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04 Oct 2018, 10:26 am

Marknis wrote:

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People keep telling me I need to take responsibility for my life whenever I mention feeling depressed about my life situation. Are they saying it's my fault I was bullied and considered "weird" by the people around me?

No.

They are telling you to "own" your life and stop blaming others for the way it has turned out.

Sure, nobody asks for Asperger's. But blaming it for your choice to abdicate responsibility for your situation -- and for every choice you've made thereafter -- is just plain wrong.

Remember, choosing to do nothing is a choice in itself.

I am not blaming having Asperger's for anything. I was born into a culture that makes automatic demands out of everyone and I had no idea I was supposed to fit a certain mold.

Then leave that culture. Start a new life somewhere else.

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04 Oct 2018, 6:20 pm

EzraS wrote:

Marknis wrote:

Fnord wrote:

Marknis wrote:

I am not blaming having Asperger's for anything. I was born into a culture that makes automatic demands out of everyone and I had no idea I was supposed to fit a certain mold.

Then leave that culture. Start a new life somewhere else.

It'd be possible if I didn't have so many millstones chained to me.

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04 Oct 2018, 6:28 pm

take it easy. start with forgiving urself for mishaps. then u can gradually decrease the mishaps. and find people, who would accept u, in the process. just dont let anybody tell u, that u gotta be something u cant be, at that moment. dont overpress.

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06 Oct 2018, 8:04 pm

serpentari wrote:

How long will the process take?

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07 Oct 2018, 1:52 am

I wish you would at least consider addressing the financial and housing situation with your mom so you can become free of it. But I know you wont as you just say you don't know anything about it and can't do anything, but it would really help your life if you did.

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07 Oct 2018, 2:40 am

how long? cannot predict. depends on too many factors i dont know. can be years till reaching results, but please dont let it discourage u. get started, and u start feeling better. just allow urself to be u, and not anybody's (including urself) vision of u. then start moving to a vision u CHOSE. wishing u best here.

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