How Do i cope with pedophilic attractions?

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This thread is just sad. Get help. See a therapist that specializes in sex addictions. Stay away from children because you can get in a lot of trouble. Just like someone is "wired" to like women or men you are "wired" to like children. There is no cure for this. You are going to need life long therapy. There is no cure for pedophilia. I figured you had pedophilic tendencies based on your other post.

I really believe that if MonsterCrack calms down quite a bit, that he will be more successful.

He has a good mind, and is receptive to learning.

If he just calms down, he would be able to relate to people of his own age better.

He also has to listen to other opinions, and not to get all frustrated if he doesn't agree with them.

How is this thread "sad"? He's asking for advice.



He said he would never molest a child; he's just attracted. There is no harm in him being friends with younger children as long as he can control the attraction and not do anything against them.



How do you know?

An admitted paedophile is seeking advice from people who are not mental-health professionals. That's how.
There is no harm in letting a pyromaniac have access to flammable materials as long as he never uses them to start a fire. There is no harm in letting a rapist have access to women as long as he does not try to have sex with them. There is no harm in letting a dingo near your baby as long as the dingo doesn't try to eat it.
The recidivism rate is nearly 100% for those paedophiles who have unrestricted access to children.

The truth is: We don't really know if he is actually a pedophile.

True ... but why claim to have "pedophilic attractions"? It isn't as if he's claiming to be something nice.

Besides, there are all those other threads he started about being interested in pubescent and pre-pubescent girls, as well.

I think he's being honest about his feelings; but I agree that he should seek professional help.

MC, are you reading this? GET HELP!

Just to clarify, I am referencing your comment only and not the larger thread.

The idea that a person is hardwired since fetal brain development in the same way as someone attracted to men, women, both or neither is not at all supported by neurology and is in fact quite clearly refuted. No such structural or connective or endocrine correlations have ever been found.

That's not to say it isn't learned later in childhood, nor does it say that once learned it isn't permanent.

I think it's obvious that he needs some sort of therapy. This doesn't mean he's mentally "sick" or anything. He just needs somebody objective with whom he could talk to.

He also needs to acquire more willpower in general, to think before he says something, and to focus on getting back on track in school, to the point where he is able to obtain a regular high school diploma.

Paedophilia is a mental disorder, not a "sickness". Unlike AS, however, it is a disorder that is harmful to others when expressed; and all too often, paedophilia is not diagnosed until after the padophile has assaulted a child.

The saddest part is that people will naively believe that the paedophile is 'harmless' until they find out that he's raped a child; and then he becomes a 'monster'.

By then, it is too late to protect the child, who must live with being raped for the rest of his or her life.

The only 'harmless' paedophile is the one who has no access to children.

I'm kind of leaning toward what Dreamsea is saying. I think once the switch is turned on it is hard to reverse it. It would be like brainwashing to get someone to believe in something they currently don't feel or believe in.

Brainwashing? D'you mean, like, insulin-shock therapy?

No one can help who they are attracted to. We can't stop being attracted to men or women just like a homosexual can't stop being attracted to other men or women of their own gender so pedophiles can't stop being attracted to children but there is treatment for it but they will always be a pedophile. I don't know if they can ever truly be happy because they aren't able to do what their brains are wired for them to do because what happens to sexuals when they can't ever have sex?

There's some evidence, which he presented himself, which points to him possibly being a pedophile.

But we really don't know for sure. He could be trying to evoke a reaction in us---which would make it even worse, in a way, than if he were actually a pedophile.

All we can do is point out the illegality and the possible consequences of the "consummation" of his desires. Like prison time, and having to register as a sex offender for the rest of his life. And him having to be the "lover" of his bunkmate in prison.

As well as advocating for him to seek help.

So ... you're saying that he's a "self-diagnosed" paedophile, and that you don't believe that it's true ... do you feel the same about "self-diagnosed" aspies or "self-diagnosed" trans-gendered people?

If I understand the way the system works, even telling a therapist that your attracted to children is grounds to report you I thought. I could be wrong but thats what some friends of mine said, at the very less it would probably make a therapist think less of you. I personally would not tell a therapist that but thats just me. I was attracted to younger children as a teen but not as an adult, you might grow out of it, if you plan on going the therapist route, I would at least wait and see if it goes away. Thats my two cents, I am sure its not a popular opinion but meh, its what I think.