Board index › Coping in life › The Haven

Any aspies that live on their own

Page 2 of 2 [ 25 posts ]  Go to page Previous  1, 2

Previous topic | Next topic

BTDT
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 26 Jul 2010
Age: 63
Gender: Non-binary
Posts: 8,489

11 May 2019, 12:29 pm

When I lived in an apartment with stairs I'd buy groceries twice a week,.



Sarahsmith
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 14 Feb 2017
Gender: Female
Posts: 1,926
Location: Canada

11 May 2019, 12:48 pm

I guess I could go weekly. I have a few things with weels now that can carry lots of groceries. Its hard for me to save money though. I think I could do it. Maybe. :)



Goob234
Tufted Titmouse
Tufted Titmouse

Joined: 1 May 2019
Gender: Female
Posts: 40
Location: Athens, GA

11 May 2019, 6:31 pm

I live on my own and am still nervous about it. I mean I can get my groceries and I have my own car now. I have been going to school for a long time partly to avoid going out into the "real world". I graduate next year and am so nervous about getting a job and finding housing that is not student housing. I am 27 and mostly lived with my mom/grandparents up until 2 years ago because I went to grad school on the other side of the country. The longer I live by myself (aside from roommates) the more I like it.
I guess the best thing I can say in response to this topic is just go for it and start small like maybe renting a room close to home from someone.


_________________
Do what you love and love what you do.

neurodiverse (Aspie) score: 148 of 200
neurotypical (non-autistic) score: 72 of 200
You are very likely neurodiverse (Aspie)
AQ test- 37


breaks0
Velociraptor
Velociraptor

Joined: 8 Jul 2018
Age: 53
Gender: Male
Posts: 426
Location: New York

11 May 2019, 6:53 pm

Fireblossom wrote:
Sarahsmith wrote:
I can walk to the grocery store but its on the way back with all the groceries I need help with. I like to buy enough to last me the month so I dont have to make multiple trips.


I see... personally, I use one of those bags with wheels that I can just drag behind me. Makes grocery shopping a lot easier... could you try that too and go shopping a bit more often? You wouldn't need to worry about getting a ride... Or is it simply too overwhelming to go, say, weekly? Or every two weeks?


Maybe it partly depends on one's age/health, I dunno. I go twice/week so I don't need more than a bag or two at any given time.



dyadiccounterpoint
Velociraptor
Velociraptor

User avatar

Joined: 31 Jan 2019
Age: 35
Gender: Female
Posts: 464
Location: Nashville

11 May 2019, 9:21 pm

I only reached a point of true independence (having employment paying market rate rent) within the last couple months. I lost the sort of individuals who would do supporting early in my adulthood and have been surviving chaotically. It has been excessively stressful. There's no social safety net. There's no family to run home to asking for support and there hasn't been for many years. I have a lot of difficult thoughts as it relates to these experiences.

I'm quite grateful for those from whom I did receive support. There were some who helped me avoid the worst outcomes and intervened at critical moments for my wellbeing. They were more or less random people. I'm glad such kindness exists.


_________________
We seldom realize, for example, that our most private thoughts and emotions are not actually our own. For we think in terms of languages and images which we did not invent, but which were given to us by our society - Alan Watts


Fireblossom
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 18 Jan 2017
Gender: Female
Posts: 3,588

12 May 2019, 3:39 am

Sarahsmith wrote:
I guess I could go weekly. I have a few things with weels now that can carry lots of groceries. Its hard for me to save money though. I think I could do it. Maybe. :)


Will make things a lot easier if you can. It's also good to have some food that doesn't go bad for a long time (porridge, noodels etc.) stored at your place in case you feel too overwhelmed to go shopping at some point. That way you won't have to worry about going hungry.



auntblabby
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 12 Feb 2010
Gender: Male
Posts: 115,231
Location: the island of defective toy santas

12 May 2019, 4:12 am

lived on my own since early 20s. dearly wishing all that time for a companion. oh well. from my late 20s to my late 40s i was my folks' caretaker until they passed. then alone again.



BTDT
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 26 Jul 2010
Age: 63
Gender: Non-binary
Posts: 8,489

12 May 2019, 11:48 am

I save a lot of money by shopping frequently and buying stuff that is on sale or discounted heavily. Candy always goes on sale after major holidays. Easter, Christmas, Valentines Day. Just bought two boxes of chocolate. Two for one sale.



Sarahsmith
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 14 Feb 2017
Gender: Female
Posts: 1,926
Location: Canada

12 May 2019, 11:54 am

The boarding house I live in now used to be a group home. I found an old list of rules on the dining room door. Most of them didnt look bad. But then one of them was scheduled shower times. That would really bug me and not make me want to live in a group home. I emailed my coordinator and asked if we would have scheduled shower times. Hopefully she will get back to me on monday.