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29 Mar 2019, 11:07 am

That means you could, perhaps, work in some sort of engineering capacity part-time probably (or maybe as some sort of consultant?)

Yes, I know studying is quite enough. But to get the extra bucks.



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29 Mar 2019, 11:11 am

BeaArthur wrote:
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Yep.....sorry on my part, too.

Antrax is someone who could very well be an inspiration to others here.

I agree. We all accomplish our own little victories and we should always take pride in that and not let others keep us down. :salut:

That is so important to emphasize. For those of us who have had mental illness or developmental disabilities, the accomplishments and milestones we achieve with great struggle are trivialized by the neurotypical world, so we need to toot our horn in the appropriate orchestra.

Example: "I just got my driver's license!" "How old are you - 37? Big deal, I got mine the day I turned 16." Not the appropriate place to celebrate a victory.


The world does enough ripping into us, we don't have to put each other down.

My autism is diagnostically mild, and despite my difficulties I am fortunate to be functioning as well as I am in the world. Others on this site have even greater struggles, and should celebrate the battles they've won.

I'm honestly more impressed by someone who learns to drive at 37 than 16.


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29 Mar 2019, 11:15 am

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I like Pepsi ladies too. I found one poster that looks like a stripper next to an old pepsi bottle.

Speaking of Pepsi and strippers, did you see which former exotic dancer is doing commercials for them now? :P



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29 Mar 2019, 11:18 am

thank you for inspirational topic. we need those here. its easy to focus on defeats...
mine 2 dime - managed to communicate with my mother without a PA. good enough xD


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29 Mar 2019, 11:59 am

SportsGamer35728 wrote:
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I like Pepsi ladies too. I found one poster that looks like a stripper next to an old pepsi bottle.

Speaking of Pepsi and strippers, did you see which former exotic dancer is doing commercials for them now? :P

Haha no thay's pretty funny! :lol: The poster I found actually looked classier. :wink:

Back on topic, every day that I talk to my mother and resist the urge to smash my cellphone (which I have done before) feels like an accomplishment to me. :P



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29 Mar 2019, 1:26 pm

thanx twiz. kinda not the best thing i did in my life, but it is quite an improvement xD same as having gone quite over a week without serious meltdowns. and tbh, both are not just my effort, i am getting a lot of help, that makes it possible.
also, only thing i ever smashed was 1 pair of glasses. i had a dislocated shoulder and was constantly frustrated with that, then something pissed me off further so my usually sufficient impulse control failed. still regret it. they were good glasses xD


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29 Mar 2019, 7:13 pm

What "battles"?



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29 Mar 2019, 8:06 pm

shortfatbalduglyman wrote:
What "battles"?


We all have our struggles big and small. For me:

Big: Suffering from crippling anxiety that robbed me of literally everything before medication and therapy got it under control.

Small: I have to give a discussion section for the class I TA with a stupid chalkboard. The sound of chalk on a chalk board is quite painful for me, and it takes me 5 times as long to write anything on a chalkboard relative to a white board as I frequently have to rest. I show up an hour early to take my time writing out all the notes for the students on the chalkboard, so I don't have to write on that chalkboard in real time. It's a small thing, but god how I hate that chalkboard.

I don't know what your struggles are, but I guarantee you've conquered some of them. Remember the things you've conquered.


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29 Mar 2019, 8:58 pm

This is a good story. I think of something similar. One of my favorite tennis players, the subject of my username, Denis Istomin said, "I don't think about a comeback. I'm here now." He overcame a serious car accident when he was fourteen years old and made the professional tennis tour at age 18.



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29 Mar 2019, 9:23 pm

Antrax wrote:
We all have our struggles big and small. For me:

Big: Suffering from crippling anxiety that robbed me of literally everything before medication and therapy got it under control.

Small: I have to give a discussion section for the class I TA with a stupid chalkboard. The sound of chalk on a chalk board is quite painful for me, and it takes me 5 times as long to write anything on a chalkboard relative to a white board as I frequently have to rest. I show up an hour early to take my time writing out all the notes for the students on the chalkboard, so I don't have to write on that chalkboard in real time. It's a small thing, but god how I hate that chalkboard.

Have you thought about asking for a room with a white board as a workplace accommodation? You don't need to share your full diagnosis, just explain that the chalk sound is harmful to you and get a doctor to sign off on it. It's really a small thing for the university to provide for you.


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29 Mar 2019, 9:28 pm

BeaArthur wrote:
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We all have our struggles big and small. For me:

Big: Suffering from crippling anxiety that robbed me of literally everything before medication and therapy got it under control.

Small: I have to give a discussion section for the class I TA with a stupid chalkboard. The sound of chalk on a chalk board is quite painful for me, and it takes me 5 times as long to write anything on a chalkboard relative to a white board as I frequently have to rest. I show up an hour early to take my time writing out all the notes for the students on the chalkboard, so I don't have to write on that chalkboard in real time. It's a small thing, but god how I hate that chalkboard.

Have you thought about asking for a room with a white board as a workplace accommodation? You don't need to share your full diagnosis, just explain that the chalk sound is harmful to you and get a doctor to sign off on it. It's really a small thing for the university to provide for you.



Even after diagnosis and disclosure, UCSD offered zero accommodations

You go to a different school, in a different year, different diagnosis. Even the DSM has changed since then


If your school is similar to UCSD, you won't get accommodations


But I am not precognitive so I don't know what is going to happen in the future



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30 Mar 2019, 12:21 am

BeaArthur wrote:
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We all have our struggles big and small. For me:

Big: Suffering from crippling anxiety that robbed me of literally everything before medication and therapy got it under control.

