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kraftiekortie
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24 May 2018, 10:10 am

I just told myself that I'm an adult now...and I'm not going to be bullied any longer.

The self-confidence was still low for a long time, even in adulthood. It took a long time for me to be able to engage in repartee with people. I took things literally, and I didn't know when people were joking.

I wish I still had that picture of me when I was 26. I looked the part of the stereotypical low-confidence Aspie, to a T



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24 May 2018, 11:36 am

kraftiekortie wrote:
I just told myself that I'm an adult now...and I'm not going to be bullied any longer.

The self-confidence was still low for a long time, even in adulthood. It took a long time for me to be able to engage in repartee with people. I took things literally, and I didn't know when people were joking.

I wish I still had that picture of me when I was 26. I looked the part of the stereotypical low-confidence Aspie, to a T

I would still get 'triggered' when I would hear personal criticism, so i can understand when people get hurt as a result. I am getting better, I try to listen when people give constructive criticism and tell myself that this does not mean I am a bad person, stupid, etc. You cannot grow of you dont accept criticism. This is not just an aspie issue, I have a constant issue with staff being able to take direction.
I just don't see any criticism Bea was saying. This feels like an extreme ovwr reaction.



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24 May 2018, 1:27 pm

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A woman in another thread also berated me and presumed to lecture me. She had solicited advice because her boy friend had physically assaulted her but she said she still loved him. She said in her OP that she didn't want to be told that she needs to leave him and I certainly did not tell her to do that even though I did not agree.

I simply observed that he assaulted her and that his actions were unlawful.

She had a hissy fit and unloaded on me. Who needs the grief.

As blunt as this may sound, I really don't care. I may not have mentioned it then, but my husband and I are both seeking help. I asked for that thread to be closed because I can't handle his comments. Yes, I should have PM'd him, but his overreacting upset me to the point of a meltdown. Again, I'm sorry, but some things need to be said.


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