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If your so called " best friend " would do that he isn't a real friend in any way.

Ok. They both apologised later on skype because in the morning they barely said anything at all. And ironically, the last thing the girl said to me was "f**k off".

Should I never contact either of them ever again?

The girl sounds like a complete waste of space the guy I am not as sure about there seems to have been some positive interaction previously. I am sorry they were so awful to you
I would advise not contacting the girl under any circumstances the guy I am not so sure

I would like to think so. Or maybe it was very convenient to be friends with me. There's a few things that make me believe this:
This guy doesn't have a car. Whenever we would go somewhere outside the city, I would always drive. Only once he gave me gas money. He didn't ask me to drive him (he didn't have to), but he didn't suggest taking a train or driving my car either. I was a permanent designated driver, drinking pepsi and coke instead of beer and wine.
Just a few weeks ago, we went to a Christmas market to buy some hand made gifts. He said he forgot to bring any cash so I bought him a gift and paid for his beer. On our way back, he stopped at an ATM to take some money out for the evening, but he didn't even offer to give me the money back for that gift I bought for him to give to his sister. Also, I often payed for his drinks and meals.
He has a tab of how much he owes me.

I didn't mind doing those things at all. I liked doing them. A friend means a lot to me. I would do anything for a friend, but I won't do that. Sounds almost like a meatloaf song.

It's kind of funny, that the girl said she wouldn't have had sex with me that night. She knew I liked her a lot and it would make her feel obliged. Obliged to do what? It wasn't serious that night and our dating wasn't serious either. She did like me, but she could never see me as a boyfriend. I should've known that her harsh comments weren't a blunt, but friendly advice.

with 'friends' like this, who needs enemies?

Your 'friend' used you, and you couldnt see it because it's hard for us aspies to understand the motives behind people's actions. NEVER ever give people money, unless it's only this once - a special occasion. and never offer rides or any kind of favor too often, only every once in a great, great while.

the reason for this is so that you know when someone really likes you - not just using you for what he can get.

There are other girls out there, who knows a good thing - like a loyal person who values friendship, something that's hard to find nowadays.

I know. Most of my acquaintances are young so it's not surprising that most of them have at least some financial problems. Not all of them are using me though. With some we go to free events or simply walk in the park. Some even buy me things. Small things, like snacks in the bar but still. One girl advised me not to ask someone out to a fancy place. She said that it's a good test to ask someone out to a fast food place. If she doesn't mind going there then she does like me.

The same girl who gave this advice bought me snacks in the cinema while I was in the bathroom. When she was in my town, I took her and her friends to a frozen yogurt place. What could be less fancy and less appropriate, but still she said she enjoyed it. Later she said she would like to go to a super humble Italian place, I told her about. It's good to know some people actually like being around me. Too bad this girl lives in another town so I can't visit her often.

This friend just sent me a text. He's pissed that our mutual friends know about this. He expected this to stay between us. I feel that I did nothing wrong. I only answered questions people asked. Now he wants to meet me. Should I meet him?

This is getting better and better. The very next day he invited that girl, his friend and my friend to play table top games. Obviously, my friend asked why I weren't there. The guy said that I was probably busy.

So he's mad because I told the truth, even though he lied about me. According to him, it was unmanly of me to tell people what actually happened, but manly of him to lie about it. At very least he could tell that we had an argument or something.

What is wrong with me? How could've I considered this guy my best friend?

Only meet him if you want to. You owe him nothing. He chose his own actions, if he was so concerned with how others feel about this choice- then why wasn't he concerned about your feelings? I don't think you did anything wrong by answering people honestly. It's not like you are gossiping. You were directly involved with the action because it involved a girl you were dating and your best friend. You deserve to discuss it with others.

If you do meet him, tell him he's pathetic scum.

Ok, he wrote me again. Apparently it's my fault that I thought something could work out between me and this girl. Apparently neither of them owed me anything. He's saying I made a mistake by telling others. If they did nothing bad then why is it such a big deal that someone will find out? I haven't lied or said a single bad word about them.

He knows you're an Aspie right? He sounds like an idiot or worse manipulative. Here's the narrative I see here

You liked this girl
She didn't have strong feelings for you but knew you did for her
She may or may not know you're an aspie
She didn't take the responsible step of letting you know it wasn't going anywhere
She then slept with your best friend
She's scum

Your best friend knows you like this girl
He may or may not know you're an aspie
He proceeds to move in on her himself without letting you know she isn't interested in you
If he was your real friend to begin with he'd of a least of had your back and not let you get hurt in such an abrupt way
He's scum

The only reason I can think of for him to be angry that you told people is because he is ashamed of his behaviour. And so he should be. He behaved like a total dick and so did the girl. Don't meet him, don't bother with him at all. He is trying to manipulate and bully you.

I'm fairly sure they both know I'm aspie. Also, both of them have mental issues of their own.

All you can do is learn from the experience and move on with your life. You have nothing to gain by having these two in your life, they have proven your non-worth to you and keeping them around will cause you nothing short of misery. Unfortunately, a lot of people out there like to take advantage of other's feelings for their own gain. It's sad, but.. best you can do is learn the signs of someone who's out to get you.

Let me see if i get this right: Your friend did this to you and, by the way you write, is he making you feel like you are the one to blame for this and are making you feel guilty for it? And that because you were not expecting your best friend and the girl you were dating to have sex (and while you were in the SAME HOUSE that they were)?
I don't have too much to say but i already don't like any of them.