why don't I do it
09 Mar 2014, 8:39 pm
delaSHANE wrote:
I am aware that my perceptions and the character traits that attract me to a man are not typical of the female gender, and I will say that I have been questioned by some of my female counterparts, as to the nature of my choices/what draws me to a man. I have been without love in my life for quite some time, due to the fact that the type of men who approach me, or I encounter, do not possess what I desire. I would guess, however, they would be considered by others to be attractive, but those particular women don't have the same taste in men, as my own. I never have men who I would consider attractive, approach me. I,too, wish to have someone fun and kind and interesting and loving, and who has some, or even one of the same special interests as my own, if possible. I don't have a desire to spend my life with what might be considered by other woman to be a nice face. You see, perhaps you are not approaching the right women. Please take that statement as an idea to contemplate, as opposed to an accusation, because I don't know how you have been going about meeting, or approaching women. There are probably other women on the planet, besides myself, who do not care about the superficial aspects, but rather the type of character traits/person he is, the things that will contribute to the making of a beautiful relationship. Forgive me for going on. I get caught up in the moment and neglect to stop. Much love to both of you...
Edit: To cathylynn, I love to read your story! I had first come across it, in another thread. I am very happy for you and your husband! I was once married, briefly, and I am, now, ready to find love, again. I too, am 52 years old. Who knows... life is full of surprises...
Edit: To cathylynn, I love to read your story! I had first come across it, in another thread. I am very happy for you and your husband! I was once married, briefly, and I am, now, ready to find love, again. I too, am 52 years old. Who knows... life is full of surprises...
sorry you've been without love in your life. I think every woman deserves to be loved and worshiped.
I go after women who meet my interests. or women who seem playful. I tend to try the bigger gals, cause, I'm not good enough for the skiny ones. though most bigger gals are really what I'd consider average/normal.
why would I need to forgive you? you've done nothing wrong.
hugs.
09 Mar 2014, 9:47 pm
khaoz wrote:
delaSHANE wrote:
I am aware that my perceptions and the character traits that attract me to a man are not typical of the female gender, and I will say that I have been questioned by some of my female counterparts, as to the nature of my choices/what draws me to a man. I have been without love in my life for quite some time, due to the fact that the type of men who approach me, or I encounter, do not possess what I desire. I would guess, however, they would be considered by others to be attractive, but those particular women don't have the same taste in men, as my own. I never have men who I would consider attractive, approach me. I,too, wish to have someone fun and kind and interesting and loving, and who has some, or even one of the same special interests as my own, if possible. I don't have a desire to spend my life with what might be considered by other woman to be a nice face. You see, perhaps you are not approaching the right women. Please take that statement as an idea to contemplate, as opposed to an accusation, because I don't know how you have been going about meeting, or approaching women. There are probably other women on the planet, besides myself, who do not care about the superficial aspects, but rather the type of character traits/person he is, the things that will contribute to the making of a beautiful relationship. Forgive me for going on. I get caught up in the moment and neglect to stop. Much love to both of you...
Edit: To cathylynn, I love to read your story! I had first come across it, in another thread. I am very happy for you and your husband! I was once married, briefly, and I am, now, ready to find love, again. I too, am 52 years old. Who knows... life is full of surprises...
Edit: To cathylynn, I love to read your story! I had first come across it, in another thread. I am very happy for you and your husband! I was once married, briefly, and I am, now, ready to find love, again. I too, am 52 years old. Who knows... life is full of surprises...
Its complicated. Very difficult to approach a woman when I can barely speak. Almost every relationship I have had with a woman in my life has been the result of me being the one approached to begin with and all but one of them ended with me being used, humiliated and emotionally destroyed because I am more emotionally oriented than I am physically oriented. I am more searching for an emotional relationship and am very needy on that level. Women are not typically attracted to "clingy" men. Emotional men are viewed as "weak" and easily taken advantage of. I am very used to being the "friend" but I don't think I have ever experienced the emotional love of a woman. Women seem to develop the emotional attachment after the sexual. Affection without the need for sex chases women away. Women need to feel desired. I can understand that. I cannot offer that to a woman, so rather than put a woman through that hell I have to suffer my own hell.
