What if I said I've let go of wanting a relationship?

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My mind keeps feeling like my time has already run out. Most people my age are already married or in long-term relationships. Even if I do overcome my anxiety, shyness, and rumination on my past, will there still be single women?

There are zillion of people looking for a partner on places like eharmony in their 30's thru 70's. Stuff often comes late to those with aspergers. There's no time limit on something like that. You have a perfectly valid excuse for it taking a lot longer.

Yes. Most marriages are ended by women who get to their 30's and suddenly ask 'why did I marry an idiot'. Then

they start looking around for someone completely different. Usually they do this once, my sister did this three times.

Yup. There will be some never-married women, and lots and lots of divorcees and a few widows.

agreed!

Agreed.

We seem to be forming a consensus.

I agree entirely with Kraftie... it happened to me.

I just don't want to wait until I am 70 or older. By then my nieces and nephews will have grandchildren.

Marknis you would be surprised at how many people are still single or not in a long-term relationship at 30. Where I use to live it wasn't that hard to find someone unmarried or not in a long-term relationship. It's a little more common than you would think.

That's perfectly understandable.

Also agreed! Personally if I think of it the other way round, if a woman was hungry for a relationship but didn't focus at all on her own interests/passions, or physical/mental health, I'd be more likely to not engage. IMO, the richer a womans independent life the more attractive they are, it speaks a lot to their character.

Bless you.

Why would they struggle?

An excerpt from This Article on the U.S. Census Bureau website:

"Young adults today have low marriage rates, and economic security may play an important role in their likelihood to marry. Using five-year estimates from the American Community Survey (ACS 2012-2016), a new working paper entitled "Millennial Marriage: How Much Does Economic Security Matter to Marriage Rates of Young Adults" finds that socio-economic indicators associated with labor force participation, wages, poverty and housing (e.g., housing costs and living arrangements) all relate to marriage rates for young adults ages 18 to 34. Specifically, full-time employment, median annual wages for all types of workers, and owning a home were associated with higher marriage rates."

Also:

"Young adults today, sometimes referred to as 'millennials', are marrying at lower rates than previous generations at similar life stages (U.S. Census Bureau 2014). In 2013, only 26 percent of young adults aged 18-32 were married, a percentage significantly lower than the 36 percent of same-age adults in 1997 (i.e., 'Generation X') and 48 percent in 1980 (i.e., 'Baby Boomers'; see Pew Research Center 2014)."

I've actually had some women approach me but one of them told me she cut (She had scars on her arms) and the other was 16 at the time.

And... what happened when they approached you?