I feel I've given up on life.

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Yeah. I've tried painting on my tablet and stuff. I can barely draw a stick figure. It's my 88 visual-spatial section.

What do you enjoy doing? Almost anything can turn into a productive way to contribute to the world.

(Just ignore this message if the advice giving is getting too much. I don't mean to get all hyperfocused.)

You need to try something and stick with it for awhile, longer than the few days that you did for community college that I read from one of your threads. It's hard to succeed in anything if you give up and stop after a few days of discomfort. Initial discomfort often goes away, but it is really important to get through the early period of anything that you try.

I felt "discomfort" for all 13 years I was in school before. I do have a lack of impulse control though.

Join the club. If guns weren't so hard to get a hold of here in the UK I'd probably have topped myself by now.

Keep on keeping on, Girlwithaspergers. I heard a saying once that was something like 'the older you get, the more you realise that no one really knows what they're doing.'

Everyone's pretty much trudging through life. Even successful people have bad things in their life too, they probably won't tell you but everyone does. When I was 19 I was stuck in a uni course which I thought I'd love...but turned out to be terrible. I was in a similar situation as you, and very down. Then one day my old physics teacher said he was coming to the town I was living in (only while studying...over holidays I was living with parents too!) for a day, and he sat me down and we had a huge talk, and he convinced me to change courses. After that the rest is history. Maybe find someone you can trust to sit down over tea/coffee/whatever and talk? Do you have a friends or relatives or teachers etc you can talk to?

Also, I finished uni (I think that in America you call it 'college'), got a job in my old home town and had to move back home...until I bought a house this year. I was living on a minesite while at work, but I still felt like a failure. I know what it's like.

I'm in the same boat and know exactly how you feel. I'm 36 and have been there for a while. No hopes, asperations, passions, or goals. My life pretty much consists of going to work and coming home (live with my mom) and watching TV. It seems there's this mythical place or thing referred to only as "out there" and if I was ever to get "out there", my life would turn around. I can't even tell you how many times someone has told me to "get out there" and just left it at that. I've never been able to find that mythical spot.

I think my main problem is anxiety

"You never change things by fighting the existing reality...build a new model that makes the [old one] obsolete." - [Buckmaster Fuller]

I can help you build a new model in 7 steps, one after each other, a fortnight apart, to create a new you that makes the existing you obsolete, in under 120 days.