Please will everybody stop staring at me???

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I take a contrary view - that this may well be very real.

This sounds like the most logical explanation. But it still troubles me that total strangers kind of know what I'm thinking.

This made me laugh (not at you) because I walked into an art store like 2 days ago and I could literally feel the shop assistant get shivers, this was after a friend made me realise a few weeks ago that people do stare at me because I look 'different'

I experience this a lot as well and I don't know why. Turns out a lot of women find me to be something I'm not.

They might find you attractive, intimidating, confident, interesting you really don't know

In all honesty, I would say try and keep confident and just ignore them

Pardon me, but what you mind if i grope you? kk, thanks!

I’m pretty sure they like what they see and wish they could see—and feel—more, and since they’re already trying to see through your clothes, why not through your skull, too, while they’re at it?

Um...I prefer kraftie kortie's explanation. I do feel more anxious of showing my face in public (perhaps even agoraphobia) when people imply that I might look more different than I think I do. But depends on what you mean by "different", as everybody's different in their own way, but I'd have thought that if I (and you too) am how I described in an earlier post about how I look, act and dress, that that would be good enough to pass off as an NT and not stand out too much.

I know I don't look intimidating, that's for sure. People always walk into me or stand too close to me, and parents let their kids run around near me, even though I hate kids (ha, people don't seem to recognise THAT with me ). I find girls who wear too much dark eye make-up look fierce and intimidating, but I don't wear any eye make-up.
I'm not sure if I'm attractive enough to catch people's eye, otherwise I would get guys looking at me too, but it seems to be women that look at me more than guys, even in the hot summer when I'm wearing short shorts and a t-shirt and sandals (yes I do shave my legs and armpits).

Maybe I sometimes look sad (as in down in the dumps) but I didn't think that would grab everyone's attention, as most people kind of keep a neutral facial expression when on their own, which can sometimes look sad or grumpy if they are lost in their own thoughts (that's what my NT mum says).

Pic?

Seriously though, I'm mostly straight.

I’m just joking a bit. Sorry, couldn’t pass up an opportunity like that.

I was piss-taking too.

Oh okay I understand. I think it's the thing where NTs are in their own world but they tend to acknowledge each other by looking at one another briefly for a few seconds but they think it's normal. I think it's weird lool but because it's for a few secs it's apparently normal for NTs and it's weirder not to expect eye contact from strangers at all.

Thing is if you don't like to interact with strangers or are constantly anxious it can feel heightened in your mind.

But when I use public transportation and someone won't stop staring at me I get very scared and uncomfortable, and even if I try to look away and look at something inanimate I still notice there is that person who won't stop looking.

A lady friend and I traveled together to visit a common friend in jail. On the way back she asked me if she looked okay. Honestly replied "sure", looked her over a second time. Shrugged. Told her I don't see anything odd or wrong about her. Said she asked because other women had been giving her stares all day.

Apparently women notice some detail in how other women apply make up, or dress, or some such thing, that violates some rule, that men aren't aware of and don't notice.

My friend must have been having a one time "bad hair", or bad make up, or bad something day. But it was only bad enough to hit the radar screen of other women, and not of any guy.

You must have some equivalent thing, but its every day.

Your body language and facial expression is likely confusing them in some way, and they're trying to "read" you. They don't realize you're autistic and can't be reliably read like that. So basically, you're probably communicating a whole bunch of contradictory information with your body and they're curious.
On a darker note, a lot of NT women like to establish a pecking order with every other female they encounter. They may be trying to decide whether you're someone they can push around or not.
I get stared at a lot by women. Men seem perfectly cool with me.

She's a TI. She's not being paranoid.

Maybe its that third eyeball in your forehead?

Doesnt match the color of the other two eyes?

Gotta wear a contact lense on that thing so it matches the other two!

I think she needs to conceal better her faerie wings.