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08 May 2012, 10:13 am

So anyway, I applied for the thread's re-opening and it was granted (thanks, BTW).

So, for those of you who feel like I do, what time of day do these feelings become most intense?

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08 May 2012, 10:21 am

I'd say when it occurs to me... Can be whenever the demon takes hold.

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08 May 2012, 12:21 pm

Tequila wrote:

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I feel kinda empty when I spend time on WP.

A lot of us are on the outside here. Even those of us that might be "in" don't really feel it so much. We are eternal outsiders trying to console eachother

Totally agree with this bud..

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08 May 2012, 12:46 pm

I think it's an odd thing, becoming part of an online community. It feels like interaction but at arm's length. And the interaction takes the written form, so your words are there for anyone to see, long after you posted them. You can't readily make throw-away comments in case they get misconstrued, so you start to watch what you say (at least I do, and I'm sure I'm not alone).

And if you post a comment and no-one replies, it can seem like a slap in the face. That compounds the sense of loneliness for me, and makes me feel like a failure. I try to be realistic about it, but it does hit me hard for some reason. Guess I don't like feeling rejected! And it reflects my desperate need to be liked, which I guess is actually pretty pathetic, especially at my age.

Sorry, I've ranted on. But I feel better now I've got that off my chest!

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08 May 2012, 1:03 pm

I know what you mean lundygirl. Actually, scrap mean, I know how you feel.
Sometimes you have to think that you can try harder next time. Also it's okay to make mistakes once in a while. =]

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08 May 2012, 6:44 pm

HisDivineMajesty wrote:

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That's kind of a sh***y way to respond to someone who's obviously upset. I'd expect a response that caliber on 4chan or Something Awful. Such a master of comedy.

Can't be 4chan, else it would involve things unimaginably gruesome or insane. What I do agree with, though, is that it's not the best way to respond to something like that.

As for the original post, I agree with the general sentiment. Often, I feel a bit bad when posting here. Must have something to do with the times I'm posting, though. Usually, it's early in the morning, in the late afternoon or evening, or the middle of the night. Times when my general mood is bad to begin with, and I spend too much time reflecting on what's going wrong in my life. What helps for me, though, is merciless and continuous distraction in any way I can, allowing myself only a few minutes a day to check up on some threads I've been following and allowing myself about fifteen minutes for every few hours to argue.

Very true, I just met that the general theme there is: stop bitching about this and man up. I always assumed this place was suppose to be more sympathetic etc

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08 May 2012, 8:51 pm

ZX_SpectrumDisorder wrote:

I'm VERY unimpressed.

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08 May 2012, 9:26 pm

Tequila wrote:

I think it's more to do with the fact that, as it's virtual it has both its positives and negatives. We have the relative safety, security and anonymity of being physically detached from one another but, by that same token, it also means that (in most cases) we don't have people to physically console us when we're down, or friends to go out for a drink with or see a film with, or - dare I say it? - people to share intimacy, love and tenderness (not necessarily sex!) with. So, while it can provide a companionship, it ultimately leaves me feeling somewhat empty. It's as though that you are all there but at the same time aren't there.

As I have probably mentioned before, I'm more than up to meeting people here and do this already from time to time.

I feel the same way. Though there's a few people I enjoy talking to and care about on here... it seems most of the time I'm reading and posting out of boredom rather than an urge for companionship. That or I'm actually lonely while falsely thinking I'm just bored. Due to the AS nature most stuff on here is serious and topic oriented. It might make me seem more NT or something, but sometimes I wish I had more people to just joke around with or BS like I had back in college. Sometimes I get tired of discussing and just want companionship. Thinking too much gets depressing after a while.

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08 May 2012, 10:51 pm

I sometimes feel like I'm writing in a public journal. Other times, I feel like I'm reaching out to people or trying to take part in conversations in the way that I know how.

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08 May 2012, 11:13 pm

Tequila wrote:

Yes, today for instance.
Kind of in need of a virtual hug, but I don't like hugs unless I ask for them.
When I first came to WP I hoped if there were other people that felt like this, then we might reduce it by at least a little bit.
Kind of like it'd be nice to be able to put on dark glasses and go for a walk.

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08 May 2012, 11:41 pm

slave wrote:

I'm VERY unimpressed.

I'm very impressed by your phony age.

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09 May 2012, 3:31 am

wrong planet saved my life. and if the occasional poster is intemperate, i consider the source. i have no real complaints. i'm not sure WP's creator has a full appreciation of the good that he has done with what he has wraught.

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09 May 2012, 3:38 am

auntblabby wrote:

I think he has some appreciation and I believe they had the thought of being able to help those with AS connect with each other to help them through their times.

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09 May 2012, 6:09 am

Tequila wrote:

...makes you feel even more lonely in real life, even as you type away at the screen? As though you're trying to find a substitute for genuine social interaction online and it leaves you feeling unfulfilled and rather sad? As though these are just useless, pointless words on a computer screen?

I feel like this often. I mean, I'm approaching my mid-twenties and I have no social life to speak of. The social life I could have would be both expensive and unhealthy (for more reasons than one that I won't go into here) and it all just feels rather pointless. I put my photos on Flickr in some hope of recognition, the need to feel wanted I suppose, yet this is never really fulfilled.

This is my first pint by the way.

(sighs)

Absolutely, in a word.

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09 May 2012, 6:34 am

mntn13 wrote:

*hug*
I have a pair of sunglasses... does that help?

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09 May 2012, 7:29 am

To be honest, Tequila, I think the Haven is the very last place I'd come to, if I was feeling extra depressed. I tend to only come here with my moderating hat on and seldom ever post in this section, as an ordinary member (this post excluded). I get depressed like most others on here, but talking about it just makes it worse for me. I try to focus on the good stuff, especially if I'm typing a post (even if it's only a little thing). These past few weeks, wandering around WP has not been good for me at all. As well as the same stuff coming up over and over, which I've nothing to add to, there are things I need to get on with IRL and I'm neglecting my hobbies. My hobbies make me happy, so that's just plain daft. I've made a decision not to come on the internet at all, when there are others in the house, which is helping my home life.

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