27 Mar 2017, 4:09 pm
02 Apr 2017, 2:39 am
Hrm. I would question your approach to love, perhaps. I have many friends who are on the spectrum, and recurring issues I have noticed, is the chase. Chasing love, actively seeking it. And then feeling hurt when it doesn't all work out. There is much in life I have struggled with. I find it nearly impossible to make new friends, although I do have a few now; and like yours, we don't do a whole lot of small talk. If we don't have something effective to say, whether it be politics, philosophy, and science, to gaming and rock collecting, we just don't speak.
There are plenty of people like this, and of the opposite sex of course. You more than anyone should understand the fear and obstacles that come along with making new friends and connections in general, so you should definitely understand that for the other side, it's just as hard. One of the hardest things for me to learn, was to let things happen in their own time. Forcing connections with people just doesn't work most of the time. I could be completely wrong though, and you could be doing this already. I do not know you, or the specifics of how you interact with others. I also don't expect you to take advice from someone a decade younger than yourself.
But I will say that I have had great success in relationships. And I've almost always approached them the same way, really. I tend to build neutral connections with people over long periods of time, and I've been very close friends with most of my partners, quite awhile before deciding to take it further. For me, trust has always been the biggest thing on both sides of the coin. Appearances haven't mattered much at all, actually. I am not particularly beautiful, thin, or extraordinary in any fashion. It's been a matter of understanding one another, I have never been one to jump into a relationship. (It did happen once, though, and it ended quickly, and terribly)
I don't know, perhaps this will all just come off as random ramblings, that's how I often feel about most of my posts actually. 
But that's all I had to offer. Ultimately, I would just suggest not chasing love. It's actually much easier for it to take time, and happen naturally. And sometimes in unexpected places, don't discard the internet as a platform for making new friends, and sometimes more. (Just as long as you can make sure they aren't a serial killer/rapist, of course. Lol.)
02 Apr 2017, 8:42 am
