Cathy S Tried To Dupe Me Into Signing Away My Home!

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Well done.

I don't know. Without my support, that makes 'getting a life' extra difficult now. That's why I regret that all this happened. Although we cannot change the past and it is better not to live in it forever, I can see I've been betrayed.

Tell me here. Is any of what they did or still do potentially illegal? If they were meant to notify the council but didn't, have they broken the law? Is Cathy breaking the law by having me sign my name on a plain bit of paper as opposed to a proper documentation? My mother seems to think she was just waiting for the opportunity to toss me out.

I can not give legal advice; but since you are in the U.K., you may need the support of a solicitor, preferably one who performs pro bono, and who has several sympathetic barristers standing by.

Collect all of your paperwork relating to you situation, as the solicitor will need to review every step of the process with you.

Good luck.

He ain't helping me much outside of court. I don't think he really was for the idea of me going back either. Can you blame him? He knows what is likely to happen.

I've been composing notes for an advocate. There's a lot to write and abbreviate. However, I think you are right. Advocates can help you complain, but really, a lawyer comes in useful for that, and tons of cash!

I think it's time to shake the dust off your feet, and move on. Look forward not backwards.

Will they get off scot-free then?

You're not exactly in the position to "cast the first stone". You erred, they erred. Shake the dust off your feet and move on - if you want a happier life.

So in other words, I need to admit defeat, accept the flat is gone and attempt to get a new flat and/or support agency?

Yep, shake the dust off your feet and move on.

Yeah.

Thoughts that might inspire you to move on:


Sometimes we need something tangible to help us understand what holding a
resentment is doing to us. We may not be aware of how destructive
resentments actually are. We think, "So what, I have a right to be
angry," or, "I might be nursing a grudge or two, but I don't see the
harm."

To see more clearly the effect that holding resentments is having in our
lives, we might try imagining that we are carrying a rock for each
resentment. A small grudge, such as anger at someone driving badly, might
be represented by a pebble. If we actually had to
carry stones for each resentment, we would stumble and fall under the weight.

Adapted (slightly) from "Lightening the Load", a daily meditation from "Just for Today" a Narcotics Anonymous
set of daily readings. Imagine being free of your load, Peter - the lightness you would feel..

The thing is, I'm not a nasty guy who deliberately wants to cause trouble. I'd rather not 'take revenge' against them because it is not a happy solution to all my problems, nor would it get me what I want, but they did s*** on me. They done enough to me that I think it warrants me seeking legal action.

Let's say I gave up totally with this issue forever, for the sake of my health and future. I didn't fight them, I left my flat, no more emails got sent and no more moaning ensued on my part. They never seen me again, or whatever. No nothing, in fact. Then they would get away with screwing up my life. After all they did, that does not seem like poetic justice to me.

I'm not looking for work but I know charges can be a nuisance there. That's not all. Some landlords may not house you with convictions. Think about it logically. Would you want a neighbor from hell next door to you? No way. But while that ain't who I am, nobody would want to take the risk with a guy with so many charges, even if you told them about what occurred and said you were sorry. That doesn't always cut it. I'm not saying that could be the case, but do you not think they may check up on me?

My mother told me about a flat she saw an advert for that has a gas hob, but I can get an electric one and use it separately. They also allow pets. I have a fear of gas cookers. But I told her I wanted to try to get back to my own flat, but that is not likely to happen now. Not only has Cathy duped me into giving up my lease, the council may not want to pay thousands if not hundreds of pounds in arrears, because nobody told them about my circumstances. So obviously there is that problem as well. Besides, Cathy runs the show and we know why she does not want me going back there. Even when I call the seniors, they all play pass the buck and say things like, 'this is above my pay level' because they could not care less, or they cannot really offer much advice or support. Who needs people like that, who will help somebody if the money is there? Do you know they get paid like £16 an hour just to twiddle their thumbs?

Dude, sometimes a life well lived is the best revenge.

Whether they are right or wrong, there is NO GOOD to come out of going back to a place where you are not wanted. NONE. All you're going to get is misery, and that's not poetic justice either.

Find another flat-- I know it doesn't seem that way right now, but in a little bit of time, you will be happy there.

Learn from this experience; DO NOT allow yourself to become obsessed with caregivers. That's all they are-- caregivers. Most of the time, they're not even ALLOWED to have a personal relationship with you outside of work. If you can't keep from getting obsessed, then at least do not allow yourself to push back when you are separated from the object of your obsession.

YOU know you don't mean any harm, and WE know you don't mean any harm, but THEY don't know that. If the culture in Scotland is anything like the one in the States, they pretty much have no choice but to assume the worst. So it's better to just not go there.

History repeats itself.

Sigh. Well, I contacted a welfare rights officer regarding the overdue rent. Apparently they had contacted the council before after all, but they never said enough about what was going on. I do not know. It is a confusing mess. They asked for a summary figure, but Cathy took a while to reply. We know she just used the rent issue as an excuse to get me to sign away the lease. Why not just say what the real reasons are?

Just you watch. Come 26 March in court, they will effing defer the end result again. Just you wait and see. They will ask for this report and that report as usual, and that will just prolong two things - I will not get into the flat at all for any reason and no advocacy place will appoint me an advocate. Apparently, that is just a rule. They cannot get involved while the court case is still going on. So of course the longer it drags on, the worse it gets because I am not in my real home and of course, they take advantage of me. They do do that.

Well, when the Diddly Sam hell will it be over then? Jesus.

Until now, I never understood what the social reports were for, but I assume it is kind of like a probation officer who checks on you by the court arranging appointments.

Update...

I had to see this social worker recently. I am concerned about whether I will get back into my flat or not. Cathy wants thousands of pounds in rent arrears cleared from as far back as 4 August, 2014. Yeah, way to go seniors for not doing anything about that!

On top of that, I have to pay support invoices using a bank card I have, or I can get into trouble. I cannot even regain access to the flat while the court bull crap is still going on, and trust me, I think they will keep it up. So I can bet you all a tenner that the court will defer this sh***y case again after 26 March, thus, stopping me going back for *EVEN* longer. Just wait. It never ends.