I'm so lonely

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Actually there is no ‘dine in’ right now.
All outside tent dining, or delivery, or pick up.
Grubhub and DoorDash are sooooo busy!
Also, restaurant hours have been shortened.

In my area there is dine in for the most part. The hours shortening goes for malls and big stores as well. That part I don’t understand.

Have you thought of joining Facebook?
There is bound to be someone who shares your interests.

I have a Facebook and, do you mean FB dating? I've tried that too. This past weekend I got a like and when I tried to start a conversation, she seemed disinterested.

I guess I could send a friend request to a girl that catches my attention at some point.

Why not just have friends on Facebook, people to chat with, share opinions, etc.

How are you doing?

I'm doing a bit better, actually even though nothing has really changed. I find some comfort in knowing that I have many years ahead where I can make new friends and/or find a significant other and that there's a lot of people who's life is as basic and boring as mine currently is. I am going to Nashville, TN next month for 6 days and my dad and his girlfriend will be getting married there. That at least gives me something to look forward to. I hope that someday I can find happiness.

Sounds like you need to get comfortable with and appreciate your own company a bit more. Driving around solo shouldn’t be so depressing. Listen to music, sight see, run errands, go explore some place you’ve never been etc.

For myself, all of that is made even better recently being on two wheels w/ no radio/music - just being hyper aware of my immediate surroundings And enjoying the scenery - it’s a different view of the mountains and sky from a motorcycle helmet vs what’s cut off by a car roof & pillars. I’m lucky to live in one of the most scenic places on the planet, too. But even in my car - driving around listening to music & rowing through the gears = quite enjoyable solitude.

I have many friends and family I can pop in and visit or message or whatever, but I tend to almost always just go to Wreck Beach after work and on days off just to hangout in such a beautiful place w/ any number of the regular bunch of yahoos. During the summer there are thousands of people down there. So many of us all know each other - age ranging from young 20’s to like 70’s/80’s w/ so many different sub cultures. You don’t live near me or I’d tell ya to go there lol but my point is there’s gotta be a “come as you are,” kind of local hangout place w/ a community of people that you can just start hanging around and meeting people at. Then you’ve always got a place to go and various random people to socialize with. For lots of people that place is their local pub, but for me the beach is infinitely superior in every way. Where’s your local hangout place?

Also, why are you looking to meet up and hangout with ppl right now smack in the middle of a raging pandemic? This is a time to stay home, play video games, read books, work out, go for solo drives etc not gather in groups - especially indoors during cold & flu season when people’s immune systems are suppressed.

Very, very true.
However, so many of us are scared and bewildered by the chaos all around us that we really, really need someone to talk to.
WP and other sites are good company and there are lots of interesting people to communicate with, BUT these times are getting so scary, many of us feel a strong need for face to face human contact.
And that is just what we are denied.
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Always get the girl's number first. Don't message immediately either. You get the number to establish frame and control, you don't message right away for similar reasons. Trust me.

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i'm not worried about not meeting people f2f, they are spared my lack of model-perfect presentation.

I hear you and many other people here who have shared a similar sentiment. It is not usually an encouraged subject to talk about openly, but I am also most definitely feeling the weight of loneliness. I also feel like I am coming across like a much more exceptionally strange person when I do go out into this brave new world.

i suspect i am exceptionally well-suited for being alone.

Me, too.
Didn’t use to bother me, but lately, I AM LONELY!
The world has become a scary place, and this ‘Vaccine is just around the corner’ is getting OLD!!

There's no pandemic in your area, OP? You're talking as if the world is in normal state.

I don't think I trust this vaccine, not much time invested to know long term risks involved. Don't think I would get vaccinated. I know what you mean about the loneliness, though I speak with people all day long virtually, the lack of human contact is sorely missed.