So much negativity :(

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The reality is that words and advice aren't going to fix everything or even most things, a lot of posting on here is just venting and wanting somebody to just say they understand and to just be a friend. Some advice is just pretty obvious, I don't need Shia Labouf screaming "just do it" at me.

Negativity aside there are actually a surpising amount of positive threads on this forum compared to other forums I've been on. Most people on this site seem rather friendly to me other than the odd scuffle.

Maybe try avoiding a section of the site where you find you are encountering this negativity that is bringing you down. I am sure there are a lot of people that are struggling with their own issues on here and its understandable if you feel you can't cope with that aspect.

Well when you are inflicted with this disability that holds you back from finding a new job and not only you have Asperger's but you're also not as bright as other Aspies or most NTs, then there isn't a lot to smile about. Especially when you're not entitled to disability, so you will have to work full time which you cannot cope with because having time to yourself at home is very important to you, and you just spend your whole life wishing you had been born NT like all your family, and each time someone announces that they have succeeded in their job or loves their job, you die a little inside..you cannot help but feel bitter about the world.

Why was I cursed with this s**t? I've tried coming to terms with it by trying to accept to myself that I have Asperger's and talking about it more to close relatives, but I still don't feel any better about having it.

I read this the other day and thought about it. I have to say that this was the one place that I have always been able to come to since 2007 where I felt peace and understood. Even when people didn't agree, they seem to do it respectfully. Within the last two weeks I feel completely lost too. I have had a few people just slam me for voicing an opinion that is different than theirs. One assuming things that weren't true because of their lack of checking things out first. I might take a break too. It tears me up just a bit as this is the one place where I have always come to when things were just too much to handle in the real world. It is the one place that taught me so much to help my son, to discover myself and to ensure that Autistics were respected and not constantly put down. But lately, after these incidents, I'm not feeling it either. I now feel that everything I post I have to defend from someone putting me down. I hope it changes, but if not, I'll have to move on for good.

So sorry you are feeling let down as well. Hugs!

Years ago when I first joined & posted on forums. I always got chewed up & spat out & not just by one or two everyone ganged up. I don't post any more. Even though I have many questions, I try & find answers through other resources. I'm not sure if I'm on the spectrum or a victim of early childhood conditioning. I'm pushing 60 yrs old and I'm looking for insight. But here you get your ass hole ripped out & shoved down your throat. And I bet you don't even understand that. I came back a few days ago to see why an aspie coworker would be so intent on making me out to be some monster. I've done nothing to this person, he's less than half my age. After reading here for a few day I've found the answer : by making everyone hate me, he's got all their attention, he's center stage. He must think they are his friends, when in reality they are all frightened of being his next victim. That's what this forum is all about...and Alex you need to take control...because this does not equate a support forum.
Have a nice day.

Most of the negative stuff occurs in certain subforums. PPR is rough, so is L&D at times. The former is because people rely on using rhetorical techniques to win arguments; the latter because of gender-related angst.

this is among the tamest sites i've ever visited.

i hope i'm not negative in your eyes, catlover.

I don't know why I'm like this, but pessimists don't get me down. People who insist on dismissing any input that is not positive can be hard to deal with, though.

In general, when I see people complain that everything in their life is horrible, all I think is that this is the stage they are at in life, and that things have the potential for getting a lot better. You have to be gentle with people you don't know, though. Tough love is for those who show that they can handle it. The world gives us plenty of tough love.

Can someone please define what they mean by "negativity"? I suspect that people interpret this word very differently.

I think that we can all work on seeing how our posts can hurt others - and also work on seeing that what someone else posts is about them, not about the rest of us. If you take everything on WP seriously, you will traumatize yourself.

No Sir!

Contrary to popular opinion, I'm a Realist, not a guy who looks at things through rose-colored glasses.

agree...me too...

Umm. Was this an answer to my post, or someone else's? I didn't understand the "no" bit.

maybe he meant to post it in a different thread. it happens.

WP is a site where people describe problems and feelings that they may have difficulty expressing IRL. That may create a "negative" bias, but I think the member responses to such feelings are generally supportive. And I think it's valuable to see that people who think the way I do have had problems similar to my experience. Real life is suffering.

Me too Catlover5,

I just avoid the negative posts on the wp forum and reply to the positive ones, that is when I come on here, which isn't that often.

Also avoid the wp chat altogether so many trolls and rude people on their that just bully on their and cause trouble for no reason, glad i'm not the only one that has experienced this and see how negative wp is.