I need to learn forgiveness

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Forgiving yourself for your Mistakes is the most important thing, i agree. Other people come and go but you're stuck with yourself for a lifetime. It's best to have a good relationship with yourself.

Sometimes forgiveness is too idealistic

So I asked the counselor what the next best thing was

Answer:. Suppression

Learning forgiveness is still a work in progress for me.

What I find difficult (or unrealistic or unreasonable) about "forgiveness", is that some precious lil "people" do not admit that they were wrong

And the "sorry" for sympathy, is the same as the "sorry" for an apology

For example, "sorry she scared you", a dog owner had the nerve to tell me. (Like, sorry you are afraid of dogs). Not " I apologize for violating the Leash Law

Sometimes they totally miss the point

And sometimes, a verbal apology is not enough to fix the problem, but they act like it is


Financial reparations necessary

Being angry about what the world has done to me and others like me only hurts ME, not them. If they never apologize to me then they are never going to feel guilt over it so why should I stay angry expecting them to one day feel bad?

Forgiveness for me is about letting go so that I myself can heal and not obsessively give a damn about those people.

feeling angry is a natural reaction. and ya ppl who hurt u most somehow never bother to acknowledge the harm they'd done, let alone try to make it up to u. so well. rage, yell, write angry posts - vent it out. do it as much as needed, till angre goes shallow. then throw the empty shell, that had been ur hate, aside, and move on. sometimes it doesnt work. but then sometimes it does. i've got a memory board for names of people who had f****d me up. i dont forget it. never. but i try to keep the perpetual impact to a possible minimum. the damage had been done. it cant be reverted, but it can be subsided to a degree. so well in a manner its not forgiveness. its like, i dont know, keeping bullets with names on them, but keeping them somewhere in a remote storage under lock and key. yes, i am a horrible person xD

Last night I found that writing dark and depressing poetry helps.

I call it "King of the Sky"

anything that helps, is good. as long ofc as its not hurting other ppl xd i somewhat envy u. u can do some creation. this is grand.

very exestential)))

Thanks.

I'm still working on this in my head.

Homey and Comfey, Domestic and Cozey, the mother hen warms her eggs and watches her babies. As they accept their tormented fate, sacrificed to Hell's cooking fire, in the order to feed the invincible Gods, who in return provide them with food and shelter. But even the smallest rooster has his voice and his spurs.

Your statement about forgiveness is correct but too idealistic

Your poem is wonderfully written. The one you’re working on seems brave yet frightening.