Dealing with Poverty and its implications

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No, I wouldn't do that he's my soulmate and he loves me. I am lucky to have him and he accepts all my aspie issues, unlike my ex. I will be going back there anyhow to go to school and supports that decision, I will come back to visit him, that is our agreement. He knows I did massage and was okay with that too, anything else I will not disclose to him obviously. You would be surprised how many seemingly strong men, like to be treated like subs, most of which are neurotypical, it's a fetish thing and they pay good money for it.

My wife happens to be a Afro-Caribbean woman from Trinidad. I'm a Caucasian from New York City.

What part of Jamaica do you reside? Have you ever been to Cockpit Country?

There is a video on autism, made in Jamaica, which is progressive in nature. You could see it on YouTube.

By and large, however, among rank-and-file Jamaicans (and Trinidadians), Asperger's and Autism are relatively unknown. People who have aspie-type meltdowns tend to be thought of as weird, or as excuse-makers.

kraftiekortie - In my case, my husband is Afro-Caribbean, Jamaican, and I am Caucasian and Canadian. We live in Montego Bay, yes we have driven through Cockpit Country too, when we went to Kingston. I will check out that video, sounds interesting. I agree, there does seem to be little awareness of autism here in general, another reason I am glad I basically shut myself away from this society, they tend to be very harsh and unsympathetic towards people in general and wouldn't understand the way I am. I find that in general people lack understanding of many illnesses, disorders, and health-related issues in this country, compared to people in first world nations.

You might look into whether your husband could join you in Canada. Since you're married he might be able to get a spousal visa. He probably doesn't want to leave his homeland, but he would have an easier time in Canada than you would in Jamaica. I understand that there is a large Afro-Caribe expat community in Canada. He might even find a market for his shoes.

Actually, we met in Canada but he got deported and can't go back there until he gets his criminal record pardoned, he has to wait another year before they will even process the application, but we do plan on him coming back there to join me eventually. He hates Jamaica and its poverty too, but is stuck here for now. You are right, there is a large Caribbean community, especially in Toronto, and he is considering looking into places where he can sell his sandals for extra money. He actually had a easier time getting work in Canada then I did, factory, construction, etc. and he didn't even finish grade school....here I am with a BA in psychology working in massage parlours....but I get he has an advantage since he doesn't have a disability like I do that renders lots of jobs as poor matches for me.

I'm on disability only, but my parents have helped me out by buying me a house. I don't pay any rent and my main expenses are food, transportation and utilities.

I've tried to hold jobs in many different fields, with education in that field, and I was still being bullied everywhere and couldn't hold down any of the jobs.

If my parents hadn't got me a place to live, I might be living in my car... which they also bought for me.

I wish you luck in your future endeavors.

Maybe, once you get back to Canada, you could work in the civil service somewhere. At least take a civil service test, and put yourself on a civil service list.

I've been working for NYC for the past 34 years. I am fortunate that my bosses leave me alone, and trust me to do the work (which I do, every day).

You have a Bachelor's. Especially if you know how to type, you could obtain a data-entry type position where you wouldn't have to deal with customer-service types of aggravations.

I've been living in poverty my whole life. I would like to say that it has given me as many positives as negatives, however the only real benefit I've come away with is a real sense of humility and a practicality with things (seeing something on the side of the road and checking to see if it's still good, looks good to me, I'll take it don't care what it looks like so much).

I have simply stopped wanting a 50" LED TV, new computer, work for my car, etc. I do use what money I make and save up for these items, when I suppose if I was a true poverty-stricken person I would not have any luxuries like the computer I use to post this message.

I have food, shelter, electricity, internet, clothes, a car and a cat, so I'm certainly not left wanting for any needs and have a few simple luxuries like my car and my cat which greatly improve my quality of life.

I think if we have to deal with being poor, the only aspect that makes it difficult is how other people view your poverty, rather than how it really affects you.

I have afew disabilities & my only income is Social Security Disability which is $850 a month. I was stuck living with my parents before I moved in with my girlfriend. She's on SSI because of depression, anxiety & some pain issues related to one leg being shorter than the other that wasn't known till a year ago. She has a Section 8 housing vulture & food-stamps which is how she was able to move out of her parents a couple years before we moved in together. We got lucky because we thought Section 8 would only approve a one bedroom place unless she needed two because she needed a caretaker & she has major problems living alone due to her emotional issues so her counselor signed off that she needed one sense we both kind of need a two bedroom for alone time. My income isn't factored in to how much rent her Section 8 pays & we told food-stamps that we each pay for our own groceries(we each pay for half for groceries we both use & for things mostly one of us uses that person pays full so it's mostly true in a sense) & because of that my income isn't factored in with how much she gets in food-stamps. She gets fuel assistance too for the heating & my income isn't counted with that either sense I'm her caretaker. We got pretty lucky with me being classified as her caretaker instead of a member of her household. Sense I'm not paying rent or utilities I pay when we both eat out, some things around the house we both use, vitamins/supplements she takes, my cell phone bill, the net/cable bill, & I spend a bit of money on vitamins/supplements for me & medicine I take; I do have Medicare & Medicaid but they don't cover everything I take. I loan her money sometimes & I pay for my personal stuff.

I'm a white guy living in a mostly jamaican/caribbean neighborhood in the USA. I see some men around here single out white women on the autism spectrum and with other learning disabilities to date/marry and do other things with.

They give those women a lot of attention and talking and coddling but also take their money and take advantage of them through psychological/emotional abuse them.

I honestly hope this is not the type of situation you are in. If you are, I strongly suggest you get out asap!! it's never too late to leave abusive people! Hang in there my aspie sister

Poverty can be awesome if you are living with the right person, and being rich can be horrible if you are living with the wrong person