why do women have to be so mean and condecending

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That last part I can understand. I've a bottle of buprion (wellbutrin generic), unopened, sitting in my desk in front of me, have had it for 2 weeks. The list of side effects is mind boggling even if its 'low chance of'...and this is apparently the one med with the least, less 'bad' side effects out there. O.o

I haven't read all of that thread, but I'm pretty sure that no-one, on this forum or in real life, has specifically said that they want to you kill themselves and that you are worthless. You may perceive that people want you to, but unless they have actually said so, you have no proof. If someone has said that to you, just because they say it doesn't mean it is true. If they say stuff like that, it doesn't mean you actually are worthless and have to kill yourself. Because as I have said before, there is no such thing as a worthless human being, and you have as much right to live on this planet as anybody else. To me you seem like a decent human being, and it breaks my heart to see you like this. But, and again I don't mean to sound blunt, this is how it works: people give you advice, but we can't put it into action for you, you are the one who has to do that. You are the one who has to make an effort to improve your life if you want to get yourself out of feeling like crap. If you want to wallow in your unhappiness, that's fine, nobody is stopping you, but unless you actually at least try to put our advice into action, or say something like "Thank you, but unfortunately I can't do that, and here's why:" and maybe explain your situation in more detail, you can't keep starting thread after thread only to not make any effort to get yourself out of the position you are in by at least trying to take people's advice or asking for different advice because their first advice doesn't work for you, because by doing that you waste people's time. Believe me, I really do want you to succeed, I want you to stop feeling like this, but, as much as I wish I can, I can't wave a magic wand and make your life better for you, you are the one who has to make an effort to do that.

So are you saying that everything else is good in your life? If so, I suggest that you are quite lucky. But you have mentioned cutting and suicide so I'm not sure I believe you. If you are only unhappy because you don't have a partner, then I don't feel that bad for you. When I think of the problems people are facing in this world, not having a girlfriend just doesn't rank.

Having said that, I wish you could be happy, sly. Hugs.

Side effects are hit and miss. The worst I have had is that the Seroquel I take effects my vision, so I now have to wear reading glasses. Wearing glasses has nothing on psychotic thinking.

All Sly has to do: Tell a lady to "come on down to my boat, baby."

I'll have to teach Sly the "Come hither" look.

One thing I've learned from my futile attempts to socialize is that just because I'm used to my status as an outcast and a pariah, my norm being to systematically miss out on everything interesting in life, doesn't mean I have any right to expect others to forgo their privileges in order to make room for me. If I want to socialize, first I must earn whatever privileges I need to have something interesting to offer.

Don't expect women to lose their ambitions to be with you.

as I've said I'm not so sure I'm human. doesn't seem like it from reading women's prolifes and ads.

I've done the bolded. I've tried and am trying to better my life, people here ignore that part. I've been workign with a professional company to try to find work. a member here is also trying to help me find work. I've lost 26 pounds. which sadly isn't a lto I know but it is a lot when dealing with depression, never leaving my house, and a family that eats high calorie meals. I can't do brinner anymore for example and I should avoid pizza and lasgana(my favorite food) . I miss making pancakes.

but again non of it matters apparently. it just gets ignored and I get called lazy or saying i don't try. makes me just feel like giving up completely. imagine you climbed half way up a mountain and people go past you and like "thats all you've done, you're lazy" "you're not even trying"

I finished highschool, I came close to joining the marines if not for having aspergers, I went to college and got a degree, I'ved worked 3 years at the same place. I got a security cert. I've been trying

well I mean right now I'm bit worried and sad because the president is trying to remove my rights, so now I'm in a race agaisnt time to become my own SSI payee to hopefully avoid that.

see the problem is that in order to get a gf I have to meet women's super high standards, which I can't so It causes me to feel depressed because I'm not a "real man" so now I'm stuck ever failing to meet that standard. standard which I dont' want to met besides to get love. I never can be one even if I did get a well paying job. I'm not violent or asertive. real men are. I'm peaceful and caring and sensitive.
its casued me to have to relook at my who existence.

as far as objects go I have all the practical ones I need. sure if I was wealtheir I'd buy a lot of stuff but non of them practical and probably a waste of money like my ps vita(handheld sony game console) was. it just sits in its case never used. cost me 250 dollars.

I would like to work more. money aside a part tiem job would be prefered to get out and talk to people and do somethign every day. but if i get a job I lose ssi so I have to work 8+ a day which will just exhaust me but ohwell.

but it won't be enough. it'll likely just be min wage or if the person here thing works out 18 an hour which still isn't enough

some times I think about just becoming an alchoholic, its in my gens. only thing stopping me is its a waste of money and I fearful of losing control when drunk. one could spend hundreds and hundres on one nights drinking . seems so wasteful. I doubt it would help though , more likely just make it worse.

Don't be a fool, Sly. If you're an alcoholic, it won't be comfortable for you.

with so many unambitious men lots and lots from what I gather from women complaining.
why are all women ambitious? why are all women sucessufl .
why are there no loser women. it seems so impossible that there are none.
though i know there are some but they demand the same guy the successufl women do.

should I make a post on dating site loser guy seeks loser woman?
but then she'll one day get a job or go to college and I'll stop being good enough.
seems all women go to college now and think they'll going all be super sucessful.

I'm guessing that since we men have done things to women, women are mean towards men.

probably not. i just don't know what to do.
each time I go by the alcohol store i feel more and more tempted to go in and buy stuff. I've never been drunk, because my family has a history of alcoholic-ism and because I dont' like not being in control it scares me.

seems to be what single worthless men do though is it not. I see it in the movies they all drink and get drunk.
had a hard day they hit the bar. it must do something for them. idk what I never got drunk I gut buzzed once but I didn't feel great.

my friends would get pass outed vomiting drunk all the time. I never did it with them. they must enjoy it no?
they do it a lot so they must. o.o

I could get a lot of whiskey and mix it wth rootbeer, thats how I got buzzed the one time but I only had a glass and ws more rootbeer then whiskey. supposely the soda helps it get to the blood stream faster.

Why wouldn't they? They are entitled to their own preferences. My guess is that they prefer to be alone rather than with an unsuccessful man, no matter how unsuccessful they may be themselves; therefore, no dearth of successful suitors will make them interested in unsuccessful ones.

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I really don't think real men are violent. I've certainly never had to deal with violence in my experiences.

It sounds like your a bit of a romantic ... in love with love.

My mind used to function like yours, Sly.
Like a record that gets stuck in it's track and can't be derailed because it's worn a rut so deep it can't be shaken loose.
Perhaps function is the wrong word.
It feels comfortable in that rut. That's the identity you've spent a lot of time building up for yourself, so of course it feels safe and familiar. Even if you've made yourself into the whiney victim who blames everyone else and has no hope. That's who you choose to be. Do you realise that?
It's all ego - "They (women) are doing this to me! (Poor little me). They're WRONG and I'm RIGHT! (I'm a better person than they are). I cannot see sense because I'm in my nice, deep, worn track of woe. I'm too scared to climb out because that would mean giving up my identity, which I've deluded myself into thinking is me!"
I wish I could bump you out of that track, but I know you won't get it. You're not ready to let go of your misery yet.

not to women. to other men. you know they go and hunt down defenseless animals, get into fights with other over stupid stuff like driving too slow or taking their parking spot, etc.

is being a romantic bad?