How do I learn not to take pity on strangers?

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Thanks, I've done that before twice, now, but they keep talking and talking to me, asking and asking. I refused them four times and they kept asking this last time. What do you do then?

stop answering. u've said no, then just dont answer. but better dont give them anything in the first place. also u could say u'd call the police... in most places, this behaviour is illegal.

You just need to stop talking to them then. That's part of the con, they will try to wear you down and make you feel bad for them or feel guilty.

Once you've said no, stop talking to them. The more you continue to talk to them the more you encourage them.

Be civil but don't be nice to them. They're not your friend.

Okay, so just stop saying no, and don't say anything at all then, not even no?

no nothing. unless u can just take ur phone (keep it out of the bum's reach) and dial police

Just don't engage them if you don't feel up to it. Don't make I contact, don't explain your decision not to give money, just go about your business.

Most will move on to the next target because its mostly about asking as many people as they can in the shortest amount of time.

Panhandlers can get pretty agressive, but if you don't stop moving, don't make eye-contact etc. most won't make trouble.

You can still pity someone without handing over cash or putting yourself at risk.

Okay thanks, but I wasn't making eye contact in those situations, they just come up to me and make sure to get in front of my face, what then?

call the police. this is totally harassing.

Tell the person in the ticket booth that someone is harassing the patrons in line. They'll send a security guard out there to keep the bums from creating a problem for their customers.

If you want to give them $$, take the $$ out of your wallet, somewhere they don't see.

If you do not want to give them $$, you do not have to. And you don't have to feel guilty.

If you wan't to help homeless people you'd be better off giving $5 to a homeless charity every month

If you donate to a charity, you do not have to deal with the recipients

ya, thanx for the illustration. that is the high end of what i meant xd also, given that they are organized, they can kinda gang up and pest a person who once gave something to one of them. either way nothing good to see there.