My own autism doesn't count though

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Does he share his own secrets, too? Or just the secrets that others have confided in him?

No he's a pathological liar who lies about stupid stuff which nobody would lie about unless it was because lying is fun. So he's really good with his own secrets...
It's not stuff we've confided in him, really. It's stuff he has the right to know and picks up on because he lives with us/is part of our family. Doesn't mean the whole street has to know.
I don't think he gets how gossip works. I'm aspie (diagnosed) but from what I can tell, if you want status in society and not to get hurt you're not meant to gossip about those you're close with to those you're not close with unless it's good gossip like 'oh, my wife got promoted at work, my stepdaughter's been published again' that sort of thing. You're meant to keep negative stuff private unless you really trust someone - not a stranger but someone who cares. Mum goes to extremes with this and won't let me tell my granddad that our dog won't stop barking.

It's mum who's parking her car, not me who's parking mine. So at the end of the day it's up to mum and she agrees with you.

It's just that mum's ill (with a rare illness which is why I'm not labelling it on here as she's one of four people in the whole country who has it, she isn't at risk of death but she'd be very ill without treatment) and she's working two jobs and one she really hates and I feel guilty cos I was the reason she moved house and had to take those jobs and have those neighbours and at the end of the week she's exhausted and stressed and I don't like it when she gets shouted at. I'm very protective of her and when she gets shouted at it hurts me worse than when I get shouted at.

I just want to hurt someone when they bully her but I don't because I've long since learnt that violence isn't the answer. I want her to have one day without stress.

I don't blame you at all.

What I'm saying, really, is.....stay away from these sorts of people. Don't be in their radar. It's best that you don't become the focus of these sick sorts of people.

Did you used to post here under a different name , I've read this post before.

Perhaps under screen_name?

Mitochondrial Disease

I know Screen_name a little.

Unless she lost her password, I don't feel she would post under another name.

No but I have mentioned this before on here. I talk a lot once I get on forums...
Different user, different disease too actually.
I don't get why people would talk about rare diseases and say their name? It's sort of not anonymous at that point. Unless it was something like if someone came to me personally and said 'I've got a lot of headaches and can't hear people and I'm feeling weak'. Then I'd say 'it's rare but you might have the same thing as mum has'. .

No it wasn't that post , the keywords I remember are rare illness, one of four in the the country , not labeling it

It was definitely here and wasn't in the last 8 days.

I understand why you don't want to mention it which is why I remember reading a very similar post before.

How many diseases are there where only 4 people in the country have it ?

I feel like most autistic men get this tiptoe treatment while women are told to get over it.

I absolutely hate that double standard too!

There have been some incidents like that in my life that still makes me ticked off.

Agreed.

Hm weird. She's not me and I'm being aspie honest about that. I only 'lie' about my imaginary world which this isn't part of.
Unless I was a member years ago without remembering it? But I wouldn't use that username so it's highly unlikely.
It's a different disease anyway.
Maybe doctors are in the habit of saying 'you're one of about four people in the country' when talking to patients with rare illnesses? I mean I can't name the other three people. But then they ought to go by five because at least that's half a round number...

It could also be me not remembering correctly , I was in a dark place a while back.

(Feminism is my specialist interest so...)
Me too and if anything our violence should be forgiven more easily due to the lesser physical damage it can do. Not that any adult ought to be being violent without being either sectioned or sent to prison but it's easier for a man to kill with his bare fists than for a woman to.
The attitude is because NT society is sexist and forgives a certain degree of bad behaviour in men which is seen as 'natural'. Also, we all fear some big bloke being violent. For good reason, it's dangerous and more dangerous than some short woman or a child being equally violent. But call the police the first time he is, or get the professionals in. Don't just let him go around being violent... Don't allow it in a woman either but especially if someone is tall and muscular.
It's like how people tell my mum's dog off in public. She's annoying and won't stop barking but she's clearly safe. She just barks a lot, classic bark worse than bite. Whereas nobody dares to tell an Alsatian off in public (an Alsatian bit my stepdad and he had to go to hospital for stitches).
My stepdad has meltdowns which nobody comments on because they're not violent. They're not even proper meltdowns which I think are caused by sensory issues, mine are anyway. I take myself out of over lit, over noisy places and I rarely meltdown despite having the same provocations and a mental illness (social anxiety). His are convenient temper tantrums like a child would have. My stepdad bellows and won't listen and mum tells me 'he's autistic he can't help it'. Even though I'm the only one who's diagnosed autistic...
I've deleted a few paragraphs because this isn't adult chat. But let's just say, I think his wife has a thing for bad boys which is bs. I don't have a thing for bad girls so I don't really understand that. My ex was nice and I'm nice too, I hope.
Mum likes aspie guys too but she says the violence is a negative. She likes them because they're clever and unique.

I was thinking you might be my old pen pal but he's 27 now.
Hmm. Weird coincidence I guess. Small world.
I suspect the 'one out of four' number might be something doctors make up? Like 'it's really rare' type NT talk?