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Dots is my variation of scribble art. It was first used when I got bored taking notes in school.
I was re-introduced to scribble (singular) art a few weeks ago.
A. Someone makes a quick scribble
B. Someone takes the basic shape and morphs it into something new.

I just thought it was a cool sounding place name.

I'm feeling down again. Must be the weekend

Hi Hurtloam, how are you today?

Not good. Met up with a friend for coffee and had a nice chat (not a serious deep chat) which took my mind of things for an hour.

I may be slipping into depression again. I'm wondering if I should go to the Dr again. I've moved so it will be a new doc. I don't want to have to explain all this again. Also, if I just get through the thing that's bothering me I think I'll be OK.

I'm doing all the things a therapist would tell me to do anyway. I'm making time for people. I'm doing projects to keep me busy doing something positive. I'm helping older people with things they can't do. I'm not isolating myself. But I still don't feel good.

What has pushed me over the edge again? I like a guy who is only really an acquaintance and I'm really stressed about it. We rarely get a chance to talk, but when we do I feel like we have good rapport. I don't click with people all that often and think I click with him.

But I'm in a bad headspace. I'm thinking I'm overthinking it. Imagining he likes me too when he probably doesn't. He probably doesn't feel the same way. I'm probably making a fool of myself.

Too many probablys. I'm obviously stuck in a bad rut. That's a negative thinking thing. Going over and over the same negative thoughts and mulling them over.

Its (depression) a horrid way to feel, Im sorry you are having this experience. Depression interferes with a persons perception, my view is that your GP is the first port of call, because at some point everyone needs extra help. At least you are presently self aware enough to talk the new doctor through your medical history, maybe try to avoid any impulsive decisions until you get an outside opinion.

I would continue to be stressed trying to work out whether he likes me or not. I guess if I ask then I'll know for sure, but I'm not sure if that's a good idea.

Do you think your stress levels will make you act differently if you do ask him out? I know my unease can make others uncomfortable when Im stressed.

I do know that my stress levels affect everything I do when I interact with people. The more stress, the more fractured my thought processes or worse, how it comes out.

And, been married three times. But, still can't figure how to ask someone out or find a way to see if they feel anything at all.

People are a complete mystery to me. And, I seem to have this problem where my behaviour is proportionately inverse to the level if desired effect.

I hate dating. I hate having to learn about new people. Especially when I can't glean anything from them. I've read all the information I can about body language and such. I don't see any of those things. Maybe I'm too busy trying to keep a bead on how conversation and everything is moving.

I don't know. But, I'm lousy at it.

No I'm not worried that I will come across as stressed. I'm worried that if I go out of my way to talk to him he will just feel like I'm bothering him. He won't react like that. I know him well enough to know that he won't be rude, But in the back of my mind I'll be thinking, "what if he's just being polite and he doesn't feel the same way."

I like absolutes as well. It's a black and white thinking thing. I want to know: "do you like me back, yes or no?" I hate not knowing for sure.

But I am worried that I will be rushing him into a definite decision. Maybe he's just weighing things up at the moment. Just seeing how things go. That's ok. I think it's actually sensible to do that rather than rush into anything. But I'm also worried that he's not doing that and he's actually wondering if I like him too and maybe I'm not being forward enough. Maybe he will lose interest because I look like I'm not interested.

It's very confusing for me. I don't want to be too "in your face", but I don't want to be too cold either. I'm not good at being in the middle.