The most unfair thing you've had to deal with

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05 Dec 2018, 7:16 pm

Having to sit in the hallway as a kid because teachers didn’t want me in class. Jail comes in second.

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05 Dec 2018, 8:05 pm

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05 Dec 2018, 8:07 pm

serpentari wrote:

toys and food isnt everything a child needs...

I think you're right.

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06 Dec 2018, 7:46 am

How do you counter the following statements?
"Everyone thinks you are ugly."
"Everyone thinks you are stupid."
"Everyone thinks you are weird."
"Everyone hates you"

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06 Dec 2018, 8:12 am

i dont counter. i ignore that Motherf***er, then take those statements and wear them on a flag.
socially unacceptable jerk
cold hearted b***h
resident a**hole
and many more.

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06 Dec 2018, 8:16 am

ah, antiswear is being reconfigured, thanx mods) i wasnt meaning to bypass it xd just well, there is a lot of emotion behind some lines, so i have to empathise that with bad language xD

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06 Dec 2018, 8:54 am

I can't quite say what was "the most unfair thing I've had to deal with", the list is far too long. Want to know why?
LIFE IS UNFAIR.
Life is like an obligatory poker game. You're repeatedly dealt a set of cards at random, and you play them as best as you can. That is life. For the vast majority of us, life isn't being so lucky as to be repeatedly dealt Royal Flushes, it's playing a poor hand well that matters.

Yeah, this hand might suck...but at least I'm not homeless living in a cardboard box under an overpass, I'm not currently getting shot at, and to the best of my knowledge I don't have anything gruesome like cancer; at one time or another in my life, the above hasn't always been true.
So, deal me in.

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06 Dec 2018, 9:33 am

Piobaire wrote:

I can't quite say what was "the most unfair thing I've had to deal with", the list is far too long. Want to know why? LIFE IS UNFAIR. ...

That's Rule 1. There are at least 20 more Rules Of The World. Here's the list.

11 Rules that you don't learn in school.

From the book "Dumbing Down our Kids" by Charles Sykes

This is often mistakenly attributed to Bill Gates, while it is actually from the book "Dumbing Down our Kids" by Charles J. Sykes (c.1995), and is directed at high school and college graduates.

Rule 1: Life is not fair -- get used to it.

Rule 2: The world won't care about your self-esteem. The world will expect you to accomplish something BEFORE you feel good about yourself.

Rule 3: You will NOT make $40,000 a year right out of high school. You won't be a vice-president with a car phone until you earn both.

Rule 4: If you think your teacher is tough, wait till you get a boss.

Rule 5: Flipping burgers is not beneath your dignity. Your grandparents had a different word for burger flipping -- they called it opportunity.

Rule 6: If you mess up, it's not your parents' fault, so don't whine about your mistakes, learn from them.

Rule 7: Before you were born, your parents weren't as boring as they are now. They got that way from paying your bills, cleaning your clothes and listening to you talk about how cool you are. So before you save the rain forest from the parasites of your parents' generation, try delousing the closet in your own room.

Rule 8: Your school may have done away with winners and losers, but life has not. In some schools, they have abolished failing grades and they'll give you as many times as you want to get the right answer. This doesn't bear the slightest resemblance to ANYTHING in real life.

Rule 9: Life is not divided into semesters. You don't get summers off and very few employers are interested in helping you find yourself. Do that on your own time!

Rule 10: Television is NOT real life. In real life people actually have to leave the coffee shop and go to jobs.

Rule 11: Be nice to nerds. Chances are you'll end up working for one.

My own 10 additions:

Rule 12: You do not automatically deserve a lover with a perfect body, little or no moral character, and no resistance to your advances. If there is no "romance" or even friendship in your life, then make the necessary changes in yourself to improve your attractiveness, and stop placing the blame on those people who obviously have much better things to do with their lives than relieve you of your boredom and sexual frustrations.

Rule 13: Money can't buy everything; this is very true -- but nobody respects a person who has no money at all. So if you want respect, you need to get up, get out, get a job, and earn enough money to buy your own clothes, pay your own rent, and drive your own car. Look at those homeless people; do you think anyone respects them? No. Do you? No. At best, homeless people are pitied; at worst, they are beaten up, arrested, locked up, or driven out of town to be someone else's problems. Do you want that? No? Then get a job and earn some respect!

Rule 14: The World will not change for you. You are only one person, while The World has over 7.5 billion people. That means that there are over 7,499,999,999 people in The World who will NOT go out of their way to accept you or help you improve your life. Either accept it or don't -- just be quiet about it, either way.

Rule 15: People will hate you. It doesn't matter who you are, what you do, or how well you do it; there will be people who will hate you no matter what. You can either deal with it, complain about it, or run away and hide from it.

