Iamaparakeet wrote:
Kraichgauer wrote:
Iamaparakeet wrote:
Kraichgauer wrote:
Parakeet-
As hard as it might be, sometimes you have to let go of a person who leaves, and just get on with your life. My wife had been married prior to meeting me, and she was cheated on by her ex. As she was the party who had been offended against, she did nothing wrong in marrying me. If there is a chance that this young lady could offer you happiness, I say go for it. It's better than being miserable, waiting for something that might not ever happen. I will pray for you - - that you find happiness again.
Well, I think it's probably safer to avoid any relationship just in case the more conservative interpretation of Scripture is the one by which I'll be judged, but even if I hope that the other interpretation is correct I doubt she or anyone else would ever actually be interested in me. I just have stupid emotions, and it's safer to bet that they're one sided only. If I gave up on Jackie and tried to seek a relationship I'd probably at least just drive away an acquaintance who bothered to act friendly toward me, and if I did ever find someone I would still be breaking my lifelong vows to Jackie even if she's broken her to me and God doesn't count it against me. I would like to not be alone anymore, but I don't want to deal with risks and I don't want to do wrong. I'd like it if Jackie were exorcised and came back home, or if I had access to a time machine and prevented her from getting fired and sued then she might still behave like herself.
But supposing that hooking up with someone new is a sin, even after you've been the one who's the victim, I seriously doubt God is going to cast you into eternal torment for it.
I hope not. I doubt anyone would ever be seriously interested in me. Perhaps Jackie even just liked the potential I had for buying her the things she wanted and when I made it appear to disappear so did she. I don't know that I would trust anyone who pretends to like me anyway, but I am sick and tired of being lonely.
I know exactly what you're feeling, because I've been there, myself. Before meeting my wife, I had been so desperately lonely, feeling that I would be alone for the rest of my life, that when a (former) friend had broken up with his girlfriend, I took the opportunity to make her mine. Well, she had had a reputation of being manipulative, deceitful, and promiscuous, which I discovered was absolutely true. In fact, she had been with several of my friends prior to me. When she left me for a former boyfriend who had beaten her, she continued to string me along with promises that she'd come back to me - and I let her do it, because I was so desperately lonely and in need of being loved. That, and she used her son, who I absolutely loved like my own, to wrangle my heart. The only times she called or saw me was when she needed money for something, or a ride. I have since learned she fits the diagnosis of Borderline Personality Disorder perfectly. I went through all this only because I thought if I loved her enough she'd love me back, and because I believed she was my only shot at love. I am happy to report that I was wrong, as I just celebrated my fifteenth anniversary with the real love of my life, who is the mother of my biological daughter. Don't give up hope, my friend.
Yikes that sounds scary, but I'm glad you found someone who is a good person afterward though. Thanks. Jackie hasn't strung me along, although just prior to when she kissed me the last time before going to babysit for her brother on March 28th, 2015, she said that she promised she'd be back home with me as soon as she was done babysitting for her brother. I hope she doesn't mind my giving her a time limit on that after being abandoned and alone for 443 days now.
13 Jun 2016, 10:15 am
