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kraftiekortie
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17 May 2018, 1:45 pm

This is probably a sensible thing you are doing.



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17 May 2018, 1:57 pm

" I am also angry at how everyone's lives are better than mine (even the people here), because they have jobs, spouses who love them, and pets/children who look up to them."

:D "Everyone's" :arrow:

The solar system contains five year olds that died of cancer.

Not everyone has a job

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17 May 2018, 2:06 pm

WitchsCat wrote:
Never heard of it until now.

Anyway, just so you guys know what is going on, I may be checking into a mental hospital as a voluntary check-in. It is clear to me that I can't handle anything without my husband. I've already did enough damage to my home, and I don't want to do anymore.

This will also mean that I will be off WP for some time. So if you haven't heard anything from me recently, that's why. I am not ignoring you, I just need some extra help.

I'm glad you will be doing this. It's just a holding action until you can get squared away with recent events. I agree that you need to be looked after for the time being. As I'm sure you know, if you voluntarily check yourself in you can also check yourself out.


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18 May 2018, 11:55 am

WitchsCat wrote:
Anyway, just so you guys know what is going on, I may be checking into a mental hospital as a voluntary check-in. It is clear to me that I can't handle anything without my husband. I've already did enough damage to my home, and I don't want to do anymore.


I’m proud of you for practicing good self-care by checking yourself into hospital during this difficult time. :heart:



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18 May 2018, 12:29 pm

WitchsCat wrote:
Last night, me and my husband got into an argument. I said something that must have triggered him, and for the first time in our relationship, he actually struck me ...
Honestly, I don't know what to do without my husband, we have always been there for each other, and knowing that I'm not allowed to see him now is really hurting me. I don't want to be told that leaving him would be the best option, because again, he never meant to do it, and that I would never find anyone better. He is the only man I know who completely understands me.


I hear your pain and understand that you miss your husband ... but ... he ... struck ... you. From a legal viewpoint, it doesn't matter what his intentions were. He assaulted you. He caused a physical injury. Moving to another state won't change the fact that it's illegal to physically attack another person.

I understand that in a relationship there is always some degree of give and take. I also understand that all couples go through phases where they bicker ... but physically assaulting someone is not cool. It's illegal.

I understand that you love your husband and that you don't think he meant it. Moving forward, what can you and your husband do to ensure your continued safety?



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23 May 2018, 1:52 pm

ChefDave wrote:
WitchsCat wrote:
Last night, me and my husband got into an argument. I said something that must have triggered him, and for the first time in our relationship, he actually struck me ...
Honestly, I don't know what to do without my husband, we have always been there for each other, and knowing that I'm not allowed to see him now is really hurting me. I don't want to be told that leaving him would be the best option, because again, he never meant to do it, and that I would never find anyone better. He is the only man I know who completely understands me.


I hear your pain and understand that you miss your husband ... but ... he ... struck ... you. From a legal viewpoint, it doesn't matter what his intentions were. He assaulted you. He caused a physical injury. Moving to another state won't change the fact that it's illegal to physically attack another person.

I understand that in a relationship there is always some degree of give and take. I also understand that all couples go through phases where they bicker ... but physically assaulting someone is not cool. It's illegal.

I understand that you love your husband and that you don't think he meant it. Moving forward, what can you and your husband do to ensure your continued safety?

So you're saying it's best that we split up, because again, that is NOT what I asked for. Therapy did nothing to help, all it did was make me more agitated. Now I have to wait til mid-June to see him again, and even then I will not have enough time to be with him, as they may renew the order. I've already gone through why I am not leaving him, and I am not repeating myself.


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23 May 2018, 1:58 pm

WitchsCat wrote:
So you're saying it's best that we split up, because again, that is NOT what I asked for. Therapy did nothing to help, all it did was make me more agitated. Now I have to wait til mid-June to see him again, and even then I will not have enough time to be with him, as they may renew the order. I've already gone through why I am not leaving him, and I am not repeating myself.


I'm sorry you're upset but PLEASE DON'T TAKE THIS OUT ON ME. I NEVER ONCE SAID that you needed to leave your husband. I did say that he shouldn't be hitting you. I'm sorry if this comment upset you but physical assault is quite illegal.

I don't need a lecture on how you don't care to repeat yourself nor do I appreciate being accused of something that I haven't done.

What is the point of soliciting advice if you're going to jump all over the people who are trying to help you?

I'm done with this thread.



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23 May 2018, 2:23 pm

closed on OP's request.


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