Thank you for providing the opportunity to express that to someone.
khaoz, You are welcome. Thank you for expressing what you have. Perhaps we could speak further about what you have shared. I would like to, if you would, as well.
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09 Mar 2014, 10:15 pm
sly279 wrote:
delaSHANE wrote:
I am aware that my perceptions and the character traits that attract me to a man are not typical of the female gender, and I will say that I have been questioned by some of my female counterparts, as to the nature of my choices/what draws me to a man. I have been without love in my life for quite some time, due to the fact that the type of men who approach me, or I encounter, do not possess what I desire. I would guess, however, they would be considered by others to be attractive, but those particular women don't have the same taste in men, as my own. I never have men who I would consider attractive, approach me. I,too, wish to have someone fun and kind and interesting and loving, and who has some, or even one of the same special interests as my own, if possible. I don't have a desire to spend my life with what might be considered by other woman to be a nice face. You see, perhaps you are not approaching the right women. Please take that statement as an idea to contemplate, as opposed to an accusation, because I don't know how you have been going about meeting, or approaching women. There are probably other women on the planet, besides myself, who do not care about the superficial aspects, but rather the type of character traits/person he is, the things that will contribute to the making of a beautiful relationship. Forgive me for going on. I get caught up in the moment and neglect to stop. Much love to both of you...
Edit: To cathylynn, I love to read your story! I had first come across it, in another thread. I am very happy for you and your husband! I was once married, briefly, and I am, now, ready to find love, again. I too, am 52 years old. Who knows... life is full of surprises...
Edit: To cathylynn, I love to read your story! I had first come across it, in another thread. I am very happy for you and your husband! I was once married, briefly, and I am, now, ready to find love, again. I too, am 52 years old. Who knows... life is full of surprises...
sorry you've been without love in your life. I think every woman deserves to be loved and worshiped.
I go after women who meet my interests. or women who seem playful. I tend to try the bigger gals, cause, I'm not good enough for the skiny ones. though most bigger gals are really what I'd consider average/normal.
why would I need to forgive you? you've done nothing wrong.
hugs.
Thank you for your kindness, sly. I haven't been entirely "without love". I have in fact, had a taste of what it feels like, to give and receive love. It has been quite a while, however, since the experience... In regard to your comment, above, I wish to tell you that the size of a woman does not determine her value, and, in turn, I would urge you to try not to see things in those terms. I also wish to tell you, that you are most worthy of all that is good. Therefore, don't sell yourself short, by telling yourself your are "not good enough". I encourage you to take an inventory of, and focus on all of the wonderful qualities/traits you "do" possess. Once you begin to do this, you will inevitably develop some self-love, self-worth and in turn, courage to perhaps manifest love in your life with someone you truly desire. I wish you all the best in your endeavors, sly279 !
10 Mar 2014, 12:45 am
delaSHANE wrote:
khaoz wrote:
delaSHANE wrote:
I am aware that my perceptions and the character traits that attract me to a man are not typical of the female gender, and I will say that I have been questioned by some of my female counterparts, as to the nature of my choices/what draws me to a man. I have been without love in my life for quite some time, due to the fact that the type of men who approach me, or I encounter, do not possess what I desire. I would guess, however, they would be considered by others to be attractive, but those particular women don't have the same taste in men, as my own. I never have men who I would consider attractive, approach me. I,too, wish to have someone fun and kind and interesting and loving, and who has some, or even one of the same special interests as my own, if possible. I don't have a desire to spend my life with what might be considered by other woman to be a nice face. You see, perhaps you are not approaching the right women. Please take that statement as an idea to contemplate, as opposed to an accusation, because I don't know how you have been going about meeting, or approaching women. There are probably other women on the planet, besides myself, who do not care about the superficial aspects, but rather the type of character traits/person he is, the things that will contribute to the making of a beautiful relationship. Forgive me for going on. I get caught up in the moment and neglect to stop. Much love to both of you...
