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auntblabby
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02 Jan 2013, 3:19 pm

especially if they bring fleas along.



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02 Jan 2013, 8:55 pm

Know the feeling Alone for the first time in my life not liking it at all, too quiet even running the power tools



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02 Jan 2013, 11:27 pm

Vintagegirl wrote:
Do you like pets? You are never alone when you have a pet.


Yes! One day I hope to own a pet.



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03 Jan 2013, 2:32 pm

Magnus_Rex wrote:
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I like being alone. But I do not like being lonely.

This.

I only feel lonely when I am bored, though. In theory, if I had something to do and I never got bored with it, I could live as a hermit and I would not feel lonely at all.

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(...) I don't know why but my special interests don't last long so when I'm at home I get really bored. Is that unusual?

I have the same problem. Apparently, it is a sign of depression. Not an unusual thing, sadly.


I wonder if a hobby can really replace human companionship. I used to have hobbies and interests. But when I became very lonely, I felt like I did not have any energy.



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03 Jan 2013, 4:19 pm

Luska wrote:
I wonder if a hobby can really replace human companionship. I used to have hobbies and interests. But when I became very lonely, I felt like I did not have any energy.

It has worked for me in the past. As a child, I spent most of the time without friends, but I was content in spend the whole day reading encyclopaedias, watching cartoons, drawing and writing. Unfortunately, those things lost their appeal once I reached 15 years.

Nowadays, sometimes I find something very interesting to do (like playing The Legend of Zelda: Skyward Sword or planning my own budget) and I forget about everything else: I do not feel lonely or bored at all. But my interests never last more than a week.

One thing I found in common between hobbies and human companionship, though: they both get boring after some time. Regardless of how much I want to have companionship, I really need to spend some time alone to feel better. And when I am doing something I like, I eventually need to stop, too. The only constant is my tedium.


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04 Jan 2013, 12:35 am

deltafunction wrote:
Even for a few hours. I get bored and lose my motivation.

Except of course being aspie and having few close friends I don't just call someone up to hang out. I try to plan as much as possible in advance but in between those days where I have plans I just watch TV and do nothing. Argh... What to do. Why is this :wall:


I have this feeling too. I actually think I have developed a pathological fear of being alone over the past few years. It drives me to distraction and so I never get anything useful done when I'm alone. I see everyone around me spending all this time together and I just want the same thing. Not much to ask out of life is it? :/



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04 Jan 2013, 1:47 am

Luska wrote:
I wonder if a hobby can really replace human companionship. I used to have hobbies and interests. But when I became very lonely, I felt like I did not have any energy.


That is exactly what happened when I lived alone before. Had no energy. It was horrible...



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04 Jan 2013, 1:51 am

i can vouch for "better living through chemistry." the drugs kept my head above water long enough for me to learn to swim.