Rule 16: People will steal from you. They will steal your property, your money, your reputation, your ideas and your sanity. Make them work for it instead. Set yourself up so that if anyone wants what's yours, they must either sweat, bleed and cry for it or pay you their own hard-earned currency for it.

Rule 17: People will lie to you. This does not mean that everybody lies to you all of the time; it means that you should verify everything you are told. Even the nice, little "White Lies" people say to you to get you to feel better about yourself (and them) will hurt you in the long-term by giving you false expectations that are never fulfilled. Besides, if a little "White Lie" makes all the difference between feeling good and feeling like Hell, then maybe you should start ignoring those little "White Lies" and work on your own self-esteem.

Rule 18: No one wants to hear any more of your excuses. No one wants to hear another word from you about how you can't do anything to change your life for the better because of all of the crap that other people dump on you. What are you doing about it NOW? Nothing. Complaining is nothing. Using your childhood fears and traumas as excuses is nothing. Blaming your parents, your teachers, your elected officials, and the police is nothing. No excuse will ever do as much for you as what you can do for yourself. Blaming yourself is a start; now, get out there and DO something about it!

Rule 19: You don't have to be perfect; you only have to be better at something than everyone else around you. Yes, that's all it takes. And by 'something', I mean something useful to other people -- construction, cooking, music, programming, whatever; it's the usefulness of what you can do that makes the difference between being appreciated and being ignored.

Rule 20: How you treat other people matters. How people see you treat other people matters, too. The old "Treat others as you would have them treat you" maxim (from many religions) means that if you want people to respect you, trust you, and be nice to you, then you have to respect them, trust them, and be nice to them first. Do you need a favor? Offer them a favor first. Would you like them to remember you on your birthday? Remember them first. None of this means that you have to constantly suck up and give compliments to everyone around you; it just means that other people will treat you the way you've treated them.

Rule 21: It really is the gift, and not the thought that counts. Forget that old saying to the contrary, because if it was true, there would be no thoughtless gifts being given. Giving a thoughtful gift shows that you care enough about that person to know what they like and what they want. Giving a cheap, knock-off of a name brand tells the recipient that you are cheap, and that you really don't care whether they like the gift or not.

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These are not MY rules, but what I've come to believe are the Rules Of The World.

Accept them or not; I don't care.

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06 Dec 2018, 10:13 am

Yeah life sucks, but if you dwell on all the negative it makes it suck even more. Everybody needs to try and find the silver lining.

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06 Dec 2018, 11:07 am

when u offer a favor, they take it and then dump u) when u are nice to them, they say u are not nice enough. etc etc. u are not helping, fnord. i accept this as a honest mistake anybody can make, but this thread is clearly made to empathise with each other, rather than well, telling everybody how u dont care. maybe u are on a roll right now. maybe u never meant that "i am better than u" vibe that comes from ur post. maybe its nothing but my paranoya. i got out there and did enough to earn respect, but thats the point of world being unfair - u dont get what u earned. that is what we are trying to get over here. we dont need a get-up-and-get-going rant, we need some compassion here. and ya i dont care for u, either xd

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06 Dec 2018, 11:56 am

serpentari wrote:

Again, what I posted are NOT MY RULES, but only my interpretation of how The World operates. It's a very cynical interpretation, certainly, but until the postman delivers a unicorn that defecates gold and flatulates rainbows, I'll go on believing that The World is unfair, and that the only way to make a difference is to get out there and do it myself.

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06 Dec 2018, 12:08 pm

How you treat other people certainly DOES matter. That's probably more important than most of the precepts presented.

"Treating people the way you want to be treated" is something which is even more fundamental than "the Golden Rule."

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06 Dec 2018, 12:10 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:

How you treat other people certainly DOES matter. That's probably more important than most of the precepts presented. "Treating people the way they want to be treated" is something which is even more fundamental than "the Golden Rule."

Too bad that the only way to find out how other people want to be treated is to note how they treat me ... and then do the opposite.

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06 Dec 2018, 12:17 pm

Sometimes, you can get the a**hole to stop treating you like an a**hole if you model another way of interacting.

To "go down to the level" of the a**hole, to me, defeats the whole purpose of interacting in the first place. And it perpetuates the stupidity of it all.

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06 Dec 2018, 12:18 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:

Sometimes, you can get the as*hole to stop treating you like an as*hole if you model another way of interacting.

To "go down to the level" of the as*hole, to me, defeats the whole purpose of interacting in the first place. And it perpetuates the stupidity of it all.

^ Very true.

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06 Dec 2018, 4:44 pm

Homophobia

Not getting diagnosed til age 21

Getting compared to sister

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