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o no baby please dont go

get that song stuck in my head and im gonna lose the will to live

I think part of it that many who exit with a dramatic "I'm Leaving" post eventually come back. And some of them have done this more than once... they leave, they come back, they leave, they come back... it's like the several different "Farewell Tours" that the Rolling Stones have done.

Yes, this is happening very often. I can dig up at least three examples.

As for RedMage, I noticed that she was gone. What was I supposed to do? Post a "I really miss RedMage" thread? I was sorry to see her go, but there's nothing you can do if she's actually leaving - which means not returning and reading the replies like some do. Besides, threads like that can quickly become awkward. Does that mean that I've forgotten about her? Not at all.

I try to be supportive - how many times have I told you that I care, that others care? - but we can only do so much. Actually, the amount of support for you on this board is extraordinary, and I've yet to see another member in any forum get the amount of replies you do. And I'm sorry, but some of the posts you thought were attacking you were not. There's always going to be one person who doesn't get along with the rest, and if you can't get over that, then maybe the forum isn't the best place for you. I'm sorry, but you've got to deal with this type of stuff. It's life. It's everywhere. If you attack right back, you're setting yourself up.

I agree with krex as well. Name dragging was unnecessary, especially since I've seen those members try to be nice and helpful to numerous people, including you. I don't believe it's fair to pay them back like that.

I do hope you get better, and I wish you all the best.

First Farewell Tour as Phill Collins would say

I notice when people leave, I just don't feel the need to start a conversation about it. strings break, trees fall down, people leave forums. It's just a part of life.

I think everyone is over reacting

And who is the 3rd one driven away

Redmage came back under another name.

And as for turning on people, what I saw was richardbenson commenting about a relationship and very quickly had 3 people making personal attacks on him. I did not see him make any personal attacks. If he did they must have been deleted very quickly.

I hope both Flagg and you return to WP.

RedMage came back under another username, and she was very ornery during her leaving for the final time. She (during her worst moments) attacked many members. I sent her a PM when she sent me one to say she was off, and she never answered it, so I deleted it while it was still in the Outbox, after a fortnight of waiting. She told me to contact her by email, but it wasn't one given in any of her Profile addresses, so I stayed away.

Flagg....he showed a side to me that lowered my opinion of him. I thought him better than that.

And you, Graelwyn, I've done nothing but show you support. If you are calling me a 'shallow, fairweather friend', then you have hurt me. Not deeply, but I considered you to be a friend, and at least someone who needed help from us. If you dismiss us as easily as you have percieved that we have dismissed you, then you have shown yourself to be as shallow as you think us. If my perception of the situation as you see it is wrong, and you do not intend that comment for me, then I retract said statements. In any case, I wish you well in life, and hope that you find some way to make your life better.

I still don't understand why people make a big deal about leaving. When I decided that I didn't want to hang around AVEN anymore, I simply stopped posting.

Fair weather friends was a generally aimed comment, not aimed at any one specific person.
As to the rest, I am too tired really and confused with the whole situation to know what to say. It is one of those circumstances where I do not see a way around everything. And it is my fault Flagg isn't here as a mod anymore.

If those who criticise the merit of posting a leaving thread still havent figured out the various reasons people post a leaving thread, then well, you never will. Attention whoring? Think what you will, it is of no consequence to me.

This is a testament to what sport we're playing here, methinks.

I regulate a LOT of forums, this is just one of them. But this amongst one other strikes me as a group of heroes wearing the same team shirt, if we take up a - say - football analogy. This place is not a large team...it's a group of heroes persay. All with individual goals, looking after number one. Many other forums I've been on, save one other, are different in that it's more of a community, it's a team game.

But to a degree that's to be expected.

At the end of the day it pays to use this place as a testing ground to grow a firmer skin; if your own can hurt you deeply then so can everyone else out there in the big bad world. And unlike others in that wide world out there, people on here very rarely if ever have a vendetta or cruel streak in them where they'd make someone miserable for fun.

An observation - nothing much that can be done here. But perhaps more teamplay and less heroism could be beneficial.

I am at a point where I will need all of you on WP more than I do now. In August, I will be relocating to a place where the nearest AS support group IRL is 115 miles away, and because of school, I will be unable to make the monthly trip to those meetings.

Tim

RedMage is still here, she's using a different account and she changed the name on that account.

When I announced my departure from a different AS website, it was for good. I wouldn't make promises, then not keep them. It isn't in my nature. While my Siamese site is still number one, this site is wonderful too. I enjoy seeing the cat posts and cat pictures. I don't really expect people to be enthused about many of the things I like. Cats and animals, however, are a safe subject.

Though I am not a parent, I have felt a lot of the feelings your children have now while I was growing up, and I hope I can be a source of support and can tell you things get better. I think I would get along well with a lot of your kids. They seem interested in a lot of different things. I too, had some unusually adult interests while growing up.

I was told about this site from a friend on my cat site. I knew it had to be good, and I was right.

Don't you even dare Graelwyn.

I care about some of the people on here.
I just don't usually know what to say to them or don't feel I know them well enough to say anything.

boo hoo please come back