Edit: To cathylynn, I love to read your story! I had first come across it, in another thread. I am very happy for you and your husband! I was once married, briefly, and I am, now, ready to find love, again. I too, am 52 years old. Who knows... life is full of surprises...
Edit: To cathylynn, I love to read your story! I had first come across it, in another thread. I am very happy for you and your husband! I was once married, briefly, and I am, now, ready to find love, again. I too, am 52 years old. Who knows... life is full of surprises...
Its complicated. Very difficult to approach a woman when I can barely speak. Almost every relationship I have had with a woman in my life has been the result of me being the one approached to begin with and all but one of them ended with me being used, humiliated and emotionally destroyed because I am more emotionally oriented than I am physically oriented. I am more searching for an emotional relationship and am very needy on that level. Women are not typically attracted to "clingy" men. Emotional men are viewed as "weak" and easily taken advantage of. I am very used to being the "friend" but I don't think I have ever experienced the emotional love of a woman. Women seem to develop the emotional attachment after the sexual. Affection without the need for sex chases women away. Women need to feel desired. I can understand that. I cannot offer that to a woman, so rather than put a woman through that hell I have to suffer my own hell.
Thank you for providing the opportunity to express that to someone.
khaoz, You are welcome. Thank you for expressing what you have. Perhaps we could speak further about what you have shared. I would like to, if you would, as well.
Thank you delaSHANE, for your kindness, but direct communication is difficult for me. I have to obsess over my every word. I am incapable of real time conversation with anyone. Even with family members my communication is awkward. I mostly communicate with family members via internet messages, and I could walk to my moms home in 30 seconds, but can barely stand even that direct contact. Virtually all of my communication with humanity is done through this keyboard and associated connections. I wish I was capable of the experience of conversation but it is beyond my comprehension. That is the best I can do as an explanation. Thank you for reaching out. You touched my heart.
10 Mar 2014, 3:21 am
I'm sorry, khaos. I used the word "speak", although, I had meant that, perhaps we could 'write', further. I am sorry for communicating that poorly.
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10 Mar 2014, 5:45 am
delaSHANE wrote:
sly279 wrote:
delaSHANE wrote:
I am aware that my perceptions and the character traits that attract me to a man are not typical of the female gender, and I will say that I have been questioned by some of my female counterparts, as to the nature of my choices/what draws me to a man. I have been without love in my life for quite some time, due to the fact that the type of men who approach me, or I encounter, do not possess what I desire. I would guess, however, they would be considered by others to be attractive, but those particular women don't have the same taste in men, as my own. I never have men who I would consider attractive, approach me. I,too, wish to have someone fun and kind and interesting and loving, and who has some, or even one of the same special interests as my own, if possible. I don't have a desire to spend my life with what might be considered by other woman to be a nice face. You see, perhaps you are not approaching the right women. Please take that statement as an idea to contemplate, as opposed to an accusation, because I don't know how you have been going about meeting, or approaching women. There are probably other women on the planet, besides myself, who do not care about the superficial aspects, but rather the type of character traits/person he is, the things that will contribute to the making of a beautiful relationship. Forgive me for going on. I get caught up in the moment and neglect to stop. Much love to both of you...
Edit: To cathylynn, I love to read your story! I had first come across it, in another thread. I am very happy for you and your husband! I was once married, briefly, and I am, now, ready to find love, again. I too, am 52 years old. Who knows... life is full of surprises...
Edit: To cathylynn, I love to read your story! I had first come across it, in another thread. I am very happy for you and your husband! I was once married, briefly, and I am, now, ready to find love, again. I too, am 52 years old. Who knows... life is full of surprises...
sorry you've been without love in your life. I think every woman deserves to be loved and worshiped.
