Facebook. Yay or nay?

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I have a facebook account.
I'm nor pro-facebook nor anti-facebook, I simply don't care. I have a fb just because I must keep in contact for school things, but I'm not really into it.

For me this discussion is interesting because I'm one of the last people around who don't have it; it's becoming so rare that if people introduce me to somebody they even mention this like "this is T. , he doesn't have facebook"

But after years of resistance I'm actually considering getting it. I got the feeling I'm missing out on so much (events), people might forget I exist, I moved recently so I miss my friends, & I suspect it's hindering me socially now I'm single again.

But I'm very afraid of this comparison-envy effect. I'm doing quite well right now besides being single, but I've always been vulnerable to feeling inferior & comparing to others. Either facebook will open a pandora's box of comparison & social pressure; or it will help me. Just tired of being of the radar :-/


Does it give you a social edge & bring you closer with old friends, or is it just adding people & a brief 'ow it's you' when adding & then just anonymous staring at each other without ever talking?

What I dislike about Facebook is that it seems to have become a place where people always brag about their live. How wonderful their friends are, how much money they have, what wonderful places they go to holiday. Etc...

At times it makes me depressed, even though I often don't have an interest in doing what they are bragging about in their status updates. Don't know... Guess I guess am lonely or something.

But yeah, I do enjoy reading about what other people are doing sometimes, it just gets too much bragging and useless info sometimes.

2 of my 4 friends live outside of my area so its the easy/only way to keep some contact, thats the only reason I joined. I post maybe twice a month, nothing personal and have 21 friends as of now, all but 2 are aquintances or relitives.

What really creeps me out is the huge numbers of people I don't even know trying to friend me, why do they want to get into my life? Maybe thats normal in the NT world but in mine I feel scared and violated.

A coworker once asked if I was on Facebook. I said no and they said, "Why? Facebook is awesome. You get to meet old friends you knew in high school again," and went on and on about that. They didn't know that I didn't really know people in high school. Who would want to know what I'm doing now? There are plenty of people I've known who I either don't want to hear about again, am afraid of how great they are doing compared to me, or would likely be mean to me.

I don't think you need 1,000 friends listed as square boxes on your computer screen to be happy. I'm glad to hear a few others aren't addicted to Facebook.

I hate Facebook. I'm always afraid that when I log in, someone else will see that I'm logged in and start chatting with me. This has happened several times. I only log in because others say I need to in order to remain social.

Hate it, wish it was a building so that I could bomb it. Too many people use it for vain reasons and it encourages shallow relationships. Also, the advertising is annoying and the user preferences are difficult to figure out.

Most of it is childish nonsense anyway. The only exceptions are some good organizations.

Also, I like to view and comment on stuff from non-profits and other groups on facebook.

I used to be all for it because that was one of the few ways I could connect with my friends, but now it's not as much fun as it used to be. Everyone keeps posting about how fun their lives are, and my life sucks so it makes me feel even worse. Yet I keep going on Facebook every day, hoping I can chat with some of my best friends or relatives, but they never seem to be online.

I don't have any friends that aren't friends in real life, even if I don't see them often. I find the few social interactions I get are often all I need to get through the day (along with a few real-world interactions with these same people, arranged via FB no less!)

Great way to organize a beer & wings night with the small gang!

I mostly use it for entertainment (games and memes ), but I chat with my sister quite often on it anymore. It's kind of cool, because I think she actually gets how much I hate telephone conversations. I'm in a couple private groups too.

I've had Facebook since almost the beginning, but I never really used it until I moved back to my hometown just over a year ago. I got reacquainted with two old friends, and they introduced me to new people in their circle, so I entered by default. Most of them are very involved in the music scene, which grew up here after I left in 2000, and is really the only thing to do in this area. So I use it to keep aware of band shows and to message my friend at work, but I quit bothering to post anything that was important to me, because very few people here have any appreciation for literature, museums, art or politics. Did I mention I really have very little in common with most of these people? Yea...