Small: I have to give a discussion section for the class I TA with a stupid chalkboard. The sound of chalk on a chalk board is quite painful for me, and it takes me 5 times as long to write anything on a chalkboard relative to a white board as I frequently have to rest. I show up an hour early to take my time writing out all the notes for the students on the chalkboard, so I don't have to write on that chalkboard in real time. It's a small thing, but god how I hate that chalkboard.

Have you thought about asking for a room with a white board as a workplace accommodation? You don't need to share your full diagnosis, just explain that the chalk sound is harmful to you and get a doctor to sign off on it. It's really a small thing for the university to provide for you.


I've thought about it, but given its near the end of the semester and I only got my diagnosis 2 weeks ago, I think I'd rather deal with that chalkboard a few more times than the university bureaucracy, who probably couldn't do anything for a couple weeks anyways. Definitely something I'll ask about if I'm in that situation again.


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30 Mar 2019, 12:33 am

Antrax wrote:
shortfatbalduglyman wrote:
What "battles"?


We all have our struggles big and small. For me:
Big: Suffering from crippling anxiety that robbed me of literally everything before medication and therapy got it under control.
Small: I have to give a discussion section for the class I TA with a stupid chalkboard. The sound of chalk on a chalk board is quite painful for me, and it takes me 5 times as long to write anything on a chalkboard relative to a white board as I frequently have to rest. I show up an hour early to take my time writing out all the notes for the students on the chalkboard, so I don't have to write on that chalkboard in real time. It's a small thing, but god how I hate that chalkboard. I don't know what your struggles are, but I guarantee you've conquered some of them. Remember the things you've conquered.

dumbish question but i gotta ask it- do you think it would help your chalkboard difficulties at least from a sensory viewpoint, if you wore ear buds piping in white or pink noise to block out at least the scraping sound of the chalk on the board?



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30 Mar 2019, 4:19 pm

auntblabby wrote:
Antrax wrote:
shortfatbalduglyman wrote:
What "battles"?


We all have our struggles big and small. For me:
Big: Suffering from crippling anxiety that robbed me of literally everything before medication and therapy got it under control.
Small: I have to give a discussion section for the class I TA with a stupid chalkboard. The sound of chalk on a chalk board is quite painful for me, and it takes me 5 times as long to write anything on a chalkboard relative to a white board as I frequently have to rest. I show up an hour early to take my time writing out all the notes for the students on the chalkboard, so I don't have to write on that chalkboard in real time. It's a small thing, but god how I hate that chalkboard. I don't know what your struggles are, but I guarantee you've conquered some of them. Remember the things you've conquered.

dumbish question but i gotta ask it- do you think it would help your chalkboard difficulties at least from a sensory viewpoint, if you wore ear buds piping in white or pink noise to block out at least the scraping sound of the chalk on the board?


Given that I hate having in-ear ear buds no. I might go with over the ear headphones though.


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30 Mar 2019, 8:48 pm

And what is the definition of "won"?

If you get everything you want, or just partial

And many of the battles that I "won" had negligible or ephemeral results

Relative to the battles that I lost

It was like, the reward for a won battle was ice cream


The punishment for a lost battle is, :lol: incite a riot :D



Subject to imagination


:ninja: :D


For example, former aikido instructor ozben felek had the nerve to bring her dog into the building. And I was screaming. The stupid b***h had the nerve to ask "(name), are you ok?". Like she had never done anything wrong before in her life. :cry: she put the dog in her car. And she apologized three times.

But she did that :x as a personal favor :ninja: . There was no "battles" that I "won".

Leash Law


So that was not a "battles" that I "won".

Even though the result was in my favor


There was no battles.

There should not have had to be a battles


Leash Law


Then the stupid b***h acted like she did me a personal favor by putting it in the car

After asking me if I was afraid of dogs and telling me that it was friendly or some other meaningless BS



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30 Mar 2019, 9:26 pm

shortfatbalduglyman wrote:
And what is the definition of "won"?

If you get everything you want, or just partial

And many of the battles that I "won" had negligible or ephemeral results

Relative to the battles that I lost

It was like, the reward for a won battle was ice cream


The punishment for a lost battle is, :lol: incite a riot :D



Subject to imagination


:ninja: :D


For example, former aikido instructor ozben felek had the nerve to bring her dog into the building. And I was screaming. The stupid b***h had the nerve to ask "(name), are you ok?". Like she had never done anything wrong before in her life. :cry: she put the dog in her car. And she apologized three times.

But she did that :x as a personal favor :ninja: . There was no "battles" that I "won".

Leash Law


So that was not a "battles" that I "won".

Even though the result was in my favor


There was no battles.

There should not have had to be a battles


Leash Law


Then the stupid b***h acted like she did me a personal favor by putting it in the car

After asking me if I was afraid of dogs and telling me that it was friendly or some other meaningless BS


You're going to have to define winning for yourself, but I would describe it as anytime you have overcome a challenge. I do not believe you have never overcome challenges in your life. I haven't seen enough of your posts to know what you have or have not overcome.

Going back to my chalkboard example, I consider it a win when I get the full notes written on the chalkboard before class. It took me an hour, but I got it done. I actually would not consider getting the school to accommodate me by moving my discussion section to a room with a whiteboard a "battle won" so much as a "battle avoided."


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