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Siamese
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12 Aug 2014, 4:28 pm

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12 Aug 2014, 5:18 pm

We just don't want you to become a misanthrope for the wrong reasons, that's all.

It makes no sense, and it sabotages your future.



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12 Aug 2014, 5:41 pm

I'm not going to pretend that I understand what racism feels like, because frankly I don't, so I can't tell you how to feel about that. I also can't tell you how to feel about ableism and ostracism because that's uniquely YOUR experience.

However, I strongly advise that you don't burn any bridges with people. It's fine to want solitude and it's fine to not associate with people, but by being intentionally mean to people, you are turning into those people that hurt you. Believe me, I know the price of that callousness on both ends.

You can be asocial without being antisocial. You can defend yourself without being a bully. You can build your own self esteem and resilience without tearing other people down.

Your plan is self sabotage. Seriously, don't do it.



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12 Aug 2014, 7:06 pm

You know what I think?

Maybe the OP just wanted to vent.

I've been known to get similarly angry--especially when I was younger.

Up until 1997, at the age of 36, I had no way to vent on the internet; all I could do is vent by punching walls, pillows, etc,, or writing a story or a poem (thereby channeling the anger in a positive direction). I could also vent by taking a walk and kick some rocks or some aluminum cans. Or I could play baseball with a stick and some rocks.

Now that we got the internet and the forums, he could vent all he wants in anonymity.

Maybe this will result in a catharsis, whereby he realizes that it is not worth it to just become a non-caring person. He'll realize that if he pursues what he "intended" to pursue, that he will sabotage himself and his future.

The guy should go out, take a walk, maybe kick an aluminum can or two, then come back home and watch a little TV.



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13 Aug 2014, 4:10 pm

Siamese wrote:
Sweetleaf wrote:
No you will just turn into an as*hole, with a lot of guilt about it deep down inside that you try to hide from people via acting like an even bigger as*hole.

Is that how you want to end up?


If I end up that way, at least I won't care. Therefore it wouldnt matter


It wouldn't matter to you at best....though from the sound of your OP you'd likely have mental turmoil if you start deliberitly trying to be mean, since it doesn't really sound like you want to be mean to anyone but are just sick of other people being jerks to you and what not. Just don't think it would turn out as great as you are thinking.

Also though I don't think the world really needs more a**holes who don't care, not to mention I imagine some of your bad experiences with people involve those....and so you want to become one? But hey to each their own, in the end its really up to you, just saying trying to be mean is very unlikely to solve any of your problems and would be more likely to make them worse or cause more.


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19 Aug 2014, 1:31 pm

People can be mean, and I'm no exception. But you seem like a good person and I think you would be upset if you were mean all the time. I hope you stay true to yourself and keep treating people well.



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19 Aug 2014, 7:02 pm

Yeah...you seem cool.

Don't let the schmucks get to you!



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20 Aug 2014, 7:36 am

Siamese wrote:
Here are a few of my posts and that's why
http://www.wrongplanet.net/postp6036061 ... t=#6036061
http://www.wrongplanet.net/postp6006072 ... t=#6006072
http://www.wrongplanet.net/postp6000213 ... t=#6000213
http://www.wrongplanet.net/postp6000193 ... t=#6000193

I'm not going to pick fights or argue with people and stuff. I am just going to start being mean.

What I'm going to do to everyone except my parents and counselor:

-Ignore them when they knock on my door
-Ignore homless people and not give them money when they ask
-Step in front of people who step in front of me in line
-Not say hi to people who say hi to me, especially random strangers
-When people talk about subjects like race, politics, religion that frustrates me, I'll tell them "I don't care keep it to yourself" and not give them an explanation
-Not open the door for physically disabled people or anyone
-Not say please and thank you
-If someone gets hit by a car or is drunk and lying in the middle of the street or sidewalk or whatever, I am just going to walk right pass them
-If someone passes out from a heat stroke, I am just going to act like they aren't there
-There's more but I cant think of any right now

And for now on I'm not talking to anyone, I'm just keeping to myself.

If I start doing these things, will I eventually stop caring and get over what others have done to me? It's kind of like OCD, if I change my habits and let the guilt and anxiety peak, will I just stop feeling guilty about doing these things?

you forgot to mention pouring hot oil on soldiers who try and breach your castle walls


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