Depressed and Suicidal. What do I do?

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Dear OP: everyone goes through periods of unhappiness. Some people suffer from various physical disabilities, some folk are amputees or in wheelchairs but they find happiness in doing things that they care about. Others are fine physically but have other issues and challenges to deal with. No one is perfect, despite appearances.

We have many folk here on WP who are making efforts to let go their past. They have overcome the same feelings you're having and some face a daily battle but take it a step at a time. Please do as cathylynn says and call the helpline if you still feel suicidal. Most of us are not medical pros here but we care for all our members on here.

when you are depressed, everything seems worse than it really is. depression makes a person feel worthless. i know a man who was a good father and a good therapist and another who was a beloved minister who were fooled into thinking the world would be a better place without them. they are horribly missed.

when i was younger, i was badly taken advantage of by my ex-fiance. i read up on assertiveness and relationships and now am in a good one. is there any alcoholism in your family? that, along with AS, made me a target.

I am so glad for you!

The way you feel will change.

When I feel like that, it seems like it will stay like this forever.

It does not.

The storm will eventually pass.

The world and life are neither fair or unfair. They just exist. Sometimes our lives go well, and sometimes things don't go well, but life doesn't come with a guarantee that things will go well. How we deal with life IS up to us, though. I realize that you are going through a hard time right now, but it does sound like you are dealing with it by throwing yourself a pity party. I have some alternate suggestions.

> Exercise--this generates mood boosting endorphins, and improves your overall health.
> Eat healthier--this will also improve your health.
> Get enough sleep. Lack of sleep hurts both physical and mental health.
> Watch and read funny stuff--this generates mood boosting endorphins.
> Find ways to reduce, and where possible, eliminate things that cause negative stress in your life.
> Take up a hobby, as it will distract you from dwelling upon your problems.
> Do volunteer work. Helping others is mood boosting, and also another good way to distract yourself.
> Get involved in community activities--local theater, local government, local clubs, etc. This will help distract you.
> Go on trips to interesting places. Even day trips to local museums or other local places can help distract you.
> Take courses. You will meet new people, may learn something useful in your life, and it will help distract you.
> Take up a new full or part-time job. Again, this will distract you, and expose you to new people and experiences.

It is very important to find ways to distract your mind when you have gotten into a misery rut. I know this from personal experience. I suffer from chronic life-long depression. I find that keeping myself distracted helps, along with B vitamins, and healthier eating. I do need to exercise more and get more sleep, though, but what I am already doing has helped a lot. I was also able to greatly reduce negative stress, so I am doing a lot better now.

It's not necessary to do all the things I listed--I don't do all of them, but do give some of them a try. Good luck.

Hey abhma13.

If you're still following this thread, then please look over questor's post for some helpful advice. So I briefly read over some of your old posts and noticed that you've been struggling for awhile. If you have health insurance, then I'd suggest making an appointment with a psychologist so you can actually discuss the things that have been going on in your life and work together to create a long-term plan. Sometimes, it seems like depression slowly creeps in, while other times, it hits you like a wave out of nowhere. In the meantime, feel free to post here to let us know how you are because we do care, and use that hotline whenever you want because he/she is there to listen.

Some people will always be mean to someone with Asperger's regardless. However, do not let them get to you. Karma will surely find them. You can still be the wonderful nice person you are. When someone is being mean to you, take a stand. Who cares if they feel bad after you lash out at them for their attitude. After that, they will know not to mess with you.

Your health is obviously suffering. I hope you can get all of the depression-inducing substances out of your body...

Hey, don't be suicidal! Just think about all those things you could hope to achieve out of life - and think about how much you could do if you're dead. Diddly-squat - that's what! You might feel like you want to die, but it's much more likely you're just don't want to live an unhappy life, which might sound like semantics but it actually makes all the difference, because life isn't set in stone, it's a car on a bendy road in such that you can never quite see what's around the corner - you just need a little motivation to oil it up in case it ever gets rusty! And you my friend are driving a very rusty car.

The difference is you can't just buy this magical oil, you need to share it with other people who have some. Talk to friends, family, even the ones you've lost touch with or never been that close to... it might sound scary but what's the worst that can happen? Even if say only have a 10% success rate and only talk to 10 old friends then congratulations, you now have one more close friend to talk to! And what if you get to know more friends through them and more through their social circle and so on... you've got your very own social circle of friends right there, more than enough to give yourself enough motivation to get out there and earn yourself some brownie points. Isn't it surprising how quickly life can change?

Hey. Don't be too upset if people don't understand you much. Nobody can understand another person completely even if some things do match, because we are all in our own heads with different perspectives. We can only go by what we know and guessing.

That being said it seems very common that people are feeling the same as you. I'm almost certain it's because of the way our life is designed, the 'post modern society'. I don't know what to do about that because it's such a huge thing. Even if you don't understand my pov it's okay.
I don't want you to give up.

It's not just mercury in dental fillings and the environment. Wheat is a big one, and most people don't realize how badly GMO wheat screws some people. Even worse is the semi-fake "wheat" from China that's used as a "binder" in processed foods. It's not totally real wheat, it's got a lot of weird s**t in it that is used to make it look better in chemical analysis. It's extremely difficult to cut out wheat, ask anybody with celiac syndrome. Buy a rice steamer and some real Thai rice, and have some really cool carbs that fill you up and won't make you depressed.