nessa238 wrote:
'Why do the stupidest people on this planet think they are superior to me?!
Because in their eyes someone not cunning, sly, calculating and manipulative is stupider than them. They don't think much of themselves and are used to people treating them from above, so if you respect them and treat them as an equal, you must be stupid, they figure. This kind of guy is encountered a lot when one is out there looking for a life partner.
The best way to get over the impulse to curse is to become aware that there are MORE hurtful ways to get your message across. Eg: you could've feigned you weren't bothered at all, then next time he did show up, just not open the door and the upteenth time he texted, answered him "I'm sick." and disappear forever. That way he can't get angry at you but only at himself for being so stupid he got had. Not being able to get angry at you hurts 100 times more than being cursed.
Yes I think I did have an inkling that what I see as being a straight forward, non-game-playing person was invariably seen as being weak and simple-minded/naive by the average NT. It's as if if you aren't being nasty like them you must by default be stupid as how are you likely to survive with the 'dumb' strategy of being nice?! When in reality it's 100 times harder to be nice in the face of nastiness than join the nasty club - it takes real strength of character! Strength I sometimes don't have - I'm only human after all.
21 Aug 2012, 11:02 am
