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L_Holmes
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20 Dec 2014, 8:27 pm

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If you know what hospital she is in just call the hospital and you can have the nurse let you speak to her over the phone. You can also send her flowers or a letter. You can upload a youtube message to her talking to her with privacy settings so only you and her can see it ...and the nurse can probably play it for her on a laptop or on the nurse's phone or what not.

Not talking to her at all or communicating with her is worse than being silent (From her perspective).

Does she have AS? Do you know why she tried to do this?


I don't know if she does, but I don't think so. I am pretty sure the only other one in the family who probably has it besides me is my little brother, he is 10. He isn't diagnosed, but it is pretty obvious to me now that I know the traits. My sister is pretty introverted but other than that I've never noticed anything. My mom actually said out of all of us she was the most normal kid. A lot of my other siblings had sensory issues and showed random AS traits, none of them would have qualified for a diagnosis to my knowledge though.

But she has her phone now, so I can text or talk to her. Now I just don't know what to say :|


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20 Dec 2014, 9:09 pm

L_Holmes wrote:
Dantac wrote:
If you know what hospital she is in just call the hospital and you can have the nurse let you speak to her over the phone. You can also send her flowers or a letter. You can upload a youtube message to her talking to her with privacy settings so only you and her can see it ...and the nurse can probably play it for her on a laptop or on the nurse's phone or what not.

Not talking to her at all or communicating with her is worse than being silent (From her perspective).

Does she have AS? Do you know why she tried to do this?


I don't know if she does, but I don't think so. I am pretty sure the only other one in the family who probably has it besides me is my little brother, he is 10. He isn't diagnosed, but it is pretty obvious to me now that I know the traits. My sister is pretty introverted but other than that I've never noticed anything. My mom actually said out of all of us she was the most normal kid. A lot of my other siblings had sensory issues and showed random AS traits, none of them would have qualified for a diagnosis to my knowledge though.

But she has her phone now, so I can text or talk to her. Now I just don't know what to say :|


Just call...
Ask her how she is doing and let it continue from there. There isn't much point to trying to think of what to say. What is most important is that the call happens in a timely manner in this case I think.


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23 Dec 2014, 8:47 am

alexithymia is common in autism. The inability not just to explain your emotions and understand what's causing them, but even now knowing how you feel yourself.

you didnt know she was going to try to take her own life just because she said she loves and misses you. this isnt necessary a sign a person is going to kill him/herself, just being sentimental and not like her, but not necessary a sign of suicide plans. could be any number of other reasons. and you were driving so couldnt respond. it's not your fault.

so sorry about your sister and hope she'll be fine. i also dont know how i feel. when i had to go to the dentist i was sure i was calm, didnt feel any fear at all whatsoever, and then i realized my hands were shaking and my heart was racing, and my stomach hurt like crazy. i felt horrible.


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25 Dec 2014, 4:29 am

You don't really have to say anything. You can just send pictures, or drawings, or letters, or songs, or whatever else crosses your mind that you'd think would be nice or enjoyable. As for the emotions or lack of there of, it's probably a defense mechanism or you're used to feeling negative stuff that it is just somewhat normal at this point.


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