08 Mar 2018, 7:56 am
OutsideView
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08 Mar 2018, 8:23 am
Just thought I'd add Sly, if I said "I'm not like that" about a generalisation I wouldn't be trying to deny your exerience, just to hopefully make you feel better that there are people out there who don't think that way 
SaveFerris wrote:
maybe you should write 'in my experience' whenever you feel like it may be a generalization about women.
That sounds like a good idea!
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08 Mar 2018, 3:53 pm
sly279 wrote:
Kiprobalhato wrote:
if you're talking about your posts in another thread to which Chronos responded implying she'd report you; she didn't report you. i can tell you that with certainty.
however, she, and other people raised good points there about making statements that extend beyond your own personal experience. we dont need mischaracterizations on WP.
please be careful, mods really REALLY do not want to be forced to ban you. i, at least, would like to see you stay.
however, she, and other people raised good points there about making statements that extend beyond your own personal experience. we dont need mischaracterizations on WP.
please be careful, mods really REALLY do not want to be forced to ban you. i, at least, would like to see you stay.
I never said all. I’m doing as I was told and using defining words(isnthst what they called?) before women, so now that’s not even ok? Could anyone here remember to list s huge disclaimer before women each time the make a post about their experiences with thousands of women? I’ll probably just have to not post. I won’t always be able to or have time to remember to put disclaimer each and every time.
And what should the disclaimer say? A lot of times I’m posting on my break which means only have 10 mins or less to type a reply. Most isn’t ok, I’m betting lots isn’t either. And I wouldn’t call thousands of women some. So what do I say?
If most women in my area are thst way it figures most in the USA are. I hardly Think the state of Oregon is unique, I’ve certainly seen similar ideas from women in California and Washington. Even New York City dating profiles say it. Furthermore I’ve only had few people here say that most people don’t care about a mate have their life together. So I’m really confused by this all. How many will deny that the majority population in the us is obsessed with life status and being middle class? So if that’s true why find saying women are apart of that too is offensive?
Anyways I’d like the mods to come up with a disclaimer that doesn’t offend anybody me here but doesn’t invalidate my experiences and life, otherwise I’ll just keep to haven. Ssi I followed previous mod advice to not be generalizing and offensive but now that’s being called offensive and gerneraling :s so to me it seems rule interpretation has been pushed back. I just want to be able to share my experiences and what I’ve seen without being banned.
i don't know about "most", i think people here have a lot of mixed feelings about whether or not that's OK (i think it should be alright) but i agree with you that oregon is probably not a totally unique area as far as dating is concerned. still, something like "in my area" might be ideal?
i think i saw a couple of posts by you that used words like "all", of course i may be mistaken but i can check....and if i'm not, i can point them out to you, if you like, to see what i'm talking about. if it turns out you didn't then i apologize.
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09 Mar 2018, 1:16 am
Kiprobalhato wrote:
if you're talking about your posts in another thread to which Chronos responded implying she'd report you; she didn't report you. i can tell you that with certainty.
however, she, and other people raised good points there about making statements that extend beyond your own personal experience. we dont need mischaracterizations on WP.
please be careful, mods really REALLY do not want to be forced to ban you. i, at least, would like to see you stay.
however, she, and other people raised good points there about making statements that extend beyond your own personal experience. we dont need mischaracterizations on WP.
please be careful, mods really REALLY do not want to be forced to ban you. i, at least, would like to see you stay.
I said at the time that I may report him, but I didn't and have decided not to for reasons I will share with moderators privately if they wish to know. I formally request he be given another chance and not be banned.
I wrote a long reply to Sly on the previous thread in which I explained why his comment was inappropriate and that he need not make comments that falsely attribute negative qualities to such a wide swath of the female demographic and gave examples of how he can talk about his experiences without doing so, but it did not post properly. Only the quoted text showed up and nothing I wrote, so I removed it. Shortly thereafter I discovered the website had been hacked so perhaps that had something to do with the difficulty posting.