I go after women who meet my interests. or women who seem playful. I tend to try the bigger gals, cause, I'm not good enough for the skiny ones. though most bigger gals are really what I'd consider average/normal.
why would I need to forgive you? you've done nothing wrong.
hugs.
Thank you for your kindness, sly. I haven't been entirely "without love". I have in fact, had a taste of what it feels like, to give and receive love. It has been quite a while, however, since the experience... In regard to your comment, above, I wish to tell you that the size of a woman does not determine her value, and, in turn, I would urge you to try not to see things in those terms. I also wish to tell you, that you are most worthy of all that is good. Therefore, don't sell yourself short, by telling yourself your are "not good enough". I encourage you to take an inventory of, and focus on all of the wonderful qualities/traits you "do" possess. Once you begin to do this, you will inevitably develop some self-love, self-worth and in turn, courage to perhaps manifest love in your life with someone you truly desire. I wish you all the best in your endeavors, sly279 !
you're welcome... :S
Well I don't mean to say that a skinny lady is more valuable then a bigger lady, it really depends on their mind and personality . However a skinny lady likely perceives her self to be of more value, therefore she sees her self better then a few extra pounds not hot in the face guy. I initially went after women I found pretty and had good personality, though they quickly rewarded me with explanations that I'm not attractive or good enough for them. This data is what I use to formulate that i'm not good enough for 90% of women. my great personality and other things doesn't matter if I don't have a six pack and great looking face.
as for inventor . I'm caring, compassionate, romantic, semi ambitious( i went to did stuff, it just happens now that i failed I don't know where to go), I crave to pleasure and please a woman. I have my own interest. I like to share emotions and cuddle. I'm funny. I make women laugh and I am able to woo them :$
women don't see that stuff though, they see my ugly face , non athletic body and lack of a good paying job. they basically judge a book by its cover.
I had self love , well more of it before I started chasing after women. I had that one lady I love and maybe it was all a lie, but it made me feel better then what I'm really worth. Which tricked me into chasing the women who I'm not good enough for.
though I'm not good enough for a lot of bigger women either, they also want the athletic , hot guy with a great job.
I try not to be mean and so don't take this wrong, I must look tat them and wonder how they expect to get those guys, when they have such demands, it would seem like that type of guy would want a thin, athletic hot girl, not the lady with extra pounds or BBW.
But I guess they dreaming even if its unrealistic and leaves them lonely.
I just grow tired of meeting those women's perfect guy list aside for looks and job. to think I could make them 90% happy but they'd rather hold out for the slim chance at 100% happy. mean while I'm quite easy to make 100% happy.
I prefer the none super skinny girls anyways.
so I guess I've just learned to accept my place in the dating pyramid unfortunately there's just no women at the bottom. Which is quite sad, Cause I really didn't think I was so terrible, though all the rejection makes me feel like a terrible monster and question the things I listed above and weather I should keep being them if they are bad.
11 Mar 2014, 5:50 pm
delaSHANE wrote:
"A man is but the product of his thoughts - what he thinks, he becomes."
-Mahatma Gandhi
-Mahatma Gandhi
but if i think I;m great and fantastic, but all the women think I'm lame and bad. what good does that do?
when it comes to dating what the women think of guys matters far more then what a guy thinks of himself.
11 Mar 2014, 6:02 pm
sly279 wrote:
delaSHANE wrote:
"A man is but the product of his thoughts - what he thinks, he becomes."
-Mahatma Gandhi
-Mahatma Gandhi
but if i think I;m great and fantastic, but all the women think I'm lame and bad. what good does that do?
when it comes to dating what the women think of guys matters far more then what a guy thinks of himself.
Why are you letting "all the women" think for you? When ever I see this it sounds like all women are sewn together into some homogeneous Frankenbeast.
