What is asexual?

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I've never thought of that especially since it would be impossible for me to impose my fetish on someone else. If I'm sexually aroused by the fantasy that I have an unfamiliar body of a different species how can I project that onto someone else? I'm not attracted to animals so the person pretending to be one wouldn't do anything for me. It's similar to a transformation fetish which is another one that would be difficult to make use of with another person.

I find this site really helpful when trying to explain/ understand asexuality better:

AVEN

Same here. I particularly don't want to see a penis or bodily fluids. I think I'm hetero-erotic though as the things that turn me on I associate with being feminine even if it's not any kind of proper sex.

Thinking about things like extreme hugging, wrestling, and squeezing in substitute for sex turn me on pretty good if I'm in the right mood. The thought of a freakish woman much bigger and stronger than me putting me in constrictive submission holds turns me on. Not with hard male-looking muscles though, a normal soft/feminine looking body but just super freakishly strong, like a boa constrictor.

Seconding the AVEN recommendation, it's the place to go for information on Asexuality.

Generally though, asexual people have no desire for sex. They can still be aroused, and can have sex if they so choose, but there is no 'compulsion' which seems to drive a lot of other (sexual) people.

There's also a difference between romantic and aromantic, both with asexuals and sexuals. Romantics want the intimacy and relationship, which can also include sex - even asexuals might become attracted to an individual that they have romantic feelings for, even though they don't usually feel sexual attraction - and aromantic people are ones that have no interest in the romantic side of relationships, although they might still desire and enjoy sex as an activity, simply without the emotional attachments. (Tyri0n, it sounds as though this fits you best.)

Personally, I'm an aromantic asexual. I do not want a relationship with anyone, romantic or sexual. I can't even comprehend what it must be like to feel desire in that way, which confuses other people incredibly. ("You just haven't met the right person yet!" is a phrase I am sick of, haha)

I think asexual is just being apathetic about sex. Not caring either way. iF sex happens, YAY, if it doesnt happen, equally YAY. Maybe its an age thing, because I am sure I am probably way, way older than the najority of people here. When I was in my twenties, my life revolved around sex, but I was unable to have a relationship so it was always trading something for sex to fulfill a physical need.