Bullied by a doctor yesterday :(

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Thanks fresco!

Dear oh dear, I went to the doctors tonight don't know why I bothered, I have a dodgy growth on my nose decided to get it checked. The doctor was very arrogant as usual, said it was fine then squinted at the computer.
"while you are here...."
"mmmm this referall to the aspergers clinic"...
I could not believe it, I just said I was here with regard to my mole then just got me bag and left!! !!

What did the doc say about the AS referral fresco?

After seeing a psychiatrist for depression, the experience was so bad, I don't trust any of them anymore. He was one of those who was more concerned with the bonuses from the drug companies than how his paitents are really doing, or even if they have a certain condition. The typical visit was only about 10 minutes at the most, basically long enough for him to write a prescription for an upped dosage or a refill.

I never should have mentioned that bipolar disorder runs in my dad's side of the family, he gave me Zyprexa which made me too sleepy to function as a college student. I called him a week later and said that the side effect was too bad for me to handle, and he didn't mind that much.

He just inquired if the clinic was NHS, and asked why he should send my records to the clinic. I just pointed out it was NHS and they needed past records to get a background of my case and then made a quick exit before he could delve any further. He's not the doc I saw for the referral, but is the main practice doctor, old fashioned and very curt! I won't frequent the local GP surgery again unless I have an acute medical problem!

Since the moment I felt I could lay off the social schemas with pretending to be socially skilled my therapeut has actually noticed a very subtile change of manners in me, since I no longer pretend to be socially skilled amongst people that know me. I simply don't give a darn. This actually when frankly telling my new employer straight facts. gave me a job. My VP has Asperger but iis diagnosed, so when I smacked the brick down, he just looked at me and told me I'm the one he wants for employment.

It's darn hard though, to accept that you may have a behavioral disorder, but it's a haven to know what it may depend on!

I've given my ex a half house. The most important thingie in my evaluations of the "project" was a stable ground for my kids, I simply couldn't care less about monetary values than the value of three kids growing up in a stable environment. But that's my single eyed focus on things. My kids are everything for me. But they grunt when I visit the house, because they know they have to clean and tidy up their portions of the house. <grin>

Edit: Forgot: I've not a diagnosed AS, I'm under examination.

Seeing a shrink has put a very bad taste in my mouth. I used to see this woman, Dr. L, nine years ago. Every time I've told her about an issue that I was dealing with, she's laugh in my face and belittle me. She also told me that I could do things, within my ability. She put her hand, very close to the ground, to demonstrate to me, how little ability she thonght I had. The last time I was dealing with the b***h, about a year later, she kept on asking me why I wanted to go to London and what was so magical about that city. I've told her that I was in my twenties, and nothing is magical to someone, over the age of ten, unless they're Mentally Challenged. That bag also told me that I wanted to blend in, with people my age. I was 24 at the time, and I will never forget that. I don't want to blend in, with anybody. I want to express myself, in a way that makes sense to me, no matter what phase I'm going through. (My current period, is my Red Period, by the way). I've stopped seeing that monster, when I was 26. She asked me what I've thought about not going to the Mental Health Centre, anymore, and I've told her that I liked the idea. So, here I am, six years later, mourning the demise of the Routemaster on my own, because I refuse to go back into my local Mental Health system, because the only shrink that I've had didn't take me seriously, and I have a stubborn goal, to make it through, until January 1st, 2007 without talking to a counslor of any type.

I know what you mean! I'm going through a very intense Green Phase at the moment!

I'm fairly lucky about the last therapist I had. She was my mum's therapist during and after her separation with Shithea- I mean, my dad. I saw her once during my worst stage of my necrophobia (which I still have, BTW), and she at least listened. Tony Attwood opened my eyes quite well when I saw him a couple of times, while the therapist I saw prior to him was nice, but drew out my fear of death (which was then, only half-formed) continually, presumably she was trying to get to the root of the problem.

Doctors are people.

When I deal with people, and they decide to call me names or hurt me with their meager "insults", I insult them back.

It's not like I lie.

They don't neccessarily discriminate against the label itself, they discriminate against the "symptoms" (which I'd rather just call characteristics, because reffering to them as symptoms implies that there's something wrong with me because I'm AS, and there is not a damned thing wrong with me).

Quite simply, if you're uncomfortable with a therapist/psych, you're under no obligation (unless there's some weird condition on your insurance) to continue seeing them. Doing so can often do more harm than good as evidenced by some of the responses in this thread.
Think of it as a service-industry, by way of analogy. Say your ISP fails to provide reasonable service. What do you do? You find a new ISP.
Same with a shrink. If you don't feel you're getting your moneys' worth, shop elsewhere. They are, after all, providing a service.

I went to one phycologist who purposly intemaded me. Such as sitting super close to me. I almost kicked her. I wanted to too just to see how she would react. She thought I did have Asperger's, but ODD. She even wanted me to fill out a checklist on A.D.D. from the 80's which my horse riding instructor (who was a more expirenced school phycologist) said it was outdated. I never went back.

My broher's going to graudate med school this summer. So I guess he will be one of the few doctors out there with true knowledge of AS.