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14 Dec 2016, 4:25 am

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Sometimes it does show how different you are. But in many other cases it can do the opposite I have had experiences of both. But you know behind every timid person I think their is a real fascinating personality just waiting to come out. By opening yourself up to people it enables them to see more of your personality rather than your other side.

I know in my own case, and perhaps in the OP's case also, she tried and got knocked down repeatedly. after so many knock-downs, one is not able to get back up, at least that is my own case.



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14 Dec 2016, 4:28 am

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Sometimes it does show how different you are. But in many other cases it can do the opposite I have had experiences of both. But you know behind every timid person I think their is a real fascinating personality just waiting to come out. By opening yourself up to people it enables them to see more of your personality rather than your other side.

I know in my own case, and perhaps in the OP's case also, she tried and got knocked down repeatedly. after so many knock-downs, one is not able to get back up, at least that is my own case.
Yeah. I kind of assumed allot in my post I apologies if that was wrong.



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14 Dec 2016, 4:31 am

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auntblabby wrote:
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Sometimes it does show how different you are. But in many other cases it can do the opposite I have had experiences of both. But you know behind every timid person I think their is a real fascinating personality just waiting to come out. By opening yourself up to people it enables them to see more of your personality rather than your other side.

I know in my own case, and perhaps in the OP's case also, she tried and got knocked down repeatedly. after so many knock-downs, one is not able to get back up, at least that is my own case.
Yeah. I kind of assumed allot in my post I apologies if that was wrong.

no no, no apologies needed :flower: it is that "your mileage may vary" and your luck may be better than mine and some other folks.



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14 Dec 2016, 4:33 am

auntblabby wrote:
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Sometimes it does show how different you are. But in many other cases it can do the opposite I have had experiences of both. But you know behind every timid person I think their is a real fascinating personality just waiting to come out. By opening yourself up to people it enables them to see more of your personality rather than your other side.

I know in my own case, and perhaps in the OP's case also, she tried and got knocked down repeatedly. after so many knock-downs, one is not able to get back up, at least that is my own case.
Yeah. I kind of assumed allot in my post I apologies if that was wrong.

no no, no apologies needed :flower: it is that "your mileage may vary" and your luck may be better than mine and some other folks.
With all do respect you need to get a better catchphrase cause at the moment am I am unsure about it.



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14 Dec 2016, 4:37 am

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auntblabby wrote:
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Sometimes it does show how different you are. But in many other cases it can do the opposite I have had experiences of both. But you know behind every timid person I think their is a real fascinating personality just waiting to come out. By opening yourself up to people it enables them to see more of your personality rather than your other side.

I know in my own case, and perhaps in the OP's case also, she tried and got knocked down repeatedly. after so many knock-downs, one is not able to get back up, at least that is my own case.
Yeah. I kind of assumed allot in my post I apologies if that was wrong.

no no, no apologies needed :flower: it is that "your mileage may vary" and your luck may be better than mine and some other folks.
With all do respect you need to get a better catchphrase cause at the moment am I am unsure about it.

you mean "your mileage may vary"? that means your experience doing a certain thing a certain way may vary from my experience doing that thing that way.



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14 Dec 2016, 4:47 pm

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Maybe it might be a good idea to open up to those people at your choir, animal shelter etc. You have a common interest with them so it likely won't be too hard to find something to talk about. I find that the first step to getting a date is getting used to being around people in general. And it may be good for you as you describe yourself as having less intuition so I guess being around people might be a good way to get used to interaction. Who knows maybe these people will become your friends.


I do try to make an effort to be more friendly towards them than I have in other situations because they mostly seem like nice people. I feel like I can open up the most in the autism group because they also open up about themselves. If I'm around people who I don't feel like I can trust though I don't think it's worth the energy to talk to them very much because if I give them information about myself they could use that against me because it's happened several times to me before and I've also seen them do it to others.



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14 Dec 2016, 5:42 pm

it's been my experience that most folks just ain't worth the effort to deal with.



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14 Dec 2016, 10:21 pm

Some people are good, but it can sometimes be hard to tell which ones are.



