...worst thing a parent ever said to you...

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OMG, some of this stuff is horrible.

My mom said when I was 13 that I might as well be dead, because I was autistic. She then denied having said it and yelled at me that I was a liar.

She also did similar things, denying she said or did them after and calling me a liar.

She said I would end up in an institution if I didn't stop stimming. I was 5 years old too. She also said smoking was better than stimming because it was socially acceptable. Again, I was 5. And again when I was 5, she said she'd quit smoking if I quit stimming.

She said autism "wasn't my fault" but got mad at me for it. She then said "Well you weren't a TOTAL loser, you had 2 friends."

She barged into my room when I was 13 and said "HAve you ever felt sorry for another human being? It says on this website that people who are autistic don't. Because it's just SAD if you never."

Stand-in mother figure said: you will always fail in life, no-one will ever want you, I hope you die, (I was bleeding badly and she refused to call a doctor, and threatened her husband with divorce if he called one. He didn't dare defy the bully; He burst into desperate tears and helped me as best he could.) I was 13.

Stand-in father figure said: you never come second at anything; you never have and maybe you never will.

So there were certainly mixed messages, and I had no trust in their credibility whatsoever from a very early age given their behaviour and the things they said and did - not just about me but other people too.

In adulthood I came across and read "People of the Lie" -a marvellous book by M Scott Peck - and it described bully stand-in mother so accurately that it was like a cleansing experience for me at the time - here was someone naming the evil someone like that inflicts on others knowingly. Books can lead to these tremendously transformational healing experiences.

"You're a stupid Motherf***er!"
"It's not our fault you ruined your life!"
"You hate us!"
"You need to find your own place"
"You screwed up we didn't"
"You never do anything right"
"Your eating to fast" (Father than shoves a hot dog up my nose when I was six)
"Hahaha remember when I shoved a hot dog up your nose for eating to fast"
"You want to eat all the bacon?" (Father then takes a bowl filled with bacon and stuffs it in my face, as I go cry in my room and try to get the bacon off my face)
"WHY DON'T YOU EAT WITH US YOU LONER!"
"YOUR A HERMIT JUST LIKE THE UNABOMBER"



Yep,

My soon to be ex wife wants me to go live back with them now she had her immigration she doesnt need me anymore