing to everyone who was impacted by the incident. Then I explained why I finally snapped. I went through basically every story and every time I was a target of bullying. I understand not to take things seriously most of the time, but most of these incidents I spoke of were serious bouts of bullying and abuse. I explained how the day just started by trying to muster up enough courage to ask a girl to the senior ball. I talked about how the constant bullying from middle school on made me into a kid that keeps to himself and has no confidence or self-esteem. I didn't mention names but I made the point to say how cruel the girl was by just laughing at me. I would of taken a polite no and left it at that. I talked about how I was really hurt by the majority of the class verbally attacking me in unison and then obviously when I got tripped.

I then personally apologized to the kid I hurt. I mentioned how I was taken to a bad place as that trip was the end of the rope, and all of the pain, frustration, and anger that I have felt and usually kept inside of me came out and I lashed out. I mentioned how I couldn't sleep because I thought I might of seriously impacted the rest of his life.

This is where I began to get choked up a little. I basically then stated how I regretted the way that I stopped the bullying, but made it a point that it had to be stopped because it really hurts and as you saw with me, it turned me from a friendly person into a complete monster. I just mentioned how serious it was and how bullying has lead to horrible tragedies like Columbine.

I then closed by stating the Golden Rule: "Do unto others as you would do unto yourself." I then just stated how I am just a normal kid like everyone else. Sure I'm a little odd, but I have the same feelings, emotions, etc... as everyone else.

My final quote was this:

Wow, you've just inspired me for the rest of my day.

^^ Well personally, I think you were a bit too apologetic but I don't blame ya since you wanted to do it from the heart.

Just look at it this way: what you did was a merely one-time thing. The way those kids treated you, however, that's probably a constant nature for them and they'll be lucky if they can ever get that out of their system when they go out into the real world.

Glad the speech went okay.

I loved the speech. It was honest. Not many people have the courage to be honest.

Honestly, I understand why you cracked the s**t out of the kid. I hope that the involved parties reflect upon themselve. Actually, I know they will and at first they'll fight to deal with it and eventually and hopefully they'll learn humanity from it. The teachers and monitors and principle as well will deal with it.

I hope that your life is not determine by your history or by your bullies. I hope you are not a permanent shy person because you learned that way in school. I hope that you are not limited by what you feel you can't do because you learned not to do it in highschool.

I really have to commend you for the courage you had to say the things you did in your speech. The people who did these horrible things to you will have to live the rest of their lives knowing now how much it hurt you and caused you to lash out. I can't see why those responsible weren't also called on to publicly apologize for their behavior towards you, though.

It's a good thing you have relatives in law enforcement to back you up. If the guy you beat up decides to file assault charges against you, I doubt it would go very far due to the fact that he repeatedly provoked you by bullying, shoving and tripping you.

Why schools continue to allow bullying like this to go on, even with video surveillance and police presence is beyond me, especially considering how many events like Columbine have resulted from it.

On a side note, I kind of doubt that farting in class years ago had much to do with the bullying you've been dealing with recently, as most kids would have found that really funny, like a class clown. Teachers publicly humiliating you for it, however, was completely out of line and unprofessional.

Just hang in there 'til June, then you'll hopefully never have to go into that place ever again.

It's awful to hear that you're having such a hard time in high school. When people see there is a "inferior person" amongh them (because of idiotic views and standards), the insecure people will attack and harass the "weakling". I guess they do it to climb up the social ladder or hide their insecurity. So my advice is, try to be indifferent to them. Even if they really hurt you.

Let's take the award by the teachers as an example. Although I think it's a funny joke, I know it is very dangerous to crack such a joke on a student when his or her peers are around. But your reaction to it, is even far more devastating I think. When people see you can't take the joke or feel insulted, they will see you as a victim, a target, someone unpopular... you get the picture. It's not your fault, I believe they're wrong and superficial, but that's the way how it works. As hard as it is, I think it's the best in such situation, to just smile. Even if you don't mean it. And if you think about it - it's just a joke. What do you care about other people's opinions? Is it a disaster when people laugh at you? It's not. Every single person in this world will be publicly humiliated in his or her life at some point.

Only when you show weakness (weakness in their eyes) they will continue the harassment. And when such a situation is created, even nice people who could be your friends don't dare to get involved with you, since they're afraid they will get harassed too. That's why I think Sam doesn't even think about going with you somewhere. Not necessarily because she truly believes you're inferior, but she could be afraid that hanging around with you will make her a target as well!

So be strong man! Good luck!

im glad the speech thing went ok for you though i wouldnt have said sorry(it was totally on their heads) and i probably wouldnt have had the guts to say perosonal things and talk about feelings or talk in front of people like you did so you have some steel in your veins. i cant believe that such things happened or that your teachers could be that apathetic towards you. i mean i have seen this same thing on a small scale but never like that. i hope that this has changed a few minds. if i were you i would be concerned that this would mean that the offenders would be ticked off but hopefully the more extreme ones are rendered impotent by the rest of the school not wanting to kick your head in after that speech, peer pressure in other words, or by the fact that your outburst was kick arse. seriously, respect man. "who's the joke now!" totally awesome. i hope your studies go well by the way, whether or not you decide to stick it out to the finish.

Wow, I need to bookmark this page for all those times when I need inspiration. Nice job, and I'm glad the situation seemed to end reasonably well.

BTW, I think it was awesome that you smashed that kid's head. I'm a totally non-violent person, but he really had it coming to him. That you would go up on stage and sincerely apologize for it, though, shows a real strength of character that few possess.

But damn, I'm sorry for all you had to go through. I hope life treats you better in the future.

Are you back in school now? How's it been?

I'm so sorry you had to endure all these years of constant bullying and harassment. And you have been very brave to get so personal and to tell them everything. I do hope that things get better for you in college. They did for me, a few years ago...

I was never subjected to bullying of this intensity while in high school, but it was a tough time. I don't know what is it about us that makes NT teens go so out of their heads as to be able to bully and treat us badly... We're just keeping to ourselves and don't bother anyone. Of course, they also bully gays and transgender kids or any other minorities, if they happen to come across them. My faith and trust in humankind was shattered after highschool. I had to go through years of therapy and meet some wonderful lovely people that could be trusted, to heal all the pain and mistrust...

I just wonder how dare they pick on an autistic kid, when clearly it's them who lack theory of mind and empathy. It doesn't take an NT genius to figure out that, by intentionally bullying someone, you are inflicting pain on them. If they actually are unable to put themselves in the shoes of their victim, then I'm sorry to say that NT empathy is way overrated...

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Just make sure you don't end up jackin' it in San Diego.

It's only a few weeks left so hang in there. You might have very well changed that school for the better from what it sounds. Talk about leaving an impact.