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14 Dec 2016, 10:23 pm

I never seem to find out who the good ones are until the time for thanx is long past



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15 Dec 2016, 1:38 pm

slw1990 wrote:
Shahunshah wrote:
Maybe it might be a good idea to open up to those people at your choir, animal shelter etc. You have a common interest with them so it likely won't be too hard to find something to talk about. I find that the first step to getting a date is getting used to being around people in general. And it may be good for you as you describe yourself as having less intuition so I guess being around people might be a good way to get used to interaction. Who knows maybe these people will become your friends.


I do try to make an effort to be more friendly towards them than I have in other situations because they mostly seem like nice people. I feel like I can open up the most in the autism group because they also open up about themselves. If I'm around people who I don't feel like I can trust though I don't think it's worth the energy to talk to them very much because if I give them information about myself they could use that against me because it's happened several times to me before and I've also seen them do it to others.
You don't necessarily have to give them personal information, just give them a chance to know you in general. Some may be interested some may not we shall see. Their are many people that may be worth getting to know but if you don't somewhat open to them you won't get to know them.



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15 Dec 2016, 5:16 pm

They can still do it even if I don't give them any personal information about me. I remember one time me and a former roommate were talking about sleep patterns and when I told her that I was a light sleeper she used it against me.

I feel like the main problem I have is the speech pattern I have sometimes. It's not that bad when I'm more alert, but it's more of a problem when I'm tired which is most of the time



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15 Dec 2016, 5:38 pm

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They can still do it even if I don't give them any personal information about me. I remember one time me and a former roommate were talking about sleep patterns and when I told her that I was a light sleeper she used it against me.

I feel like the main problem I have is the speech pattern I have sometimes. It's not that bad when I'm more alert, but it's more of a problem when I'm tired which is most of the time
I think the chances of someone using something like being a light sleeper against you is kind of low and even if they do it doesn't mean much. Its not saying something like you are massively weird and I bet many people know someone else who may be a light sleeper.

However if you aren't comfortable talking about that maybe try to talk about something else. Learn a bit about the person who are talking to, talk to them about your interests if they share it. Their is about a million things you can talk to the other person about other than personal information.

Do you know why you are tired allot of the time?



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15 Dec 2016, 6:28 pm

Shahunshah wrote:
I think the chances of someone using something like being a light sleeper against you is kind of low and even if they do it doesn't mean much. Its not saying something like you are massively weird and I bet many people know someone else who may be a light sleeper.


I meant that she used it against me by making noises at night.


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Do you know why you are tired allot of the time?


I usually have to get up early in the morning and I think that causes me to feel more tired. I also have trouble falling asleep at night. I still usually get about 4-6 hours of sleep and take naps, but still feel exhausted. I started working out more a few months ago so that I could try to sleep better.



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15 Dec 2016, 6:37 pm

slw1990 wrote:
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I think the chances of someone using something like being a light sleeper against you is kind of low and even if they do it doesn't mean much. Its not saying something like you are massively weird and I bet many people know someone else who may be a light sleeper.


I meant that she used it against me by making noises at night.


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Do you know why you are tired allot of the time?


I usually have to get up early in the morning and I think that causes me to feel more tired. I also have trouble falling asleep at night. I still usually get about 4-6 hours of sleep and take naps, but still feel exhausted. I started working out more a few months ago so that I could try to sleep better.

Sounds like her behavior was kind of bullying. She was your roommate that is different. For many other people though you can escape from should they decide to go and do that behavior.

I guess in regards to feel tired getting a good amount of meals everyday may be helpful. I often sleep very little and that helps.



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15 Dec 2016, 10:31 pm

Shahunshah wrote:
Sounds like her behavior was kind of bullying. She was your roommate that is different. For many other people though you can escape from should they decide to go and do that behavior.

I guess in regards to feel tired getting a good amount of meals everyday may be helpful. I often sleep very little and that helps.


You can't really escape if it's someone you have to be around like at work or something though.

I might try going out to places alone more often. I do go to parks and a café alone for lunch sometimes, but they might not be the best places to meet people who I could relate to.

Sleeping less usually makes it worse for me. I've been trying to go to bed earlier since it takes me a while to fall asleep.



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15 Dec 2016, 10:35 pm

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Sleeping less usually makes it worse for me. I've been trying to go to bed earlier since it takes me a while to fall asleep.

I have found, just trying to be helpful here, that if you have an air filter running in the background and a talk radio station playing [a station or program you'd normally listen to] VERY softly in the background, that the combo lulls me to sleep within about a half-hour.