BlueMax wrote:
It's tough though... I mean, we're talking about someone who took my kids. I'll say it again so it sinks in... she took my kids! It's very hard not to be upset at her for doing this, whatever her reasons may be.
I know.
But you have to realise - a woman who was truly emotionally mature would not try to take a mans kids away from him (unless he was abusive in some way - which I think it's safe to say you're not). The fact that the court system is facilitating her decision is incredibly unfair, but in the end, if you have done everything you can do, then you have to let that go too.
The fact that is about something like this, this big, something that means this much to you, means you're going to have to find a lot more strength because of it.
Look at it this way - if you can do it with this, then most other things in life are going to look downright easy in comparison.
It's because it's an about something that is so much a part of your life and is so close to your heart, that you're going to need to become very strong and gain a lot of emotional maturity in order to do this. But the strength that you gain through this process will later on turn into self belief and confidence in yourself. And it's something that you can teach your kids by example later - two skills they are going to need to learn in order to be successful in life.
I wasn't trying to imply that it would be easy or quick - it will be neither.
It's going to be an on-going process for a long time but it's one that you need to be aware of and put some conscious effort into.
But at the end of the day - you can let your ego win and be right by holding on to the bitterness - or you can choose to be happy by letting go of it.
19 Sep 2012, 12:59 am
