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SaveFerris wrote:
I'm sure I could of sent a message just saying 'fish' and this would of be misinterpreted as an insult or something worse.
Fish?
Did you just say, ... 'fish'?
AAAAAUUUUUGGGGGHHHHH!
* faints *
29 Nov 2017, 7:26 pm
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30 Nov 2017, 11:58 am
the_phoenix wrote:
It's not your fault.
Some people choose to be miserable, push away any real attempts at help, refuse to change ... but will keep whining from now until the end of the world about how miserable they are ... hoping to get people to keep feeling sorry for them and trying to "save" them ... because they like the attention. So they really weren't interested in solving their problem in the first place. At least, not interested enough to do anything at all to improve themselves.
You could be right , I feel like I don't know anything at the moment.
the_phoenix wrote:
SaveFerris wrote:
I'm sure I could of sent a message just saying 'fish' and this would of be misinterpreted as an insult or something worse.
Fish?
Did you just say, ... 'fish'?
AAAAAUUUUUGGGGGHHHHH!
* faints *
sorry I left you on the floor so long *wafts smelling salts under the_phoenix nose*Esmerelda Weatherwax wrote:
Happened to me in a different online community years ago. I befriended/was befriended by someone who knew their Dx was borderline personality disorder - they were open about it. This person was gifted, talented, amazingly perceptive, in treatment, doing really well. We chatted for a few months.
Then, all of a sudden, several things went wrong for them at once; they became overwhelmed and lashed out at me. Irrationally. Severely. Frighteningly.
I made efforts to "get through" to them, but they were in a place that reason could not find, and no matter what I said, they interpreted it as hostile, critical, etc. Ultimately I just gave up and disappeared. Not proud of that, but I'd exhausted all sane options.
I still think about this person now and then and I hope they found a way through. Whatever was going on with them, I didn't cause it and I couldn't cure it. Same with you, Ferris.
Then, all of a sudden, several things went wrong for them at once; they became overwhelmed and lashed out at me. Irrationally. Severely. Frighteningly.
I made efforts to "get through" to them, but they were in a place that reason could not find, and no matter what I said, they interpreted it as hostile, critical, etc. Ultimately I just gave up and disappeared. Not proud of that, but I'd exhausted all sane options.
I still think about this person now and then and I hope they found a way through. Whatever was going on with them, I didn't cause it and I couldn't cure it. Same with you, Ferris.
Sounds familiar but who knows what the issue is.
League_Girl wrote:
I had that happen but I think those people have something going on. Don't let them discourage you from talking to new people. Once you realize they have mental issues, that means you did nothing wrong and don't worry about it because you then know it was them and not you and a normal person isn't going to feel that way about you.
thanks for the encouragement , I think it will take a while before open up again to anyone.
League_Girl wrote:
I wondered if you were talking about someone who I think I know but she hasn't been here in six years and your joined date is in 2014 so not her then since she was here before you and left before you came. Unless this isn't your first account.
This is my first account , autism wasn't even on my radar before 2016 when I joined , although I am tempted to start another account so try and start afresh.
Temeraire wrote:
Mr Ferris,
You are struggling to get your head around lots of things at present including your diagnosis.
Please be kind to yourself and put yourself first as much as you can.
I know with a caring nature like yours this is difficult but you have stuff to deal with too.
You have many friends on here, I hope you know how much people appreciate you.
It's a blow when others suddenly turn on you and reject your kind hand of friendship.
I hope you can let go of the blame as you are a marvellous human being.
Self-compassion is paramount - give yourself some kindness.
You are struggling to get your head around lots of things at present including your diagnosis.
Please be kind to yourself and put yourself first as much as you can.
I know with a caring nature like yours this is difficult but you have stuff to deal with too.
You have many friends on here, I hope you know how much people appreciate you.
It's a blow when others suddenly turn on you and reject your kind hand of friendship.
I hope you can let go of the blame as you are a marvellous human being.
Self-compassion is paramount - give yourself some kindness.
Thanks for the kind words dude , it doesn't make me feel any better but thanks anyway
naturalplastic wrote:
I guess that its an aspie thing.
It would appear it might be which is a real shame
30 Nov 2017, 12:11 pm
30 Nov 2017, 12:21 pm
Temeraire wrote:
I know my words won't make you feel any better but at least I can say I care.
You have made me feel very welcome on here and I thank you for that.
Big hug to ya dude.
You have made me feel very welcome on here and I thank you for that.
Big hug to ya dude.
I'm ok with virtual hugs so I'll hug you back
30 Nov 2017, 12:29 pm
* comes to *
Please count me in as one of your admirers too, SaveFerris.
I've always appreciated reading your posts.
30 Nov 2017, 12:42 pm
30 Nov 2017, 12:55 pm
the_phoenix wrote:
* comes to *
Please count me in as one of your admirers too, SaveFerris.
I've always appreciated reading your posts.
Please count me in as one of your admirers too, SaveFerris.
I've always appreciated reading your posts.
Thanks
30 Nov 2017, 12:56 pm
kraftiekortie wrote:
Phoenix: Always emerges from the ashes prettier than before.
You smooth talking bar steward
