06 Aug 2019, 7:04 am
IsabellaLinton wrote:
I just saw this. I'm sending you empathy and understanding, along with my hugs. Like you, I'm not a thread starter ... so I can imagine how you must be feeling. Feel free to use all of the spoons from my burnout thread in April, when I felt the same and you were very supportive of me. It's OK to feel melancholy and to need processing time when unwanted emotions strike. Please feel confident that you have a league of friends here, and that 'this too shall pass'.
Hugs to Dexter, too!
Hugs to Dexter, too!
Thank you again Isabella, you're always lovely and kind. You know I always appreciate your support and presence here
Little Dex aspires to become a yogi kitty
06 Aug 2019, 7:07 am
06 Aug 2019, 7:07 am
06 Aug 2019, 7:08 am
Misslizard wrote:
Guilt is an extra burden depression piles on us.We shouldn’t feel it because it’s not our fault we get down, it’s an illness.But we do anyway, what an awful cycle.
I always felt like the depression was like being caught in an undertow.Hold your breath long enough and you pop back up to the surface.
Hope you feel more cheerful soon.
I always felt like the depression was like being caught in an undertow.Hold your breath long enough and you pop back up to the surface.
Hope you feel more cheerful soon.
Spot on, you get it. My rational mind knows all this too well, but when it gets really bad, reason loses its power and you sink - at least for a while - in the darkness.
Thank you Misslizard, I always appreciated your wisdom and humour and you've been very helpful and kind to me (and others) in the past too
06 Aug 2019, 7:09 am
blazingstar wrote:
I just saw this. I am sorry you are feeling down and then feeling guilty about it. As other posters have said, I hope you feel better soon and can get rid of the guilt.
If it makes you feel any better (and if it doesn't, just disregard), learning to accept help from others without feeling guilt, is another developmental stage adults benefit from attempting to achieve.
If it makes you feel any better (and if it doesn't, just disregard), learning to accept help from others without feeling guilt, is another developmental stage adults benefit from attempting to achieve.
Yes, that's also a big part of it. If people help me, I feel a kind of obligation to be happy, then feel guilty because I'm not.
And thank you too, blazingstar, I don't' think we had that many exchanges on the forum, but I always enjoy reading your posts
06 Aug 2019, 7:10 am
smudge wrote:
Well if you feel like sharing your wealth with me I think that may make you feel a little bit better. 
Hmm... lemme see, how about I put you in my will?
06 Aug 2019, 8:16 am
I somehow overlooked the thread earlier...
Bender, your wife is right: it's great that you asked for something. Also here. If it was hard for you, then it's something to be proud of, not guilty about. Use the Heaven more freely, really
My best wishes for you, hope you will deal better with unpredictability of life now.
06 Aug 2019, 2:01 pm
06 Aug 2019, 7:45 pm
BenderRodriguez wrote:
IsabellaLinton wrote:
I'm thinking of you, Bender.
Breathe, relax, stim, and be kind to yourself. Don't worry about being verbal or explaining yourself. Just rest.
Breathe, relax, stim, and be kind to yourself. Don't worry about being verbal or explaining yourself. Just rest.
Gracious Isabella, that's exactly what I ended up doing. For once, I opened my mouth and asked for help - the next day after my post I just asked my wife if she can drop everything and go away with me for a few days, and of course she said yes. And she was really happy that - in her words - for once I actually asked for something
The time we spend together, just the two of us, away from our regular life, always has a revigorating effect on me and I feel now better rested, calmer and more prepared to make changes with a clear head instead of getting overwhelmed by anxiety and spinning in my head.How wonderful!
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