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23 Dec 2015, 6:35 pm

Yes, I do.

A new question: Does anyone else find this also actually happens?

As in, whatever mini-scule success we have, it's not long until something bad happens to mess it all up?

I've learned to be vigilent. If it's too good to be true, it usually is.

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23 Dec 2015, 6:37 pm

Yeah....it does happen like that for me.

That's why, sometimes, I have to force the issue. I have to create my own success.

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23 Dec 2015, 6:46 pm

Not like that, no. I'm sure I self sabotage am the time but don't realize it though. I don't get many 'things are going great' moments.

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23 Dec 2015, 7:11 pm

Yes, usually. My motto: Be a pessimist; that way you'll never be disappointed.

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23 Dec 2015, 8:51 pm

Grammar Geek wrote:

Yes, usually. My motto: Be a pessimist; that way you'll never be disappointed.

This. I am amazed that ppl think this is a bad thing. It seems sensible to me. I have taken a lot of criticism for it.

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23 Dec 2015, 8:57 pm

Grammar Geek wrote:

Yes, usually. My motto: Be a pessimist; that way you'll never be disappointed.

One of mine is: "Expect the worst from people, and they'll never disappoint you again; they may even surprise you!"

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23 Dec 2015, 9:12 pm

I used to believe that. Then I managed to get disappointed even as a pessimist.

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23 Dec 2015, 11:15 pm

Fnord wrote:

Grammar Geek wrote:

Yes, usually. My motto: Be a pessimist; that way you'll never be disappointed.

One of mine is: "Expect the worst from people, and they'll never disappoint you again; they may even surprise you!"

Well, i may have a solution. I am a pessimist, and built into that i expect to be disappointed. Seems fairly practical to me. My husband says it makes him tired sometimes. Or the always welcome, "why can't you just be happy?!" Well...being happy would create its own set of problems and i am used to the problems of the pessimist.

It probably plays into why i expect the rug to be pulled out from under me at any time.

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23 Dec 2015, 11:19 pm

Spiderpig wrote:

I used to believe that. Then I managed to get disappointed even as a pessimist.

I meant to quote this in my post...stupid captcha ate my first post and then i accidentally quoted the wrong one and when i tried to edit. But oh well. You'll have this. i guess you know what i mean.

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28 Dec 2015, 1:50 am

Always.

Even I'm invited and acknowledged by all, I'd still anticipate it.

However, if no one else is involved, theres no hesitation as much as expectation.

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28 Dec 2015, 9:22 am

I'm convinced it will happen to me constantly, but it's not someone tapping on my shoulder, it's the little voice in my head. And I'll believe said voice, and subsequently have a bad time.

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29 Dec 2015, 12:30 am

Fnord wrote:

Sometimes, when things are going really well for me (especially at work), I get this feeling that at any moment, someone is going to tap me on the shoulder and tell me that I don't belong there.

Or maybe I'll be at a party, in some quiet corner, watching everyone else having a good time, and I'll get the feeling that at any moment, someone is going to tap me on the shoulder and tell me that I wasn't invited.

It seems to happen most around the winter holidays.

Does this happen to you?

Unfortunately, yes. This stems from kids playing cruel jokes on me in school, and my inability to "read in between the lines". People are now noticing that I have a tough time relaxing in social situations since I look like I'm about to run at any moment.

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01 Jan 2016, 4:26 pm

To Phoenix: "Are you going home for Christmas?" is just small talk - social conversation. The answer really doesn't matter since the question doesn't matter, and so, it's acceptable to lie or to pivot. Answers could range from "No, but I'll be spending the holidays with people locally and I feel good about that" to "Yes, I always enjoy the holidays with family." (utter lie)

It helps to be able to recognize small talk for what it is and not feel the need to respond literally. For instance, when people ask how are you today? they do NOT really want an honest answer. This flies in the face of most autistic people's tendency to think literally and answer honestly, but this is just how it is in the NT world. You can practice responding to these questions in a socially acceptable but meaningless way until it becomes second nature.

Maybe you don't see the point - but then you can get sent into a tailspin by a harmless question at a party.

To Fnord: I've had the experience of feeling like the other shoe was about to drop, but you can't dwell on it. You could reflect that an Aspie who has a job and who is at a party is really doing pretty flipping well!

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01 Jan 2016, 6:43 pm

Yeah, I'm usually waiting for the other shoe to drop. If it doesn't, great! If it does, at least it's not a total surprise.

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